Restored: Helping Children of Divorce
Restored
Children of divorce are 2–3 times more likely to get divorced and are more likely to struggle with emotional problems, relationship issues, and bad habits. But those stats don’t get to write your story. If your parents’ divorce or family dysfunction left wounds you can’t always put into words, this show is for you.The Restored Podcast shares real stories and expert tips to heal the trauma, navigate family challenges, and build the healthy relationships you’ve always wanted.Ranked in the top 10% of all podcasts and #18 in the divorce category — the only one dedicated to children of divorce — listeners say it’s “more effective than 30 years of counseling.”You’re not doomed to repeat your family’s past. You can break the cycle, and we’re here to help you do it.
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Apr 27, 2023 • 1h 2min
#095: Healing Happens When We Ask for Help | Tanya Lyons
You feel broken. You want to heal. But you’re unwilling to ask for help.If that describes you, your ability to heal will be stifled. Nobody ever healed their broken leg without the help, knowledge, or experience of others. Healing only happens with the love and help of other people. In this episode, we discuss that and more as my guest shares :How it took 20 years for her to pursue counseling, but how she found healing thereWhy is it so difficult to talk about our parents’ divorce or broken family and what can we do about that?Why taking risks feels extra scary for people like us and what to do if you feel that fearBuy Tanya’s Book, Come Home LaughingJoin the Course WaitlistTake the My Broken Family AssessmentShownotes
Apr 16, 2023 • 1h 2min
#094: Are You Trying to Outrun Your Trauma?
How have you dealt with the trauma of your parents’ divorce or broken family? After enduring her parents’ divorce, her mom’s alcoholism, her dad’s absence, and her stepmom’s abuse, today’s guest tried to outrun her trauma through busyness, accomplishments, and perfectionism. Before long, she went from repressing her emotions and saying “I’m fine” to “I need help.” That began her healing, which we discuss, plus:How she doubted her ability to be a good wife and motherHow she grew up faster than her peers from intact families, making it difficult to relate to themWhen are anxiety or depression drugs necessary and when are they used inappropriately?Join the Course WaitlistTake the My Broken Family AssessmentShare Your StoryShownotes
Apr 1, 2023 • 32min
#093: Radio Interview: In Divorce, the Kids are Not Okay and Here’s Why
Two things we’ve learned about divorce from scientific studies and stories of people like us:Almost always, divorce is traumatic and damaging for the childrenThe effects are typically serious and long lastingIn this episode, you’ll hear a radio interview I did that elaborates on each point:How divorce is traumatic for the childrenThe specific pain and problems it brings into our livesA resource that you can use to navigate through the pain and problems and even find healingGet Free Chapters or Buy: It’s Not Your FaultJoin the Courses WaitlistShownotes
Mar 17, 2023 • 1h 1min
#092: Is Divorce Good or Bad for Children? | Katy Faust
Is divorce good or bad for children? There’s tons of confusion around that question. In this episode, speaker and author Katy Faust offers answers with clarity and tons of research. She also touches on:How does divorce affect the children?Is divorce really worse than the death of a parent? What do children need that marriage provides?How do you navigate speaking about your parents in a respectful yet honest way?What’s your advice to parents considering divorce?Buy Katy’s book: Them Before Us: Why We Need a Global Children's Rights MovementTake the assessmentShownotes
Mar 4, 2023 • 54min
#091: Infidelity: Healing from Your Spouse or Parent’s Affair | Dr. Christine Bacon
Feeling hopeless, our guest prayed for her husband to die. Earlier in their marriage, she cheated on him. Thankfully, they turned things around and they now have a beautiful marriage. In this episode, Dr. Christine Bacon vulnerably shares about her affair but especially about the restoration of her marriage. She even shares the formula she’s discovered for a happy marriage. She also offers advice and answers questions, such as:Why do people have affairs?Should parents tell their kids about the infidelity? What can a young person do to heal from their parent’s unfaithfulness?Buy Dr. Bacon’s book, Super Couples: A Formula for Extreme Happiness in MarriageTake the assessmentShownotes
Feb 16, 2023 • 44min
#090: How’s Your Parents’ Divorce or Broken Family Affecting You Today?
How is your parents’ divorce or your broken family affecting you today? If your answer is “I don’t really know” or you don’t understand the depth of it, you’re not alone. That’s actually very common. But in the words of one therapist, “When it comes to experiencing healing, naming how you’ve been harmed is about 70% of the battle.”In this episode, we unveil a new tool that will help you name and diagnose your brokenness, so you can heal it and build the life and relationships you desire. Take the assessmentShownotes
Feb 2, 2023 • 1h 8min
#089: How to Become Fit and Healthy | Dakota Lane
According to research, people like us from divorced or broken families are typically less physically healthy. If that describes you, or you simply want to become healthier, this episode will help. Fitness and nutrition coach Dakota Lane shares how the abuse and dysfunction in his family impacted his relationships and how he’s found healing. He also offers advice on how to become fit and healthy by answering questions such as:How much water should you drink every day?How much should you sleep?Is exercise or nutrition more important?If you have very little time to work out, what can you do? How do you stay motivated and disciplined?Hire Dakota or view his servicesFind a coach, counselor, or spiritual directorShownotes
Jan 19, 2023 • 48min
#088: How to Respond to Your Pain in a Heroic Way | William Scheremet
When William was in high school, his home was riddled with emotional pain and conflict. Eventually, his parents got divorced. That led to struggles in his relationships, especially with handling conflict and breaking up prematurely because he didn’t want to get hurt. But the pain didn’t end there. After suffering from neglect and severe bullying, William was involved in a horrible accident that left him severely injured. In this episode, he shares what happened and how his pain now has purpose. He offers advice to anyone suffering too.Visit William’s website or YouTube channelShownotes
Jan 5, 2023 • 45min
#087: A Special Operations Tactic to Stay Calm and Function under Stress | Tyler Morris
If there was a technique used by Special Operators (Navy SEALs, Rangers, Special Forces, etc), firefighters, paramedics, and high performing athletes to stay calm during stressful situations, think clearly, make the right decisions, and avoid overwhelm, would you want to know it? That’s what you’re going to learn in this episode from a firefighter and paramedic.Find a counselor, coach, or spiritual directorShownotes
Dec 20, 2022 • 32min
#086: The Best of 2022: Restored Podcast Highlights
In this episode, you'll hear six short highlight clips from the podcast in 2022. This episode, and the podcast as a whole, will help you heal and grow from the trauma of your parents’ divorce, separation, or broken marriage, so you can feel whole again and break the cycle of dysfunction and divorce in your own life. If you’re new to the podcast, this is the perfect way to sample our content and learn how it will help you. If you’re a longtime listener, this is the perfect episode to share with someone you know who needs to hear it.Thanks for listening! We do it for you.Restored’s WebsiteShownotes
