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This episode is running experiments, listener! Carson Olshansky (they/them) is a fantastic stand-up comedian, writer, and creator that you’ve seen blowing up your social media feeds, but today they’re in the apartment to fingerblast you so accurately you’ll scream “Eureka!” We discuss a/b testing the best finger for bangin’, finding sexual compatibility, dating mascs with a complicated identity, and having LEGITIMATE trauma from Jimmy Buffet’s “Margaritaville.” Ashley gets boob-honked HARD. Lizzy’s anniversary is nearly ruined.  FOLLOW CARSON OLSHANSKY: Join their Substack, “Review Mode”: ⁠https://reviewmode.substack.com/⁠   Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/carsonolshansky/⁠  TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@carsonolshansky⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/carsonolshansky⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@carson-olshansky⁠  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/ashgavs⁠ Tour Dates & Newsletter: ⁠https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates⁠ FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/lizzaster⁠  Tour Dates & Podcasts: ⁠https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy⁠  PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/⁠   SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/WHGS⁠ Merch: ⁠https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin⁠ Watch on this YouTube: ⁠https://youtu.be/wqBVoq6kSD4⁠  ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 27% OFF sitewide at ⁠https://helixsleep.com/gaysex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is breaking new ground, listener! Vico Ortiz (HBO Max, Adventure Time) is an enchanting Puerto Rican drag king, actor, and activist that is pushing boundaries in the media, but today they’re in the apartment to pop our drag king cherry! In addition, all of our usual co-hosts are tied up, away, or sick, so Ashley’s girlfriend Jen Davis fills in as our temporary co-host! We discuss polyamory, relationship anarchy, decolonizing your life, tricking straights into reading queer smut, and being in a queer relationship with Mother Gaia. Ashley gets hit on by a man. Jen ruins a straight girl.   FOLLOW VICO ORTIZ: Join their Substack: https://ortizv.substack.com/  See their performances: https://www.youtube.com/@Vico_Patreon_BoriQueerProd  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/puertoricaninja/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vico_ortiz  Twitter: https://x.com/V_Vico_Ortiz  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW JEN DAVIS @jenparkerdavis TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jenparkerdavis  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenparkerdavis/  PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/   SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/susjd2EGOow  ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 20% OFF sitewide at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is saying all the wrong things, listener! Yvette Segan is a fan-favorite stand up comedian, actor, writer, and podcaster with over 400k followers across all platforms from her hilarious videos. However, today she RETURNS to the apartment because she’s finally in a queer relationship — she's dating a bisexual man! We discuss queerness in straight-passing relationships, being so in love that you’re writing poetry (gay), dating vs. self worth, and making dated assumptions about queers that we will NOT edit out of the pod. Ashley and Jen’s parents finally meet for the first time. Lizzy spreads vicious gay rumors about her uncle. FOLLOW YVETTE SEGAN: Listen to her podcast, "Friend Crush,” right now:  - https://www.youtube.com/@FriendCrushPodcast  - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/friend-crush-with-yvette/id1819272413  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@yevit  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yvettesegan/  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/  Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster  Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy  PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/   SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/YMKhxspHxuE  ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: FACTOR: Get 50% OFF your 1st box + FREE breakfast for one year with code “gay50off” at https://www.factormeals.com/gay50off  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy Holidays, Bottoms! To celebrate everything you have done for us, enjoy this special highlight reel of some of the best moments from our Patreon bonus series, “You’re Having Gay Sex,” where we read and react to stories submitted by you! In addition, Ashley gives an extra long holiday message, answering some of your gayest questions about the holidays. Gather round your chosen family and get ready for some of YOUR most hilarious moments! Want even more bonus? SUPPORT THE PODCAST: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/k2lrdRBczOM  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW MADDIE WIENER @maddietwiener TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@maddietwiener Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maddietwiener/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@maddietwiener Twitter: https://twitter.com/maddietwiener Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://punchup.live/maddiewiener  FOLLOW KYLIE VINCENT @kylievincentthefirst TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kylievincenthasrisen  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylievincenthasrisen/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kylievincent5189  Tour Dates: https://www.kylierosevincent.com/  FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/  Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster  Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy  PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is risking it all, listener! Brandon Rogers is a massive queer actor, content creator, and comedian that’s had you laughing on everything, from YouTube sketches to shows like “Helluva Boss.” However, today he’s in the apartment to have you GASPING from the situations he has put himself in! We discuss your first time having gay sex getting interrupted by your partner’s family walking in, acting, representation, the depth & beauty of queer characters, and interior design. Ashley almost gets arrested. Lizzy lives in the queer underground. FOLLOW BRANDON ROGERS: Watch his content on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BrandonRogers  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@brandonrogers  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonbored/  Twitter/X: https://x.com/hotbananastud  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/  Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster  Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy  PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/   SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/k2lrdRBczOM  ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: MINT MOBILE: Shop Mint Unlimited Plans at https://www.mintmobile.com/gay  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is flirty, listener! Catherine McCafferty is an enchanting actor, stand-up, podcaster, and host of the hit internet series “Pretty Gay,” but today she’s phoning into the apartment to make Ashley malfunction! In addition, beloved co-host Breanne Williamson joins us from the great North! We discuss crying because of a bad hookup, your friends stealing your bed, sexting, how to flirt with gorgeous gay women, and wanting nothing more than to be so good in bed that you ruin lives. Ashley tries sexting her GF. Breanne gets “whiskey strap.”  FOLLOW CATHERINE MCCAFFERTY: Subscribe to her show, “Pretty Gay”: https://www.patreon.com/PrettyGay Watch the clips: https://www.youtube.com/@PrettyGayShow  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@catherine_mccaff  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catherine_mccaff/  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW BREANNE WILLIAMSON @breannewilliamson TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breannewilliamson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breannewilliamson/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/BreanneWilliamson Twitter: https://twitter.com/brewilliamson Live Events & Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/9777d57c18fb/breannewilliamson PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/   SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/MsGkYyzqBSI  ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 25% OFF sitewide at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is taking its time, listener! Freddie Shanel (they/them) is an absolutely hilarious up-and-coming comedian whose work you’ve seen on your TikTok feed or Reductress, but today they’re in the apartment to work on shedding their long-time gay virginity! We discuss being a late bloomer in queer sex, how awkward your first time can be, the appropriate grammatical usage of neo-pronouns, and how Freddie’s girlfriend has been a WHGS fan since DAY ONE! Ashley bangs a pure lesbian. Lizzy doesn’t come out to her family. FOLLOW FREDDIE SHANEL Tour Dates: https://www.freddieshanel.com/standup  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freddieshanel  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freddie.shanel1/  Twitter: https://x.com/freddie_shanel  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW LIZZY CASSIDY @lizzycassidy TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzycassidycomedy  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizzycassidy/  Twitter: https://x.com/lizzaster  Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/lizzycassidy  SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/o9r0i_LLpgk  PRODUCED BY ALEX VRAHAS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alvrahas/  ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 25% OFF sitewide at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex  HELLO FRESH: Get 10 FREE meals + FREE breakfast for LIFE at https://www.hellofresh.com/gay10fm  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is a MILESTONE, listener! To celebrate the 300th episode of WHGS, we are joined by beloved co-host and dear friend Ali Kolbert to bring things full circle: this podcast started alongside Ashley’s relationship with Jen, so it’s only right that we have another life milestone alongside an episode milestone! We strategize how Ashley should propose to her girlfriend, and even manage to fit in discussions about relationship mementos, intimacy kink, shadow work, boob reductions, and the powerful will-they-won’t-they of lesbian relationships. Enjoy, and thanks for all of your support through 300 EPISODES OF WHGS!!! FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW ALI KOLBERT @alikolbert TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alikolbert  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alikolbert/  Twitter: https://x.com/alikolbert  Tour Dates & Podcasts: https://www.alikolbert.com/shows  SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/YiGHfBcsyaM PRODUCED BY SWETSHOP: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swetshop.tv/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is in Simlish, listener! Chloe Moriondo is an incredible singer-songwriter with over 1M monthly listeners, collabs with queer legends, and even music in THE SIMS, but today she’s in the apartment to play her music in your boomBOX (if you catch my drift). In addition, Kylie Vincent is joining us on a quick trip back from LA! We discuss song-writing, making music for The Sims, the internet, coming out as queer when young, and playing with ALL the pronouns in your gender presentation. Ashley fights to stay in the closet. Kylie hypes herself up with queer pop.  FOLLOW CHLOE MORIONDO: Pre-Save her upcoming deluxe album: https://open.spotify.com/prerelease/2DZbIBMjir1dZbkelGGSUg  Attend her album release party: https://www.ticketweb.com/event/chloe-moriondo-dj-set-night-club-101-tickets/14678143  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chloemoriondo/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chloemoriondo54  Twitter: https://x.com/kidzwithbugz  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs Tour Dates & Newsletter: https://www.ashleygavin.com/#dates FOLLOW KYLIE VINCENT @kylievincentthefirst TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kylievincenthasrisen  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylievincenthasrisen/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kylievincent5189  Tour Dates: https://www.kylierosevincent.com/  SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/qsjR8MHIlQg  PRODUCED BY SWETSHOP: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swetshop.tv/ ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: MINT MOBILE: Get premium wireless for $15/month at https://www.mintmobile.com/gay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is queer history, listener! Gabe Dunn is an iconic writer, podcaster, and filmmaker that has pioneered queer content since the days of Buzzfeed Video, but today he’s in the apartment to break down the most iconic lesbian hookup in internet history! We discuss Gabe’s fabled hookup with Stevie Boebi and Anna Akana many years ago, activism in the modern age, how to fight back against an administration hostile to queer people, and the various problems within the queer community that are holding us back. Ashley dates an actor. Bre is a voyeur in hotels.  FOLLOW GABE: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabesdunn/  Follow his incredible Substack: https://athousandnaturalshocks.substack.com/  Listen to “A Thousand Natural Shocks” wherever you listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-thousand-natural-shocks-with-gabe-s-dunn/id1144712710  https://www.youtube.com/@gabesdunn/videos  Listen to “Just Between Us” wherever you listen: https://www.youtube.com/@JustBetweenUs  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-between-us/id1707127144  FOLLOW ASHLEY GAVIN @ashgavs TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashgavscomedy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgavs/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashgavs FOLLOW BREANNE WILLIAMSON @breannewilliamson TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breannewilliamson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breannewilliamson/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/BreanneWilliamson Twitter: https://twitter.com/brewilliamson Live Events & Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/9777d57c18fb/breannewilliamson SUPPORT OUR PODCAST: Watch this UNCUT: https://www.patreon.com/WHGS Merch: https://shop.merchcentral.com/collections/ashley-gavin Watch on this YouTube: https://youtu.be/rVC_8aYY3C0  PRODUCED BY SWETSHOP: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/swetshop.tv/ ______________________________________________ SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: HELIX: Get 25% OFF sitewide at https://helixsleep.com/gaysex  BBOUTIQUE: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/werehavinggaysex-podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices