The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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Oct 6, 2017 • 25min
043 SelfWork: When Friendships End
Friends. They’re often your “family of choice.” They can be wonderfully satisfying, intellectually challenging, and just plain fun. But what happens when one friend backs out of the friendship? How do you understand it, grieve the loss and move on? Dr. Margaret speaks again of her own experience with being “ghosted” by a friend, and […] The post 043 SelfWork: When Friendships End appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 28, 2017 • 22min
042 SelfWork: How To Fall Back In Love (Or Make Sure You Stay)
“I’m not in love with you anymore.” These are words that can bring pain, confusion — a total feeling of rejection and emotional abandonment. How do couples try to prevent this from happening? What do you need to do to stay connected and committed? What’s the one question you heed to ask yourself? Dr. Margaret […] The post 042 SelfWork: How To Fall Back In Love (Or Make Sure You Stay) appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 21, 2017 • 25min
041 SelfWork: Making “Long Distance Love” Work
Loving “long distance” is something that many people have to learn how to do. Whether you live far away from parents, your partner, your children or great friends, maintaining that relationship can require understanding, flexibility and other significant personal skills. Dr. Margaret tells her personal story of living away from loved ones, both as a […] The post 041 SelfWork: Making “Long Distance Love” Work appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 15, 2017 • 23min
040 SelfWork: Depression, Suicide And Your Cell Phone
The rate of suicide is increasing dramatically in the United States as well as internationally, both in teenagers and in midlife. As this is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month in the US, Dr. Margaret discusses this cultural shift, quoting the fascinating work of prominent researcher Jean Twenge who reports a relationship between the emergence of the […] The post 040 SelfWork: Depression, Suicide And Your Cell Phone appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 8, 2017 • 20min
039 SelfWork: The Unique Basic Needs Of Women And Men
There’s tremendous controversy about whether or not gender differences occur as a result of cultural influence or are they innate. What’s important for this podcast isn’t how they’re created, but what influence do they have on a couple’s communication? Dr. Margaret tells about her own observations in working with couples, and shares the ideas from […] The post 039 SelfWork: The Unique Basic Needs Of Women And Men appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Sep 1, 2017 • 23min
038 SelfWork: Kindness Matters
“When I sat down to record this morning, I could only think of the many tragedies, caused by humans and by nature, that have been occurring for the last few weeks and months. I felt paralyzed. What did what I might have to say matter? Then I remembered a stranger’s kindness, and I smiled.” Dr. Margaret tells […] The post 038 SelfWork: Kindness Matters appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 26, 2017 • 22min
037 SelfWork: How To Parent Well Together
Parenting. It’s hectic, Complicated. Fatiguing. Wonderful. Meaningful. Frightening. One would think that it would be easier with two people doing it, and it is in many ways. But you can get in battles about everything from who’s the better parent to who cares the most to who is the better disciplinarian. Dr. Margaret offers four […] The post 037 SelfWork: How To Parent Well Together appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 19, 2017 • 19min
036 SelfWork: The Shame No One Talks About After Sexual Abuse
In today’s podcast, Dr. Margaret talks about a certain type of shame that’s rarely revealed after sexual abuse. What is that shame? It’s the result of your body responding with arousal during the actual abuse itself. What’s vital to understand is that arousal doesn’t reflect consent — not in any way. Dr. Margaret describes conditions […] The post 036 SelfWork: The Shame No One Talks About After Sexual Abuse appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 14, 2017 • 20min
035 SelfWork: Four Steps To Heal From Parental Abuse
No one has a “say” in the kind of parents we had. Some are lucky, and have parents who loved them deeply and cared for them in a healthy way. Many are not so lucky, and have to deal with very painful memories, the emotions that stem from them, and how their present life may […] The post 035 SelfWork: Four Steps To Heal From Parental Abuse appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 12, 2017 • 20min
034 SelfWork : Divorce. How To “Get Along For The Kids’ Sake”
There is a huge difference between divorce with children, and divorce without children. Dr. Margaret offers nine practical and do-able choices to make when living out your divorced life, with shared children. “Getting along for the children’s sake” can lead to your children to survive the divorce and thrive in their lives, whereas a continuation […] The post 034 SelfWork : Divorce. How To “Get Along For The Kids’ Sake” appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
