The Tai Lopez Show

If you want to have world-changing impact, you need to be someone who gets things done. I don’t care if you want to feed the hungry or become a millionaire entrepreneur, you have to love the grind. In today’s Book of the Day review, I discuss “The Everything Store” and Jeff Bezos’ rise to the top.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A reflection on Remarque's idea that forgetting preserves youth. Stories from wartime and family life illustrate how mindset matters more than age. Discussion of learning from pain, then letting it go to avoid becoming jaded. Practical prompts to identify a memory to release and move forward with curiosity and presence.

You have probably heard that you have to rely on yourself and not others. Or that you should have enough inner power to be strong on your own. In today's Book-Of-The-Day I discuss a book that debunks this mentality and a lot of the group think that you and I learned growing up.  "The Power of Others: Peer Pressure, Groupthink, and How the People Around Us Shape Everything We Do" by Michael Bond shares the newest research that we will be happiest when we have a lot of friends. But the key is that they have to be an exact type of friend to really help you find the good life. In 2008, 2 social scientists, Christakis & Fowler found that, "... most people will not be surprised that people with more friends are happier, but what really matters is whether those friends are happy." The book also explains, "Four decades of research into how people decide to do what they do has shown that we are highly susceptible to the winds of social influence - indeed it is impossible to escape them, short of living in hermitic isolation (and even that may not immunize us...)." Listen in as I explain the detailed nuances of what you will need to know to improve your social life. Check out more of my book reviews on my site www.tailopez.com and sign for my free book of the day newsletter - it's the largest in the world - join 1.4 million people in 40 countries on finding the Good Life: Health, Wealth, Love, Happiness.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Find out how to boost your confidence, win friends, and influence people. I interview Jordan Harbinger, creator of the Art of Charm Podcast, to find the biggest takeaways to get to the top. Life is competition and you have to go up the chain to be more confident and get what you want from life.To find out more about Jordan's online academy and inner circle go here http://www.TheArtOfCharmPodcast.comLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey I just released the 67 steps, check it out here: https://www.tailopez.com/product.php?id=FS-0998&source=podcast&sid=danieltosh My brain has been in a whirlwind. Many books, many great thinkers whispering in my thoughts...So instead of focusing on one specific book today I think I'll share 4 or 5 great concepts on living the "Good Life" I have run across recently. They are in no specific order but they will show you the value of diversifying your learning base:1. "(While Leonardo DA Vinci was painting the Last Supper) The prior complained of Leonardo's apparent sloth, and wondered why he would sometimes sit before the walls for hours without painting a stroke. Leonardo has no trouble explaining to the Duke that an artists most important work lies in conception rather than in execution, and 'men of genius do most when they work least'." -- Will Durant "The Renaissance"I talk about this a lot in my 67 steps program (the new version will be out later this week). Most humans pride themselves on their 'flurries' of activity. But in the end it's not the person who loads their day with pointless activity that wins. Clearly, if Da Vinci, needed one hour of thought to execute, you and I should think more deeply before we proceed.2. "Let thy house be a meeting-place for the wise; cover thyself with the dust of their feet, and drink in their words with thirst.” Pirke AvotI'm going to make this the door mat to my house. Watch the movie "Midnight In Paris" from Woody Allen (Check out my movie review pageI just started on), and its message about the value of literally turning some physical location into a meeting place for the sharpest people you know to come hang out.Try a movie night at your place, or a poker night, anything that will make your house a meeting place for the best local people you can talk into coming over.3. “Ask God for a great assistant. No joke. A great one can make your life a whole lot easier —or, in my case, almost manageable. Norma Foerderer has been with me for twenty-three years.” --Donald Trump:"How to Get Rich.”You can't really get more practical advice than this. I have 3 assistants and every time I meet someone who doesn't have at least one, I literally think they are either insane or possess some super power I can not fathom. Apparently billionaires feel the same way.4. "Love is indeed much less exacting than it thinks itself. Nine-tenths of its cause are in the lover, for one-tenth that may be in the object.”George Santayana: “The Life of Reason"This is not a viewpoint on love many people want to hear but even scientists would agree it's probably the truth. If you ever feel heartbroken or lonely, remember that even the most sincere love that you feel from another human is probably still more about them then you.Santayana is saying that 90% of the reason people love you is because of what they get from it, it's not really about you (the 10%). That doesn't have to be a depressing message. It can help you see clearly through the inevitable loneliness all humans must experience at some time in their life.It's ironic but once you realize in a certain sense we are alwaysalone you will gain a new sense of boldness that will actually make more humans interested in getting to know you. Independence leads to stronger social ties.5. “One way for genes to solve the problem of making predictions in rather unpredictable environments is to build in a capacity for learning... Survival machines that can simulate the future are one jump ahead of survival machines who can only learn on the basis of overt trial and error. The trouble with overt trial is that it takes time and energy. The trouble with overt error is that it is often fatal. Simulation is both safer and faster. The evolution of the capacity to simulate seems to have culminated in subjective consciousness." -- Richard Dawkins: "The Selfish Gene"This book is a whole other email by itself. But this is a life changing quote if you get his point. He is saying genetically we are programmed to NOT be completely pre-programmed. Our genes know that in an ever changing world we could not possibly be born with all of the instincts needed to cope with diverse environments. So our genes gave us a powerful coping mechanism.You are programmed to LEARN on the fly! Anytime you hear someone say, "You should love me for who I am", you can call BS on them. You and I are NOT static beings. We were hardwired to continually morph and simulate the future and adjust to it. What's the practical takeaway? Simple, you better read more myfriend, hehe...Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

They explore one powerful question to extract practical advice from experienced people. Stories show how to borrow wisdom from mentors, books, and experts. Variations of the question dig deeper, including a last-day perspective. Tips cover who to ask, how often, and how to turn answers into a plan.

Humans are aggressive. As you move through life, your ability to navigate the minefield of conflict must be one of your greatest skills. Life is a competition, and those who adapt to its challenges are those who survive.As Will Durant says in "The Lessons Of History", "The first biological lesson of history is that life is competition. Competition is not only the life of trade, it is the trade of life—peaceful when food abounds, violent when the mouths outrun the food. Animals eat one another without qualm; civilized men consume one another by due process of law." I am sure you have felt aggression from others when the 'mouths' have outrun the supply. You have felt betrayal from a close friend or family member. But you made it through. If there is one thing us humans know how to do, it's to cope. Adapt. Survive. If you are reading this you have survived something. Freud says in "Civilization and Its Discontents", "The life imposed on us is too hard for us to bear: it brings too much pain, too many disappointments, too many insoluble problems. If we are to endure it, we cannot do without palliative measures." By palliative measures, Freud means solutions. He lays out these three: 1. Powerful distractions, which cause us to make light of our misery...  2. Substitutive satisfactions, which diminish it... 3. Intoxicants, which anesthetize us to it... Look around you at the world. This is what people do to cope with the aggression and competitiveness of life.  They watch sports. They focus on the moment. They smoke and drink. I do not mean any of these three methods are inherently wrong. Some of it is just our genes and instinct.  Like Durant says, "We are acquisitive, greedy, and pugnacious because our blood remembers millenniums through which our forebears had to chase and fight and kill in order to survive, and had to eat to their gastric capacity for fear they should not soon capture another feast." I think there is a fourth way to cope that Freud left out. A more optimistic way.  You can embrace the whole of life. The grind, the aggression, the competition, and turn it upside down on it's head. Like the Nobel Peace prize winner, Elie Wiesel says, "We sanctify life, not death. 'Ubakharta bakhaim,' says Scripture: 'You shall choose life' and the living.” Tonight, I was reading for the book-of-the-day, "The Brothers Karamazov" and Dostoyevsky reminds us, "As a general rule, people, even the wicked, are much more naive and simple-hearted than we supposed. And we ourselves are, too." Even the most aggressive toward you probably don't mean as bad as they seem. Find the good in the aggression of humans towards you. Use it as motivation to start something you have been procrastinating about. I like to read and write when I feel wronged. Find what works for you. Move forward with courage. Don't let what others have done to you build too much fear in your brain. I just finished, "By The Spear" about Alexander The Great who said it best:  "Through every generation of the human race there has been a constant war, a war with fear. Those who have the courage to conquer it are made free and those who are conquered by it are made to suffer until they have the courage to defeat it, or death takes them.” Let's have the courage to defeat our fears. Stay Strong,TaiLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Listen to what Tai learned from Seth Godin, Eli Wiesle and what he learned from his own experiences on how to get motivated.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many people are asking about the Private Mentorship and Inner Circle Programs. If you want to see if you are a good fit for you please click here and give me a little info.I'll get back to you on whether it's a good fit...It's life changing for the people inside. They are finding the good life: Health, Wealth, Love, & Happiness...You should too.>> Click here to apply >>Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many people are asking about the Private Mentorship and Inner Circle Programs. If you want to see if you are a good fit for you please click here and give me a little info.I'll get back to you on whether it's a good fit...It's life changing for the people inside. They are finding the good life: Health, Wealth, Love, & Happiness...You should too.>> Click here to apply >> Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.