Restored: Helping Children of Divorce

For people like us from divorced and broken families, love and marriage can be extra scary. After my parents separated, I swore, “If this is where marriage leads, I want nothing to do with it.”But thankfully, love and marriage aren’t doomed to fail. Marriage isn’t easy, but it can be beautiful and joyful. More importantly, it can help you grow into a better, stronger, and more virtuous person. Today, we’re joined by a married couple to discuss all of that, plus:The struggles they’ve faced within their marriage, especially around unmet expectations and brokennessThe joy and beauty that they’ve experienced in their marriage and familyWhat topics you need to discuss before you get marriedListen to All Things Nueva: Apple, SpotifyFollow Michael & Rachel: Instagram, Facebook, InstagramGet the Free Guide: 7 Tips to Build Healthy Relationships and a Divorce-Proof MarriageVisit BlackstoneFilms.coShownotes

For many of us from divorced families, we unconsciously want our parents to resolve their problems and get back together. Even if that isn’t possible due to abuse or other extreme scenarios, we can’t help but want our family to be whole. Today’s guest felt that desire for his parents and family. In this episode, we discuss that and more:How anger, overeating, and lots of activities became his coping mechanismsHow his parents’ divorce has affected him differently in different chapters of his lifeHow much should parents tell their kids about the divorce?What he’s done to heal and grow, and how his life is better nowShare Your StoryVisit BlackStoneFilms.coView Restored’s ResourcesShownotes

At a young age, Jack learned he had an incurable disease. That naturally brought lots of physical and emotional pain into his life. But through that suffering, the lessons he learned and the transformation he experienced led him to say, “The thing I wish most never happened, I am most grateful for.” In this episode, we discuss what led to that transformation and more:The bitterness and loneliness he felt and how his life looks nowOur tendency to “replay” the trauma we’ve endured and what to do if you feel stuckWhy we need mentors in our lives to guide and challenge us, but also to help us see our blindspotsJackBeers.comTheCatholicMentor.comSchedule a FREE call with JackView Restored’s ResourcesDakotaLaneFitness.comShownotes

With so many marriages and families falling apart, the natural question is: What has caused all these broken marriages and families?In this episode, Dr. John Bishop unveils the surprising root cause, plus:The crisis of masculinity facing our world right nowThe proper place of happiness within marriageAn awesome digital hack to protect yourself and your relationshipsMyForge.orgDakotaLaneFitness.comFight the new drugView Restored’s ResourcesBuy Jason Evert’s booklet, Pure IntimacyBuy Jason Evert’s talk, Green SexShownotes

So many people from broken families struggle with feeling helpless or needy. Our efforts to heal or grow might even feel fruitless like tires spinning in mud that never gain traction. We put in effort in learning, but transformation isn’t happening. Whether that describes you or someone you know (like a friend, parent, or anyone else), this episode will help you!  In it, you’ll learn: The simple solution to beat neediness and helplessnessWhy struggles are actually good for youThe most important question you can ask to move beyond griefMargaret’s WebsiteDakota Lane FitnessBuy Margaret’s Book: FearlessBuy Margaret’s Book: More Than WordsGet Margaret’s Course: Broken to WholeShownotes

Two years into marriage, Jake found himself enslaved to a sexual addiction. He longed for freedom but felt very stuck. As a result, he lived a double life, hiding his unwanted behavior from his wife.  But one random day, it all came to light. At that moment, he thought his marriage was over. In this episode, he shares what happened next, plus:What kept his marriage from falling apart?How a wound of abandonment from his family drove his addiction6 tips to break free from sexual compulsion or addictionGo to Jake’s Website & ResourcesListen to our series, Healing Sexual BrokennessGo to Dakota Lane FitnessShownotes

After her parents divorced, my guest felt abandoned and badly hoped it was all a dream that she could just wake up from. Dealing with all the brokenness that followed led her down a path of feeling stuck and thinking her brokenness defined her. Thankfully, she realized that “‘broken’ is what happened to me, not who I am.” In this episode, we touch on that and more:How just having the pain of your parents’ divorce validated is incredibly helpful and often the first step of healingThe many emotional problems she’s had to battle, including anxiety, depression, anger, self-hate, control, and lonelinessThe tendency in people like us to allow fear to hold us back and cause us to play it safe, but how healing can free us from fearShare Your StoryView Restored’s ResourcesShownotes

If you’re like me, you never saw conflict resolved peacefully in your family. As a result, you might feel a bit lost about how to resolve conflict in your life, especially in your relationships. If that’s you, this episode will help. In it, a married couple joins to share tips they’ve learned on resolving conflict, plus:Why it’s important to let small things go, but how letting too much go can lead to resentmentThe four levels of learning any skillAdvice to someone from an intact family who’s dating, engaged, or even married to someone from a broken familyGet FREE Guide: 7 Tips to Build Healthy Relationships & a Divorce-Proof MarriageVisit Dakota Lane FitnessShownotes

So many divorces happen because one spouse follows their desires at the expense of their vows. That happened in the family of my guest today. In this episode, we cover:How her family’s dysfunction led to struggles with gender and sexualityThe beautiful transformation she’s experienced and even seen in her parentsThe biggest lie about getting divorcedA new organization that’s fighting for children’s rightsShare Your StoryView Restored’s ResourcesFollow Jenn’s Blog, Do Better TheologyVisit Them Before UsVisit Dakota Lane FitnessShownotes

Today we’re sharing a podcast where I was interviewed by two therapists, Dr. Bob Schuchts and Jake Khym, on their podcast, Restore the Glory. Joey especially opens up about his struggles in his relationship with God, plus they discuss:When we don’t face our wounds, we typically try to outrun them. Since divorce is a wound of broken love, the antidote is authentic love.Why it’s so helpful to spend time with a couple who has a healthy marriage. Donate to RestoredMeet with Joey for Restored’s Donor PitchVisit Dakota Lane FitnessListen to the Restore the Glory podcastVisit JPII Healing CenterShownotes