A Gay and A NonGay

It's another week of A Gay And A NonGay and we're got a bunch of catching up to do!James has just returned from Australia, whilst Dan has returned from New York... we find out all about what they have been getting up to and their views on the political climate under President Trump. What is the potential impacts on the cuts to DEI initiatives and the rights of the LGBTQ+ community?We also tackle a listener's question about the prevalence of open relationships in the queer community and explore what might be causing this trend.Thank you to our sponsors...Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trigger Warning: This episode contains multiple mentions of suicide and suicidal thoughts as well as themes that some listeners may find triggering.In many ways, Caroline Litman was the type of supportive Mum that any trans child could dream to have. She was supportive of her daughter, Alice, who was on the waiting list for gender affirming care.Alice was on the waiting list for a gender identity clinic appointment for 1,023 days when she took her own life. Ever since then, Caroline has fought for trans rights, in an attempt to ensure that the pain her daughter went through never needs to be experienced by anybody else, ever again.On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by Caroline to talk about the state of trans rights in the UK, her embarrassment about what she used to believe, whether we should be respectful to transphobic people online and why the gender critical movement is so well organised.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

She's the name on everybody's lips... but what does the rise of Bonnie Blue tell us about societal double standards?In a society that is increasingly sex positive, it seems that opinions differ amongst the A Gay And A NonGay community. Dan (representing the NonGays) feels like maybe this has all gone too far... whilst James (representing the Gays) believes that the outrage exposes some hypocrisy in society. Through-out the debate, both James and Dan grapple with their own opinions and shed light on the broader implications of sexual freedom and stigma.Plus, before all of this, a Super Bowl prediction... after the Super Bowl!Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're throwing it back this week on A Gay And A NonGay as we revisit James & Dan's episode with Jack Rook, from Channel 4's Big Boys.Recorded live at Edinburgh Fringe in 2019, James and Dan chat all about the acclaimed TV show, plus they talk about dealing with homophobia at school, overcoming internalised shame, redefining mental health within the queer community and the dynamics of their own identities.Jack also highlights the importance of diverse representation and collective support among LGBTQ+ individuals.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't worry, we haven't just time travelled back to 2021! This week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay is recorded virtually... but Dan & James are still the same (even if they do speak over each other a bit).Once the hilarious technical bits get ironed out, we're asking: What makes you a 'massive gay'? We're digging into the stereotypes found in everyday conversations and debunking them, one gay and nongay at a time.Plus, James and Dan turn to politics to discussing the implications of President Trump's policies on marginalised communities in the US. Could those corporate Pride initiatives be fading into the background?Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Drag queen, stand-up comic and author Holly Stars is this weeks guest on A Gay And A NonGay!Ever wondered what it takes to conquer the allusive worlds of both drag and comedy? Holly joins James and Dan to share her experiences in both worlds! She also shares her thoughts about why musicals are so alluring to queer communities and how she brings all of this into her smash-hit new drag murder mystery Death Drop!Plus - do straight people still not exist? We'll come back to you on that one...Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're talking all things marriage proposals and gay weddings on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay!So... who should propose? James and Dan are breaking down the traditional roles expected in relationships and challenging the patriarchal norms. Plus, what gets James U-turning on his thoughts about weddings?Towards the end of the episode, we take a look at body shaming as we try to embrace our best lives in 2020 Thrive.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would you ever go gay for hay? Kicking off this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan consider whether pretending to be gay to secure a roof on your head is... ethical? It's kind of complicated.As we dive deeper into the episode, we go into the big topic of straight men's silence on prominent cases of women's abuse, particularly the trial of Gisèle Pelicot. James passionately argues for the responsibility of straight men to be vocal allies, suggesting that guilt or fear of past actions might be reasons for their silence.The episode challenges you to reflect on your role in supporting marginalised communities and encourages open dialogue about difficult subjects.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week is just a quick check-in with our A Gay And A NonGay community as James Barr has an announcement about down under (not like that!), James and Dan reveal the results of a poll about sexual preferences and we chat about negative comments from TikTok!Think of this as a brisk affair lasting just over 8 minutes... you feel light and giddy at the end, and can't wait to come back for more.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Ryan O’Neill & Kaue Garcia bought their beloved local rugby club the Keighley Cougars in 2018, they never expected the backlash that would come.Having saved the club from bankruptcy, and making it the only openly LGBTQ-owned professional sports club outside of the US, they sought to make it an inclusive, LGBTQ-friendly space, putting diversity at the heart of the club.On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan meet Ryan & Kue to talk about the backlash they have received in response to their transformation of the Keighley Cougars, how owning the club has allowed them to heal from the homophobia experienced growing up, and the importance of making sports more welcoming for LGBTQ+ athletes and fans.Follow A Gay & A NonGayTikTok: @gaynongayInstagram: @gaynongayYouTube: @gaynongayFacebook: @gaynongayWebsite: gaynongay.comEmail Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices