Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

The "work spouse" dilemma – why is this modern trend causing so much tension in relationships? You’ve likely heard the term before… It's that coworker who knows your partner’s schedule better than you do, the one who grabs a meal with your partner before a big meeting, or the person your partner vents to when work gets overwhelming. In this episode of Language of Love Session , I dive into a listener’s question about this emotionally charged topic: the concept of a "work wife" or "work husband." Heather, one of our listeners, shares her discomfort with her husband calling a female coworker his "work wife," even though their relationship appears purely professional. Heather finds herself torn between feeling overly sensitive and wanting to protect the trust and boundaries in her marriage.Here’s what we’ll dive into: Why titles like "work wife" can carry ah emotional weight—and why they can actually be a threat to your relationship. How to validate feelings of jealousy or insecurity without letting them take over. The importance of open, honest communication when addressing sensitive topics. Practical strategies for expressing your feelings without placing blame or creating defensiveness. The emotional risks of developing close workplace friendships—and how to maintain healthy boundaries. Why emotional intimacy with colleagues can sometimes overshadow your primary relationship—and how to prevent it. Also, don't miss out on the 7 Days to Better Sex program and my free quiz, What Do You Want Out of Love? — both designed to guide you on your journey to deeper connection and fulfillment. Happy exploring! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How many times have we overlooked the little moments that make our relationship special? The gentle touches, the inside jokes, the quiet ways our partner shows they care. It’s so easy to focus on what’s missing that we forget to appreciate what’s already there. But here’s the secret: gratitude isn’t just a feel-good idea—it’s a powerful force that can reignite passion, deepen your connection, and completely transform your love life.In this Language of Love Bite, I pull back the curtain on how gratitude works like a love potion for your relationship. I show you how a simple “thank you” releases oxytocin—the bonding hormone—and creates a ripple effect of connection, intimacy, and yes, even better sex. Plus, I share a game-changing daily practice and a heartfelt exercise that leaves your partner feeling seen, cherished, and deeply loved.We uncover: Why gratitude is the ultimate aphrodisiac (yes, really!) How focusing on the good stuff can rewrite your relationship story A simple, daily gratitude hack that takes less than a minute but works like magic The power of gratitude dates—and how they can bring back the butterflies A heartfelt exercise: writing a love letter that will leave your partner speechless And if you’re ready to take your love life to the next level, I’ve got something special for you. Head over to my website and check out my free course on Quantum Sex. You’ll learn how to unlock full-body orgasms, use sex magic to manifest your dreams, and connect with your partner on a deeper, more intimate level. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your hesitation—your fear of being fully seen—actually keeping you from the deep, lasting connection you crave?In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Lindsay Jill Roth, award-winning producer and author of Romances and Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) in 250 Questions. Lindsay isn’t afraid to tackle the tough stuff. We dive deep into the role of religion in relationships, the stigma around dating divorced people, and why so many of us shut down love before it even has a chance to grow.She also takes on a challenge so many career-driven women face—hitting their 40s, finally ready to settle down, only to realize that most of the men they’re meeting are already dads. How do you navigate that? How do you avoid getting stuck in this situation in the first place? And most importantly—how do you move forward without settling for something that isn’t right for you?We’re diving into: Why so many people feel lost in love—even with endless advice at their fingertips The hidden ways we sabotage our relationships without realizing it How asking the right questions can transform how we connect with a partner The surprising link between communication and attraction (yes, talking can be sexy!)  Why those “butterflies” you feel might actually be a red flag The tough topics we avoid—like religion, divorce, and long-term compatibility Why we’re too quick to write people off early in relationships (and what we might be missing) How self-awareness and personal growth shape who we attract The key to building emotional safety, trust, and deeper intimacy Want more from Lindsay? Connect with her on Instagram and check out her book Romances and Practicalities: A Love Story (Maybe Yours) in 250 Questions for even deeper insights. Remember to check out my Quantum Sex Course for next-level intimacy and connection. And as always, let’s keep having these conversations about love, sex, and relationships—because even though it’s still a taboo topic, it’s one we need to be talking about.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you stuck in the same argument over and over again? It starts with something small—an offhand comment, a last-minute plan, or a simple misunderstanding. Before you know it, you’re in yet another argument, saying things you don’t mean, feeling unheard, and wondering, how did we get here again?In this episode of The Language of Love Session, we check in with Brian and Stacey, a couple who love each other deeply but keep getting stuck in frustrating fights. Their latest? A basketball game invitation that—on the surface—seemed harmless. But for Stacey, it wasn’t just about the game. It was about priorities, commitment, and feeling like she mattered.Here’s where things got messy: Brian had already skipped their usual weekly sporting activity together. So when he jumped at the chance to go out with a friend instead, Stacey felt like she was coming in second. A simple, innocent decision spiraled into yet another heated argument.But here’s the real issue—it wasn’t about basketball. It was about unspoken fears, emotional triggers, and the stories we tell ourselves when we feel hurt.In this episode, we’re breaking it all down: Why small decisions can feel like big betrayal How unspoken fears and insecurities sneak into your conversations and turn them into battles The power of pausing before you react  How to recognize when you’re stuck in the Drama Triangle—and what to do about it The art of making your partner feel heard without silencing your own needs If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same frustrating arguments, wondering why your partner just doesn’t get it, this episode will shift your perspective. Want to go deeper? Check out my Quantum Sex Course for relationship-transforming tools.Got a love dilemma of your own? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don’t forget to share this episode with someone who needs it. Because love isn’t defined by the big moments—it’s built in the small ones. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that your sexual energy isn’t just about what happens between the sheets? It’s the fuel that powers your confidence, your creativity, and that magnetic glow that attracts others and makes life feel exciting. But here’s the kicker—it’s easy to lose sexual energy, especially when emotions like guilt, shame, or stress build up, they act like roadblocks, keeping that energy stuck.  The good news? You can turn it back on.In this Language of Love Bite, I’m sharing how to break free from energy blocks that shut down your sexual centers,  and wake up your full-body vitality. We dive into deep breathwork, hip-opening movement (yes, your hips hold way more power than you think), and one game-changing daily practice that will keep your sexual energy flowing effortlessly.In this episode, we cover: Why sexual energy is the key to confidence, joy, and creativity  How trapped emotions like guilt and shame block your energy flow  A simple breathwork technique to instantly boost sexual energy  The surprising role of hip movement in unlocking your passion  A powerful daily practice that will supercharge your arousal and vitality And if you’re ready to take your pleasure and connection to the next level, visit my website check out my free course on Quantum Sex—where you’ll learn to expand your sexual response, manifest through sex magic, and experience deeper intimacy.Your energy is your power. Let’s unlock it together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are whispers of a place—an unseen archive where every thought, every decision, every soul’s journey is etched into existence. Some call it the Akashic Records, an infinite library beyond time and space, containing the secrets of the past, present, and even the future. In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I’m joined by Daniela Gil—an intuitive healer, psychic, and guide known as the “psychic’s psychic” and “healer’s healer.” She works with the Akashic Records, plant medicine, and spiritual transformation, helping people connect with their divine essence.Daniela shares her journey as a highly sensitive child, the challenges she faced with mental health and addiction, and how plant medicine helped her reclaim her gifts. We explore the healing power of sacred plants and how they deepen our connection with ourselves, Pachamama (Mother Earth), and the divine.Whether you're curious about the Akashic Records, plant medicine, or finding your path to healing, this conversation will leave you inspired.In this episode, Daniela and I explore: The Akashic Records and how they can guide us The role of Wachuma, Ayahuasca, and Dieta in spiritual healing Overcoming fear, building faith, and living in love Soul contracts, twin flames, and the deeper nature of relationships Daniela’s journey from struggle to spiritual awakening The transformative power of facing death and embracing change If you’re feeling drawn to Daniela’s work, you can connect with her on Instagram and explore all that she offers on her website. Daniela also hosts transformative retreats in Peru, where she works with sacred plants like Wachuma and Ayahuasca to guide deep healing and spiritual growth. And if the Akashic Records intrigue you, she also offers courses and mentorship programs to help you access and understand this powerful source of wisdom.Looking for more insight? Check out these powerful reads: The Map of Consciousness by David Hawkins and The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk.And if you’re craving even more guidance, be sure to visit my website, where you’ll find free resources tailored to support your unique journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For far too long, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) have carried a heavy weight of stigma—whispers behind closed doors, silent fears, and the crushing anxiety of disclosure and the rejection that might follow. Many people would rather avoid dating altogether than face the possibility of judgment. But should a diagnosis really hold that much power over your life? Should it define your worth, your relationships, or your future?In this Language of Love Session, I’m responding to an email from Claire, a listener who recently received a herpes diagnosis. Claire’s feeling overwhelmed by shame and fear about her dating future. She’s worried she’ll never find love and is unsure how to share her diagnosis with potential partners.Here’s the truth: A herpes diagnosis does NOT make you undateable. In fact, 1 in 4 people have herpes, and 80% of them don’t even know it! The stigma around STDs, especially herpes, creates unnecessary shame. But at the end of the day, herpes is just a manageable skin condition—one that can be effectively treated with medication.In this episode, I dive into: The prevalence of herpes and why the stigma needs to end Why herpes doesn’t define you: You are so much more than your diagnosis, and the right person will see that. How to manage outbreaks and reduce transmission risk The best way to disclose your diagnosis to a potential partner If you need any help or advice, you can email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com and you can also get a chance to join me on Zoom for a one-on-one session. I’d love to hear from you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you beginning to feel like your partner’s phone is becoming the third wheel in your relationship? Are you tired of being "phubbed"—that unsettling mix of phone and snubbed? You’re not alone. In this Language of Love Bite, we explore how to reclaim connection in your relationship without starting World War III.In this episode, I delve into the science of disconnection, revealing how our phones trigger dopamine responses similar to addictive substances. But this isn’t just about the tech—it’s about finding solutions that strengthen intimacy and foster connection.Discover small but powerful ways to unplug, reconnect, and bring joy back to your shared moments. Plus, I share some proven practical tips and daily rituals that foster intimacy.Here’s what I cover: Understanding the neurological impact of constant screen use. How to identify tech’s impact on your relationship, from decreased eye contact to “parallel play.” Simple, actionable strategies to combat tech addiction If you’re ready to create meaningful change in your relationship, tune in to this episode of The Language of Love. And don’t forget to check out my free course, 7 Days to Better Sex, and  Quantum Sex, which offers tools to enhance intimacy and connection even further.Subscribe to the podcast and start reclaiming the love you deserve. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if our worst moments are actually an opportunity to shift into a deeper connection with ourselves and everyone and everything around us? In this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Jacob Cooper—author, therapist, and someone who’s experienced a life-changing near-death experience (NDE)—to explore how we can maintain this connection beyond the physical. Jacob’s story is incredible. At just three years old, he experienced an NDE due to whooping cough (Pertussis), and it completely reshaped his understanding of life, death, and the eternal nature of the soul.Through his experience, Jacob has come to realize that our loved ones who have crossed over are still with us—watching over us, guiding us, and helping us grow. There’s no true separation between us and them; the bond remains, even in the afterlife. Jacob shares how, through surrender, we can tap into the spiritual wisdom and love that our departed loved ones send us from beyond.In this conversation, Jacob also explores the role of past lives, the deep soul contracts we share with those we love, and how we can recognize and nurture relationships with our soul family—both here and on the other side. We also dive into the importance of living in the present moment, remembering that we’re eternally connected to love.Here’s a preview of what we talk about: How Jacob’s NDE at three years old opened his eyes to the eternal nature of the soul How our departed loved ones continue to watch over us and send us messages from the other side The role of past lives and soul contracts in our current relationships How to feel the presence of your soul family and deepen these connections Why embracing the present moment helps us align with the boundless love of spirit If you’re looking for more on this journey, Jacob’s books The Wisdom of Jacob’s Ladder and Life After Breath take you on a powerful exploration of his NDE and the wisdom he uncovered. It’s a beautiful reminder that death isn’t the end, and our loved ones are never really gone.For more guidance and resources on your own spiritual journey, be sure to visit my website—it’s packed with tools to help you stay connected to the love and wisdom of the other side! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that most arguments in relationships aren’t really about what they seem? That fight about the trash? The dishes? Being late? It’s rarely about the actual issue—it’s about something deeper. Feeling unheard. Feeling unappreciated. Feeling disconnected.In this Language of Love Session, we continue to follow Brian and Stacey as they navigate the challenges of trust, intimacy, and emotional connection. Brian feels like he’s doing everything right—planning dates, showing affection, making an effort—yet the intimacy still isn’t there. Stacey, meanwhile, struggles with past trauma and the weight of expectation, making it hard for her to fully engage. We confront the hidden emotions and unspoken fears that keep them stuck in the same frustrating cycle.What’s inside this episode? How past traumas influence trust and intimacy in relationships Why taking sex off the table can help rebuild emotional and physical connection The importance of non-sexual touch in fostering intimacy and trust How to navigate the "Drama Triangle" (victim, villain, hero) in conflicts Practical strategies for shifting out of conflict and into connection The role of appreciation and physical affection in healing relationships How to create a culture of safety and understanding in your partnership Don't forget—love is a journey best taken together. Whether you're healing from past traumas, deepening intimacy, or improving communication, every step forward is one you don’t have to take alone. Explore powerful tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle for trauma recovery, or dive into transformative resources like Conscious Loving by Gay and Katie Hendricks. Want to go even deeper? Read my book Quantum Love. You can even check out my Quantum Sex Course.Have questions or stories to share? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don’t forget to share this episode—because love is a journey we take together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices