Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

We all grapple with an inner critic, incessantly whispering that we're not good enough or worthy of success and love, fostering a cycle of self-criticism. What if we could tame this relentless voice, breaking free from its grip and embracing our authentic selves? The good news is, we can.In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Neal Allen, the author of Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic. Neal takes us on an enlightening journey exploring the human psyche and the often-ignored superego. He shares his expertise on how the inner critic develops, its intentions, its impact on our lives, and fantastic strategies for recognizing and dealing with it. Taming the inner critic isn't just about finding peace; it's a path towards something more profound, something spiritual. We unpack: How to recognize and address the inner critic's impact on our lives The role of compassion in understanding the inner critic  The paradox of perfection and productivity The "Peter Pan Kid" analogy The connection between releasing the inner critic and experiencing moments of grace and divine presence Make sure to visit Neal Allen's website to learn more about the great work he does. You can connect with him on social media too, like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter(X) for updates. If you want to improve yourself and conquer that negative voice inside you, you should definitely read his amazing book "Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic. Make sure to visit my website to check out my books on love, sex and relationships and explore my available courses. Tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself caught in the complicated dance of self-sabotage, where the haunting echoes of past trauma manifest as destructive behavior, over using substances and withdrawal from the world? In this Language of Love Session, Pamela opens up about her struggles with self-sabotaging behavior and past trauma, including excessive drinking and withdrawing from people due to past abuse.In this episode, we’re diving into: Maintaining self-love and overcoming self-sabotaging behavior The impact of past trauma on self-perception and behavior The importance of acknowledging and speaking about past trauma  The role of somatic experiencing therapy in healing trauma  The physical symptoms and coping mechanisms associated with unresolved trauma  Finding peace, love, and happiness within oneself Remember, the journey toward self-love and healing is a continuous process, but with the right tools and support, it is indeed possible. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite! This week I'm going to explore the concept of inner child work and how it can heal past traumas and improve relationships. So, what exactly is inner child work? Well, it's all about connecting with those wounded parts of ourselves that were hurt during our childhood. These parts often carry unresolved emotions and traumas that can impact our adult lives and relationships.One key aspect of inner child work is recognizing that these emotions are just parts of us, not our entire being. By understanding that these wounded parts are separate from our true selves, we can approach them with compassion and create space for healing.Embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery as we explore the transformative power of inner child work. Let's heal our inner wounds and nurture healthier relationships. Check out Richard Schwartz's book, No Bad Parts, along with my course, Good Grief: Healing from Loss with Love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heart aches and and heart breaks will happen for each of us—trust being broken, losing someone we love, or wounds from the past—can shape our lives in significant ways. But the good news is that we can grow through adversity into even better versions of ourselves. In this Language of Love Conversation, I have the honor of hosting the incredible Brandi Sellers-Jackson. Brandi, a masterful storyteller, birth and postpartum doula, and the creative force behind "Not So Private Parts," joins me to discuss her profound new book, "On Thriving: Harnessing Joy Through Life's Great Labors." We dive deep into the heart of trauma, infidelity, grief, and the powerful journey of healing.We unpack: The four “labors”: relationship, mental health, grief and loss, and feeling bothered The path to and power of finding gratitude even in the darkest times The impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships and mental health The concept of re-parenting oneself for healing from childhood trauma The courage it takes to harness self-intimacy and truly know oneself The strength it takes to move forward after betrayal Remember to check out Brandi’s book, On Thriving: Harnessing Joy Through Life's Great Labors, and to connect with her on Linkedin.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired of hearing the same old advice about love and dating? Are you finding it difficult to navigate the dating world, or finding love in a world of swipes, catfishing and ghosting? If you are looking for love and want some advice that will change your whole dating game for the better, tune into this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Damona Hoffman, a celebrity dating coach and author of "F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story". In our conversation, we debunk the common myths about love and dating and how these misconceptions can hinder the process of finding love. We talk about: The common myths and misconceptions about finding love Understanding the concept of "butterflies" in relationships The importance of curiosity and attraction in dating Mindful dating and finding partners on a similar level of awareness Exploring different avenues for dating, including online dating, setups, and communities For more insights and advice from Damona, check out her podcast, Dates and Mates, and her book, F the Fairy Tale, which offers hope and actionable advice for navigating the challenges of modern dating. You can find more information about her book and testimonials from satisfied readers on her website, damonahoffman.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I have the pleasure of sitting down with my lovely friend Susan Grau, an incredible intuitive medium who has gained international recognition for her work. We'll be diving into her new book, Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons, as well as exploring her journey and the fascinating experiences she's had along the way.Susan's story is truly remarkable. She has faced and overcome immense challenges which helped her to discover her intuitive abilities and connect with the other side. She believes that there is hope in eternal life and love and that by understanding our own experiences, we can find healing and growth.We explore so many fascinating topics including how to connect with loved ones on the other side, how to tell the difference between spirit guides and passed loved ones who are coming through, and so much more. Susan sheds light on how to recognize the constant support available to us from the angelic realms and how to invite it more actively into our lives. I hope you're as excited as I am to delve into this conversation with Susan Grau. Her wisdom and experiences are sure to inspire and enlighten us all.Susan and I dive into: How Susan's near-death experience made an impact on her perspective on life Susan's early childhood experiences with intuitive abilities Susan's experiences as a medium and helping others through grief How to connect with the other side and find hope in eternal life and love The difference between spirit guides and loved ones who have passed away How to develop a strong connection to our divine and intuitive skills  Remember to grab a copy of Susan’s book Infinite Life, Infinite Lessons. Happy reading! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for a follow-up session! In a previous Language of Love Session, Marla and Ken opened up about their struggles with intimacy. Ken's performance fears and feelings of inadequacy had led to a dwindling sex life.This week, we’re doing a follow-up session, and I continue my work with Marla and Ken to spice up their love life. And guess what? They're on a roll! I gave them some homework, you know, the fun kind – daily hugs and weekly heart-to-hearts. And guess what? It's working like magic!Marla and Ken are like my relationship rockstars. They've been sharing how these little exercises have turned up the heat and brought them even closer. Can you believe it? Hugs and chats, people – that's the secret sauce!I gave them a virtual high-five for sticking to it. I mean, commitment level: expert! But you know me, always looking for ways to level up. So, I threw in a few more suggestions to keep the love train chugging along.We got into a cool chat about communication and trust – the real MVPs in any relationship. They're totally vibing with the idea and are all in to keep the good vibes flowing. It's like they've unlocked a new level of emotional and sensual connection.So, there you have it – Marla and Ken are the dynamic duo, taking on the world one hug at a time. Can't wait to see what other relationship adventures we'll embark on togetherThis journey with Marla and Ken has been a testament to the power of open communication, commitment, and the willingness to work on a relationship. Their story serves as an inspiration for couples facing similar issues, reminding us all that with the right guidance and effort, we can rebuild and strengthen our relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Language of Love Bite! Let’s delve into the heart of human connection, breaking down barriers, and challenging long-standing misconceptions surrounding one of the most intimate aspects of our lives.In this episode, we shed light on a topic that's been shrouded in myths for far too long. Join us as we navigate the landscape of pleasure, discussing and debunking the top five orgasm myths that have lingered in our collective consciousness for years. From the misconceptions about how women reach orgasm to the truth behind vibrators and the surprising revelation that men are not immune to faking it— we're leaving no stone unturned.Let’s continue to explore, learn, and debunk myths about our love lives. Keep the conversation going, and remember, there's no such thing as a silly question when it comes to love and intimacy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know there’s such a thing as Drama Addiction? Today in the Language of Love Conversation, I'm joined by Dr. Scott Lyons, and we're tackling this intriguing topic. From genetics and biochemistry to environmental triggers, we're exploring the roots of this addiction, often linked to trauma and a need to fill emotional voids. Picture drama addicts as thrill-seekers, creating chaos to dodge anxiety and boredom. The catch? This addiction doesn't just affect individuals; it's a relationship wrecking ball.Dr. Scott and I discuss the unsettling impact of drama addiction on connections and share strategies for breaking free. We're big on self-awareness and somatic experiencing as tools to understand and overcome this addiction. By addressing the root causes head-on, we believe in fostering effective recovery.While these techniques are helpful, it's important to address the core issues and underlying causes of drama addiction. When looking for a clinician or support for drama addiction, I suggest seeking someone who specializes in trauma and addiction. A clinician who is trained in somatic experiencing can be very effective in treating drama addiction.Here is a sneak peek at the episode: Drama addiction and its prevalence in our culture Explanation of drama addiction as unnecessary turmoil and intensification of emotions The connection between drama addiction and trauma, dissociation, and filling a void Characteristics of drama addicts, such as focusing on external stimuli and seeking chaos Dynamics of drama addiction in relationships and the role of co-regulation Discussion on drama addicts as energy vampires and fear of intimacy Importance of recognizing and breaking the addiction cycle of drama and stress Strategies for breaking the addiction cycle, including observing reactions and exploring underlying feelings and needs Techniques for managing drama addiction, such as the "step back" and "taking the silverware back" techniques  Visit Dr. Scott's website to learn more about the cool stuff he does. Take a look at his book "Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others" by Dr. Scott Lyons. You can also connect with Dr. Scott on LinkedIn. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener who's dealing with some serious relationship hurdles. Picture this: cultural clashes, power struggles, and a partner who's not exactly a cheerleader for her spiritual journey. Theresa reached out to me for advice on navigating cultural differences and power dynamics with her husband. It turns out that her husband isn't very supportive of her spiritual pursuits and often blames her for their son's misbehavior. Not an easy situation to be in, right? In this episode, we’re discussing: Why sticking to traditional gender roles and gender expectations in a relationship doesn’t always work The importance of staying true to your passions and beliefs even if they differ from your partner's How to deal with a partner's critical behavior with healthy conflict resolution and boundaries  The challenges of navigating new dynamics and expectations after having children How a relationship can impact a child and why it's crucial to provide a healthy relationship model for them Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you're supported and respected. Don't be afraid to prioritize your own happiness and growth. You've got this! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices