Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Are you looking for more ways to spice things up in the bedroom? We’ve all heard the usual—lingerie, toys, candlelit date nights, maybe even a threesome. But have you ever wondered if the real magic has been there all along, just waiting for you to try? What if feeling more, instead of doing more, is what really lights the fire? Curious to find out?  In this special Language of Love Bite, I dive into something that’s not just my newest obsession—it’s the subject of my brand-new book: Sex Magic. The truth is, the pandemic—and everything that came after it—opened my eyes. I started seeing more and more people, whether in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships, desperately looking for ways to spice things up. And while the desire was valid, the strategies? Often risky. I heard from couples exploring threesomes, opening their relationships, chasing novelty in ways that were threatening the very foundations of their connection. But what if I told you that there are powerful, beautiful, time-tested ways to bring that spark back—and they’ve been around for thousands of years? That’s where Sex Magic comes in. In this episode, I share: Why traditional advice on “spicing it up” only goes so far What the ancient traditions of Tantra, Taoism, and Kundalini can teach us about modern intimacy How to move sexual energy through your whole body—and even beyond A ritual you can use to manifest your desires during orgasm (yes, really) How sex magic can create emotional intimacy, spiritual connection, and even…miracles Whether you're solo or partnered, curious or all-in, this episode is your invitation to explore a whole new dimension of pleasure, connection, and personal power. Want to take it further? When you grab your copy of Sex Magic, you’ll also receive bonus tools: My Quantum Sex web course A beautiful Sex Magic Ritual Journal A live initiation replay to help you get started Visit drlauraberman.com/sexmagic to learn more.  And if you try these practices or manifest something juicy, I want to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story might inspire someone else to claim their magic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever looked across the room at your partner and thought, “When did we become roommates instead of lovers?” Maybe you’re still affectionate, still loving—but the sexual connection? Practically nonexistent. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In fact, nearly 1 in 5 marriages are considered “sexless,” but that doesn’t mean your spark is gone for good. In this Language of Love Bite, we’re diving deep into the real reasons couples stop being intimate—and exactly how to rebuild your sex life step-by-step, even if it’s been months (or years). By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly what to say to your partner—and how to start feeling sexy together again. In this episode, we’re breaking down: The top 3 culprits behind sexless relationships (it’s not just stress!) Why emotional safety is the real aphrodisiac The exact words to use when you want to bring up the lack of sex—without it getting awkward The sensual (not sexual) ritual that jumpstarts physical intimacy without pressure A proven sex therapy technique called sensate focus that helps you reawaken desire The gentle roadmap from no sex… to next-level pleasure If conversations feel too loaded, find a certified sex therapist via AASECT. Don’t miss out on 7 Days to Better Sex —a game-changing guide designed to bring more passion and connection into your relationship. Plus, take my  Free  quiz to discover new ways to strengthen your bond and take your relationship to the next level. And be sure to check out my newest  book, Sex Magic, to take your sex life to an entirely new level.  You can also check my video  on Rebuilding Connection in Relationships Have a love language success story or a challenge you’re facing? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com —your story might just inspire others in a future episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel emotions that don’t seem to belong to you? Like you're carrying pain that started long before you were born? What if the things you’re struggling with—sexual trauma, shame, fear of being seen—aren’t just yours... but inherited? In this  Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma psychiatrist who’s helped countless people heal—but had to take his own journey first. Frank’s new book, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma and Transformation, blends memoir with a trauma healing guide. But before he could write it, he had to live it. He grew up disconnected from his body, afraid to show who he really was, and deeply shaped by generations of silence and suppression. In this episode, we go deep into: How trauma hides in families for generations—and how to spot it in your own Why intellect and “having it all together” often hide emotional chaos How hiding his identity became a form of survival—and how he found the courage to be fully seen What it really means to feel inherited pain, not just analyze it Coming out, breaking patterns, and embracing truth—on every level The life-changing magic of combining IFS with somatic healing And how you can start breaking cycles, too This is more than a conversation. It’s an invitation—to feel, to face what’s been buried, and maybe, to be the one in your family who finally sets it all down. Learn more about Dr. Frank Anderson’s work, including his new book To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma and Transformation, on his website and socials and register for his events. Also make sure to check out the Grief Healing Collective for a community of like minded people, amazing resources on grief healing, and live healing sessions and events.  You can also check out my Good Grief Course. Have your own story about breaking the cycle? I’d love to hear it—email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So… your partner watches porn. Does that mean they’re cheating? Or is it just harmless fantasy? If you’ve ever asked yourself this—or felt a pit in your stomach after finding out—this episode is for you. In this Language of Love session, I answer a powerful question from a listener named Karen. She just found out her boyfriend watches porn regularly, and she’s not sure how to feel. Hurt? Angry? Insecure? Betrayed? Here’s the thing—this isn’t just about porn. It’s about trust. Boundaries. Feeling seen and safe in your relationship. And we’re going there. In this episode, we get into: Why watching porn doesn’t automatically mean someone is cheating When fantasy crosses the line into a problem What porn does to the brain—and why so many people got hooked during the pandemic How too much porn can mess with intimacy (like, seriously mess with it) Why it’s totally normal to feel triggered or rejected—and how to talk about it with your partner The difference between emotional safety and sexual shame—and how to move through both Real tips for navigating conversations around porn, self-pleasure, and trust Remember to visit my website to take a free quiz and explore 7 Days to Better Sex. It’s not about right or wrong—it’s about discovering what’s true for you. I’m here to help you gain clarity on what you want, what feels right, and how to bring more honesty and connection into your relationships. And if you’ve ever felt alone in your struggles, know this: you’re not. So many of us are navigating the same questions. Got something on your mind? A story or question you'd like to share? I’d love to hear from you. Email me anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

They say love is enough—but is it really? What if one simple question could reveal whether your relationship is built for long-term growth… or destined to quietly fall apart? In this Language of Love Bite, we explore the subtle but powerful force that separates short-lived connection from lasting partnership: mutual inspiration. This isn’t about how often you laugh together or whether you share a Spotify playlist. It’s about whether you feel proud of who you’re becoming with this person—and if your future selves are being shaped by love, not stifled by it. You’ll also learn a 2-minute reflection exercise (called “The Mirror Test”) that just might change the way you look at your relationship forever. Let’s dive in! What You’ll Learn: The one question that can predict whether your relationship is built to last Why growth—not just chemistry—is the real glue in long-term love Key signs your partner supports your evolution (and red flags they might not) How admiration and inspiration fuel deeper connection Simple ways to check in on growth—monthly rituals, vision sharing, and more How to use journaling to reinforce love, even in small everyday moments “The Mirror Test”: A quick exercise to assess who you’ve become in this relationship—and who you’re becoming Because true love doesn’t just feel good. It helps you grow. Want to see how your relationship is really doing? Start with my free quiz and explore 7 Days to Better Sex, a gentle path toward more connection, honesty, and intimacy. Got a question or a story to share? I’d love to hear from you at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to wait for love—not out of fear, but from deep, spiritual conviction? In this extraordinary Language of Love Conversation, we meet Sohale—a man who, at 32, has never been physically intimate with another person. Not because he’s afraid of love, but because he reveres it. For Sohale, sex isn't casual—it's sacred. A union of energy, soul, and spirit. And he’s been saving himself for that. But the story doesn’t begin (or end) there. It started in childhood—with a mystical calling, a boundary-crossing pediatrician, and a little boy who learned to transform trauma into prayer. And it continues today—as Sohale navigates the modern dating world with ancient longing, tantric wisdom, and unwavering faith that the right soul will meet him where he stands. Here’s What We Cover: How a sexually abusive pediatric exam shaped Sohale’s sensuality—and his lifelong relationship with spirit How Sohale discovered fusing  sexual energy with prayer from a young age How gratitude (and a simple email trick) became the emotional lifeline in his darkest hours The unexpected power of tantric self-practice—and how it helped him heal What it means to look for a partner not just with a body, but with a soul attuned to divinity Try Sohale’s Soul app—where spontaneous gratitude meets spiritual practice. Whether you're drawn to Sufism, Tantra, Kabbalah, or Kriya Yoga, there’s a 30-day soul path waiting for you. Use code: 30DaysOnMe at https://www.bringsoul.life/ Got thoughts? Stories? Or a tantric soulmate for Sohale? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com And if this moved you—share it. Healing becomes sacred when we do it together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love after trauma isn’t just about passion—it’s about patience. The quiet moments between kisses, the hesitation in a held hand, the unspoken fear that lingers in intimacy… These are the places where love is tested—and where it can be rebuilt. In this Language of Love Session, we return to Brian and Stacey’s raw, unfolding story. If you’ve been with us, you know: this isn’t just about sex. It’s about two hearts trying to find safety in each other—while wrestling with the ghosts of their pasts. (If you’re new here, make sure to listen to my past sessions with Brian and Stacy to learn about the heartache, the fights, the small victories that brought them here.) So what happens when healing almost feels within reach? When the arguments soften, the warmth returns… and then—out of nowhere—the old pain rushes back in? Here’s What You’ll Take Away: “I want to, but I can’t”—why this conflict is more common than we admit (and how to move through it) How childhood wounds whisper in adult intimacy—and how to quiet them When even loving touch feels like pressure—and how to rewrite that story Why watching porn together became a bridge, not a wall The moment a simple kiss became the bravest act of all How couples accidentally retraumatize each other—and how to stop The shift that helped Stacey reclaim her body—and her voice Why Brian is learning that patience isn’t passive—it’s love in action Want to feel safe in your own skin—and in your partner’s arms? Start with my free quiz and then delve into 7 Days to Better Sex. If you're navigating deeper wounds, explore EMDR therapy or dive into the Drama Triangle—because real love shouldn’t reopen old scars. Your story isn’t over. In fact, the most healing chapters may be just ahead. Questions or thoughts? I’d love to hear from you: languageoflovepod@gmail.com And if this episode moved you, share it. Healing is contagious when we do it together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if everything you've been told about love...is wrong? That magical moment when you'll meet "The One"—the perfect partner who completes you, understands you effortlessly, and makes love feel easy forever. But what happens when the fairy tale doesn't come true? When the spark fades and you're left wondering: Did I choose wrong? Is my real soulmate still out there? The real question isn't "Have I found my perfect match?"—it's "Am I with someone worth growing with?" Because the most powerful love stories aren't about finding—they're about building. In this explosive Language of Love Bite, we get into: Is finding "The One" a myth or a real possibility The 3 non-negotiables that matter more than chemistry or shared hobbies The #1 predictor of long-term success The must-ask question before committing to someone  Monthly "growth check-ins"—how thriving couples stay aligned  When to walk away  Take my free quiz to get a clearer picture of what you’re really looking for in love.  And make sure to check out my newest book, Sex Magic, which will take your sex life to the next level whether you are single or in a relationship!  Got any questions? Feel free to email us at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. And hey, love grows when we learn together—so share this episode and let’s spread the love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the role you’ve played your whole life—the one that made people love you, trust you, applaud you—was actually the thing keeping you from yourself? In this moving Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Mark Walberg—not the Ted movie star, but the television host known for his charm, wit, and steady presence on hit shows like Antiques Roadshow and Temptation Island.  After watching this season of Temptation Island for the first time, I was stunned. Despite having no clinical training, Mark intuitively held space for confessions, breakdowns, and deep self reckonings,— guiding the cast through their fears, blind spots, and emotional blocks with incredible insight and timing. He was doing a better job than lots of therapists I know! I had to understand where that wisdom came from. Mark didn’t disappoint.  In this Language of Love Conversation, he pulls back the curtain and shares his own journey, from the pressures of fame to the private unraveling that brought him to his knees, and eventually to a place of radical honesty. We talk about the fear of feeling, the cost of emotional suppression, and how it’s never too late to come home to yourself. Here’s a sneak peek… The surprising lessons Mark learned about love while hosting Temptation Island How a successful career became a hiding place—and what it took to step out of it Why approval from the crowd can’t replace real connection The childhood wounds he carried into adulthood—and how he finally began to face them What happens when you stop numbing and start feeling The role his wife played in calling him back to himself How fatherhood cracked him open in the best (and hardest) ways Why vulnerability might just be the most courageous thing a man can offer Remember to follow Mark Walberg’s continuing story on his website and socials. Also make sure to check out the Grief Healing Collective for a community of like minded people, amazing resources on grief healing, and live healing sessions and events.  You can also check out my Good Grief Course. Got thoughts? Stories? Or a revelation of your own? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel like your life no longer fits you? Like you’re walking around in a version of yourself that you’ve outgrown—but you're not sure what the next version looks like? In this powerful Language of Love Conversation, I’m thrilled to welcome back poet, author, and truth-teller Janne Robinson to the show. Together, we explore what happens when you hit that inner wall—when you're stuck, misaligned, or playing house in a life that no longer feels like your own. We dive deep into Janne’s journey from living a life that looked good on paper but felt soul-crushing, to courageously claiming her truth and starting over twice. We explore: Why “not this” is often the first clue—and the most sacred invitation to begin again What to do when your partner isn’t growing with you—and how to honor love even in letting go The radical power of one honest conversation to change the entire energy of your relationship How your body speaks the truth before your mind is ready to hear it The emotional and physical toll of living in misalignment—and why your soul won’t let you fake it forever How shame keeps us silent—and how your truth can set not just you, but others, free Why having a guide who’s walked the hard path before you changes everything And why love that grows with you, not around you, is the rarest, richest love of all Ready to begin your own truth-telling journey? Join Janne’s free 10-day experience, Meet Yourself in Truth, starting June 2nd—a sacred space for live coaching, community, and the gentle unraveling of what no longer serves you. Sign up here: https://janne-robinson.mykajabi.com/a/2148081458/P2bZhWSA Connect with Janne on her website and join the waitlist for her upcoming book Truth Is Your Medicine. You can also follow her on Facebook and Instagram for updates and don’t forget to visit my website for expert-backed resources to help you heal, grow, and thrive in your relationships. Have you left behind a life that no longer fits—or are you still standing at the edge, unsure what’s next? I’d love to hear your story. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com to share your journey and be considered for a future episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices