The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist and intimacy expert Dr. Toni Baer. We dive into sexual identity, fantasies, and the power of secrets in relationships. Dr. Toni shares how her personal journey—from high school teacher to sexologist—was shaped by a deeply personal family tragedy that ignited her passion for helping others embrace their desires and navigate sexual identity. Along the way, we explore common sexual fantasies, why some are better left unspoken, and how privacy and consent shape intimate conversations. Dr. Toni also reveals how secrets can create stress in relationships offering guidance on how to balance openness with discretion. From cultural perspectives on sexuality to vetting within kink and polyamorous communities, this conversation sheds light on how our different backgrounds can shape different desires. Dr. Toni also teases her upcoming TV show, The Voyage of Desire, offering a global look at human passion. Listen in to discover how understanding your fantasies—and the role of secrets in your life—can lead to deeper intimacy and greater self-acceptance. Tune in wherever you listen to podcasts, and don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review! Connect with Dr Toni Website - https://www.tonibearedd.com/ Free Gift: Aphrodite's Love Secrets https://www.tonibearedd.com/opt-in Annual ReAwakening Women's Retreat in Costa Rica. https://www.tonibearedd.com/retreats Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Questions and Answers Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat

Ken Blackman, an International Sex and Intimacy Educator, shares his journey from Apple software engineer to relationship coach. He explores the complexities of jealousy in relationships, categorizing it and offering insights into overcoming it through self-awareness. Blackman discusses embracing organic growth in partnerships and navigating the dynamics of pleasure, emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding. He also highlights strategies to bridge the orgasm gap, fostering more fulfilling connections between partners.

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Certified Bondassage Trainer, Entrepreneur & Coach, Coco Williams who dives deep with us into the power of feminine energy, the art of flirting, and the journey of personal growth and healing. We talk about how subtle shifts in communication can significantly affect our interactions and relationships and the ways flirting can elevate your mood and energy while also exploring the nuances of flirting across different cultures and the cultural fears around it. Along the way, Coco opens up about her healing journey, including therapy, coaching, and self-reflection techniques all leading her to finding joy in femininity and the empowering aspects of sex work. Coco shares her unique coaching techniques and personal experiences, including stories about the powerful role of maintaining a high vibration to manifest your desires. Learn about the importance of human interaction and flirtation beyond the bedroom, and how embodying specific fantasies in marketing has brought Coco both joy and financial success. You won't want to miss Coco's powerful insights and tools to manifest your desires in this fun conversation! Connect with Coco Website - TheHeauxprenuer.com Twitter - https://x.com/theheauxprenuer Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theheauxprenuer/ Pinterest - SoWellMsBehaved Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sex Educator, Somatic Sex Therapist and Female Ejaculation Expert, Tallulah Sulis about empowering female sexuality, fostering better communication, and enhancing intimacy in relationships. As we talk, Tallulah shares a bit of her journey into somatic coaching as she learned the deep importance of nervous system regulation and discovered the concept of core erotic desires to deepen connection. Along the way, we chat about the value of slow seduction, the dynamics of initiating and responding partners, and how open, reciprocal communication can transform sexual experiences. This episode is absolutely packed with practical tools like "special attention dates" and "erotic mapping," giving you some very actionable steps to reduce pressure, explore desires, and cultivate a more fulfilling intimate life. Connect with Tallulah TherapyInBed.com Free Gift TherapyInBed.com *offering free 15 min phone consult Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I speak with the brilliant Neuroscientist, Best-Selling Author, Sex Therapist, & Licensed Psychotherapist Dr. Nan Wise. During this conversation, we dive into the fascinating and transformative topic of "The Neuroscience of Pleasure and Happiness," uncovering how our brains are beautifully designed for connection, joy, and emotional well-being. Along the way, Dr. Wise shares her inspiring journey from therapist to scientist, sparked by her deep curiosity about the powerful impact of pleasure on mental and emotional health. We also explore essential topics like overcoming sexual anxiety, fostering deeper, more authentic relationships, and navigating the challenges of our tech-driven world. Packed with wisdom and insight, this episode gives you some practical takeaways, including powerful exercises like "sensate focus" to reconnect with your body and mindfulness techniques to nurture more fulfilling, joyful connections in your life. Connect with Dr. Nan Author: Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding The Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life Website: https://askdoctornan.com Instatgram @AskDoctorNan Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode, I sit down with Certified Erotic Blueprints Coach and Somatic Sexological Bodyworker Ayce Kypton. Ayce shares his inspiring journey from growing up as a conservative, Republican Christian kid to living an erotically liberated lifestyle as a trans-masculine individual. Together, we explore his passion for somatic embodiment and reclaiming pleasure. Along the way, we dive into the importance of creating safe spaces—especially for LGBTQ individuals—to reconnect with their desires and express their needs openly. Ayce opens up about his personal journey of sexual self-discovery, revealing how approaches like the Erotic Blueprints and sexological bodywork helped shift his focus from pain to pleasure. Ayce teaches more about the five Erotic Blueprints and how they can enhance relationships and personal fulfillment. This conversation is packed with personal insights, practical advice, and a powerful reminder of the transformative impact of embracing pleasure without shame. Listen in on this engaging episode! Connect with Ayce https://www.aycekyptyn.com/somaticsexology Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ayce_kyptyn/ Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with holistic mental health pioneer, Annie Boheler. Annie introduces us to the concept of relationship anarchy– a uniquely refreshing approach to relationships that balances chaos and order, recognizing the full range of connections equally. Hear about the influence of drawing from her extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration. Annie's extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration influences how she views the range and styles of relationships and the varying factors that play an impactful role to our experiences of autonomy and intimacy. Along the way, we explore her insights on dealing with societal norms like monogamy, and the importance of consent and authentic communication while healing relationships. We also discuss the pervasive impacts of shame and information overload, and how to navigate modern challenges in our relationships. Throughout the conversation, Annie offers us actionable steps to enhance connection and cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Connect with Annie https://lovagesomatics.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewildingintimacy/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@wellnessgeneralist1318 Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Author & Polyamory Educator Kevin Patterson exploring the world of non-monogamy. During this conversation, we delve into the nuances of polyamory, debunking stereotypes, and discussing the importance of clear communication and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Kevin's personal experiences, from navigating long-term relationships to balancing family and social dynamics, offer valuable insights for anyone exploring life outside the bounds of monogamy. We also get into the challenges of balancing multiple relationship dynamics, maintaining personal interests, self-care and parenthood. Kevin speaks to race and representation in the polyamorous community, emphasizing that acknowledging racial differences can enrich our understanding of one another. Kevin's thoughtful approach to identity, power dynamics, and personal customization of relationships promises to be both enlightening and transformative. Whether you are polyamory-curious or poly-experienced, this conversation is rich with valuable tips and perspectives to nurture healthy polyamorous relationships and foster more inclusive communities. Connect with Kevin https://www.kevinapatterson.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/polyrolemodels Get the Books https://www.kevinapatterson.com/books Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with BDSM educator and creator of Dom Sub Living, Alesandra Madison. We delve into the dynamic world of Dom/Sub relationships, exploring how BDSM can be both healing and beneficial for partnership. Alesandra shares a bit of her journey into BDSM as a lifestyle, giving us some invaluable insights into the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and regular check-ins in maintaining healthy relationships. We talk about different styles of BDSM partnership, safety, finding partners, kink in modern culture and how to get started with BDSM. We also discuss the challenges of balancing a BDSM lifestyle with everyday responsibilities like family and finance. Alesandra tells about the importance of self-care rituals to stay aligned with one's role and gives us a glimpse into some of her personal practices. This conversation is chock full of tips and tidbits from talking to the kids about what they might discover to finding a BDSM partner and everything in between. Plus, Alesandra gives us a ton of resources from her free library on DomsubLiving.com, and gives us a sneak hint at her upcoming four-day challenge. Don't miss this enlightening conversation filled with practical advice and heartfelt stories to help you navigate your BDSM journey. Connect with Alesandra https://www.instagram.com/domsubliving/ Free Resource Library Domsubliving.com/free Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with Pamela Madsen, a true pioneer in women's sexual wellness and founder of the "Back to the Body Method." We dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence, self-love, and how women can reclaim their erotic energy for more than just sexual expression—as a vital force in all areas of life. Along the way, Pamela shares her journey, from her roots in the Bronx to creating immersive retreats in Joshua Tree that help women explore their bodies in safe, empowering environments. We talk about the holistic view of sexuality, where self-care, emotional wellness, and sexual health are all interconnected. Pamela tells us about her commitment to helping women embrace their full sexual selves. During this conversation, we explore the importance of sovereignty of all kinds and how reclaiming control over our lives begins with understanding and accepting our own sexuality. Join us for this candid conversation about how embracing erotic energy can lead to personal growth, confidence, and fulfillment. Connect with Pamela https://www.instagram.com/thepamelamadsen/ https://www.facebook.com/pamelalmadsen/ Learn about Back to the Body Retreats https://backtothebody.org/events?by=retreats Join the Newsletter https://back-to-the-body.mykajabi.com/newsletter Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborahhttps://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab