The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
I'm Dr. Margaret, a psychologist for over 30 years, TEDx speaker, and the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression. I created The SelfWork Podcast in 2016 to explain mental health treatment and to give you the chance to consider therapy without thinking it's weird or that it somehow suggests you can't fix your own problems. My team is very honored that nine years later, SelfWork has earned nearly 5 million downloads! Each episode features the popular listener question as well as interviews with outstanding guests, authors, and experts, adding to the wide diversity of topics listeners so appreciate. Regularly rated as one of the top mental health/depression podcasts out there (ranked as a top .5% internationally) I keep it short, casual, and focused on "what you can do about it." I'd love to hear from you. Please join me.
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Sep 7, 2018 • 26min
093 SelfWork: A Second Betrayal: When You Say #MeToo and You Get Hurt Again
It’s a huge risk to reveal sexual abuse. A second betrayal occurs when you say “MeToo” and you’re not believed, it’s ignored or somehow you’re hurt all over again. Fearing this is what keeps many people from revealing what happened either years ago or in this very moment. Here are real people’s stories about what […] The post 093 SelfWork: A Second Betrayal: When You Say #MeToo and You Get Hurt Again appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 31, 2018 • 29min
092 SelfWork: Talking Mental Health on The Mighty with Editor Sarah Schuster
The Mighty is a terrific website that offers a place for everyone who struggles with a physical or mental illness, no matter how rare or chronic, to share their experience. You don’t just read information. You can hear a very personal story that helps you better understand someone you love who’s suffering, or gives you […] The post 092 SelfWork: Talking Mental Health on The Mighty with Editor Sarah Schuster appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 24, 2018 • 22min
091 SelfWork: Healing Shame Through Mindfulness
Today we’re talking about mindfulness and how to use this practice to address your own tendencies toward shame and perfectionism. This episode is sponsored by Audible.com and there’s a free trial offer for you today! What exactly is the difference between experiencing shame (or any emotion for that matter…) and being mindful of that emotion? […] The post 091 SelfWork: Healing Shame Through Mindfulness appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 17, 2018 • 34min
090 SelfWork: Living Through the Unthinkable Death of A Child
“You know the second that it happens, you feel your heart rip open and you know that everything’s changed and you’re just never the same again. And so… we call it a rebuilding. You spend your time rebuilding your life after the death of your child because the life you knew beforehand is gone,” […] The post 090 SelfWork: Living Through the Unthinkable Death of A Child appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 10, 2018 • 23min
089 SelfWork: How To Let Go and Fill Your Empty Nest
The empty nest. It’s what some parents dread while others are counting down the days. This podcast is definitely for that first group and might give some good ideas to those that are delighting in their new freedoms. Learning new purpose, finding a fresh passion, letting go and realizing you won’t know your now grown […] The post 089 SelfWork: How To Let Go and Fill Your Empty Nest appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Aug 3, 2018 • 26min
088 SelfWork: How to Handle the Loneliness of Grief and Loss
I’ve never talked to anyone who was dealing with grief and loss that didn’t feel lonely in that grief. Whether it’s a death, an illness, divorce, coping with the drug addiction of a loved one, whether it’s sudden or long-lived loss, you’re walking much of that path by yourself. You may have faith that guides […] The post 088 SelfWork: How to Handle the Loneliness of Grief and Loss appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 27, 2018 • 26min
087 SelfWork: Five Ways to Keep The Fun In Social Media And Avoid Its Pitfalls
We all know that advertising always makes things look better than they actually are. What happens however when you’re on social media – Facebook or Instagram? Is it fun for you or do you get depressed? Do you believe everything you see? We’re talking today about how to have fun and enjoy the benefits of […] The post 087 SelfWork: Five Ways to Keep The Fun In Social Media And Avoid Its Pitfalls appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 20, 2018 • 24min
086 SelfWork: When You Can Never Be Enough — Loving Someone with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)
I’ll be talking about borderline personality disorder today and of the exhaustion and guilt that someone who’s trying to love then can feel. You’ll rarely if ever be enough due to their immense and irrational fears of abandonment. I’ll offer nine ways to try to ease that guilt — […] The post 086 SelfWork: When You Can Never Be Enough — Loving Someone with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 13, 2018 • 22min
085 SelfWork: Six Hurdles to Confronting Perfectionism and Perfectly Hidden Depression
Perfectionism is one of the chief traits of Perfectly Hidden Depression. We’re going to be talking about confronting perfectionism – the first thing is to realize you’re not going to do it perfectly. I’ll share other important hurdles to recognize as you begin the difficult task of undoing a perfectionistic streak in yourself that only […] The post 085 SelfWork: Six Hurdles to Confronting Perfectionism and Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
Jul 6, 2018 • 26min
084 SelfWork: What Bipolar Disorder Is And What It Isn’t
Bipolar disorder is a mental illness many people don’t understand and can be difficult to diagnose. Being moody is one thing. But being bipolar means your emotions can swing from high to low, with no apparent (and that’s an important word) reason for them doing so. Discovering how to manage bipolar is key to living […] The post 084 SelfWork: What Bipolar Disorder Is And What It Isn’t appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
