The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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Apr 27, 2018 • 25min
073 SelfWork: Three Steps To Emotionally Get Control Of Yourself
Welcome to SelfWork! I’m talking about self-control today… especially emotional self-control. We won’t touch on addictions, although they obviously have to do with emotional self-control. We’re talking about in the realm of communication how to maintain self-control when you’re angry, or taken aback, afraid or surprised. There’s a simple mantra that can be helpful — […] The post 073 SelfWork: Three Steps To Emotionally Get Control Of Yourself appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 20, 2018 • 20min
072 SelfWork: The One Question To Ask Yourself If You Take Things Too Personally
Today’s podcast identifies the one question that you can ask yourself before you take things too personally. I’ve heard lots of couples bicker and fight over the twenty-five years I’ve been a therapist, and this question will save you from so many assumptions and misunderstandings. I’ll use an example when I actually followed my own […] The post 072 SelfWork: The One Question To Ask Yourself If You Take Things Too Personally appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 13, 2018 • 23min
071 SelfWork: The Disease of Perfectionism
Today’s topic is perfectionism. I call it a disease in the title because it can cause not only emotional and psychological problems when it’s out of control, but the stress of perfectionism can lead to illness and even suicide. I talked with a phenomenal expert on perfectionism last week, Dr. Gordon Flett, and I’ll have some […] The post 071 SelfWork: The Disease of Perfectionism appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Apr 6, 2018 • 21min
070 SelfWork: How To Love Someone Who Won’t Get Help
What do you do when you love someone who won’t get help for their depression or anxiety? This episode, sponsored by Audible.com, will focus on what my own research has found, and how we can talk about mental health treatment or therapy in a way that would make it far easier for men to consider. We’ll […] The post 070 SelfWork: How To Love Someone Who Won’t Get Help appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 30, 2018 • 19min
069 SelfWork: The Victim-Savior Relationship. How You Get In It and How You Get Out Of It
We’re going to be talking about healthy and not so healthy relationships today. Many relationships get their start with one person “saving” another. These are boundary-less relationship and they’re doomed for trouble. The victim gets tired of being the victim. The savior gets tired of not being appreciated for saving. Mark Manson, a blogger with […] The post 069 SelfWork: The Victim-Savior Relationship. How You Get In It and How You Get Out Of It appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 23, 2018 • 21min
068 SelfWork: How To Create A Family Of Choice
What is a family of choice? It’s a family you create with friends. Some of us don’t have families that we can count on in times of stress or need, or joy for that matter. Instead of staying bitter or lonely, I’ve come up with five “caveats” in finding people who would earn the right […] The post 068 SelfWork: How To Create A Family Of Choice appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 16, 2018 • 21min
067 SelfWork: Understanding Social Anxiety And The Fear Of Commitment
Social anxiety affects millions of Americans. Today I’m going to talk about how it may be affecting commitment, as well as how it’s affected by social media. When you get a FaceBook invitation or a “save the date” notice, do you automatically say, “It’s too much to think about,” or, “I don’t know who else is going,” or even, “I […] The post 067 SelfWork: Understanding Social Anxiety And The Fear Of Commitment appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 9, 2018 • 20min
066 SelfWork: Can Unconditional Love Be Used Up?
We all hear about unconditional love, especially when talking about how parents feel about their children. However, unconditional love can be worn out — used up. Even though today’s podcast focuses on healthy, “good enough” parents and self-destructive and manipulative children, you can apply this to any relationship, so listen in! (This dynamic can obviously […] The post 066 SelfWork: Can Unconditional Love Be Used Up? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Mar 2, 2018 • 16min
065 SelfWork: What I Learned About Bad Boys And Creating A Life I Liked
I created a lot of chaos in my life by being attracted to “bad boys,” men who were not interested in my own growth as a person, and who acted as if women couldn’t be trusted and that love wasn’t possible. I, like many women before me, decided to try to change a mind or […] The post 065 SelfWork: What I Learned About Bad Boys And Creating A Life I Liked appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Feb 23, 2018 • 19min
064 SelfWork: What Could Be Causing Your Procrastination?
Procrastination can be a huge problem, with shame over things not accomplished or put off being a problem between parents and children, husband and wives, or supervisors and employees. But there’s more than one reason why it’s happening, and understanding that reason can guide the way toward what you can do about it. Today we’ll […] The post 064 SelfWork: What Could Be Causing Your Procrastination? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
