The Love Drive with Shaun Galanos

From clothing to flirting, from our fascination with youth and innocence to the orgasm gap, every aspect of women's lives is dictated by their status as sex objects, and it's a problem.  Journalist, columnist, actress, and now author Lili Boisvert wrote a book on how women are set up to fail at sex, the problem with over-sexualizing women and under-sexualizing men, and how we can start to reverse this dangerous dynamic. What you'll learn (or why you should care): • The dangers of women having a passive role in courtship, sex, and life • Why the patriarchy insists that we do not sexualize men like we do women • How we can begin to change the dynamics at play for more bedroom and worldwide equality Where to find Lili Boisvert: Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lili.boisvert Facebook page for Les Brutes https://www.facebook.com/lesbrutestelequebec Mentioned on the podcast: Lili's book, Screwed: How Women Are Set Up to Fail at Sex https://amzn.to/2F2ggfj Dr. Ian Kener's book, She Comes First https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D The movie, The Graduate https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0061722/ Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Become a Contributing Lovebird Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/

Jealousy can be one of the most frustrating emotions that you'll face in your relationship. It can drive you to insanity. But what if you'd found a way to turn that jealousy upside down; what if you could derive pleasure out of situations that used to drive you mad?  Blogger, researcher, and author Marie-Claude L'Archer wrote the book on compersion, a relatively new term in the polyamorous community that means just that. Compersion is the act of deriving pleasure from seeing your partner happy with another person. And guess what? It's not just for polyamorous folks. You can start accessing this emotion in your monogamous couple today, and we'll show you how.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): • How to derive pleasure from seeing your partner happy with another person • How getting your needs met will make everything better for everyone • Dealing with insecurity in your relationship • Ways to get your needs met through various avenues lead to happier relationships Where to find Marie Claude L'Archer: Website https://hypatiafromspace.com/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/blogpolyamour/ Mentioned on the podcast: Marie Claude's book, Compersion: Polyamory Without Jealousy https://amzn.to/2KqAD9E Marianne Williamson's' book, A Return to Love https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Become a Contributing Lovebird Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/

Remember the story of my first sex party? There were two main characters in that story; the woman with the red fishnet dress, and the one with curly hair in the black dress. I thought it might be fun to interview the woman in the little black dress and get her side of the story. From meeting up in line at the bathroom, to the awkwardness around introducing me to her fiancé, she shares what was going through her mind that night. If you'd like some free love advice of your own, send me a message and tell me what you'd like support with: https://thelovedrive.com/contact/ Or, visit me on Instagram for Free Love Advice Fridays: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ If you'd like to support The Love Drive and become a contributing lovebird, then I invite you to do so here: https://thelovedrive.com/join/

Relationships are hard, messy, and confusing, and they will never stabilize. Bummer, but there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Susan Piver is a meditation instructor, best-selling author and she shows us how to meet that instability with your partner and how to turn it into love.  Susan took The Four Noble Truth, a Buddhist concept, and applied them to love and relationships. She's here to share how it made a large impact on her relationship and how you can start using these tools right away.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): • The importance of cultivating inner kindness towards yourself and your partner • What to do when you realize that your relationship will never stabilize  • How to create a safe and welcoming container for your partner • The Enneagram and how to use it to understand how your partner communicates Where to find Susan Piver: Website https://susanpiver.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/susan.piver/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/piversusan/ Mentioned on the podcast: Susan Piver's book, The Four Noble Truths of Love https://amzn.to/2YGiGHE Sam Harris' book, Lying https://amzn.to/2VOKgWw Marianne Williamson's' book, A Return to Love https://amzn.to/2Em8w7D The Wisdom of the Enneagram https://amzn.to/2YCKLjh The Open Heart Project https://susanpiver.com/open-heart-project/ Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Become a Contributing Lovebird Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/

Welcome to Storytime, a new segment from The Love Drive. Today, the story of both my first and second sex parties: how terrified I was at both, why you should check your lube to make sure it's not hand sanitizer, and the importance of friends who can support you through new experiences. Enjoy; I sure did.  If you'd like some free love advice of your own, send me a message and tell me what you'd like support with: https://thelovedrive.com/contact/ Or, visit me on Instagram for Free Love Advice Fridays: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ If you'd like to support The Love Drive and become a contributing lovebird, then I invite you to do so here: https://thelovedrive.com/join/

Julia is in love with a much older man. They met when she was in her early twenties and they never expected it to last this long. Julia has dreamed of getting married since she was a little girl, and she's highly motivated to because of how successful her parent's marriage was. The only issue is, her partner refuses to get married. How can they navigate something that is a deal breaker for each other, while also desperately wanting to stay together? If you'd like some free love advice of your own, send me a message and tell me what you'd like support with: https://thelovedrive.com/contact/ Or, visit me on Instagram for Free Love Advice Fridays: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ If you'd like to support The Love Drive and become a contributing lovebird, then I invite you to do so here: https://thelovedrive.com/join/

This is part 2 of Making Space For Someone New. If you didn't listen to last weeks episode, I recommend you do to get the full story. On today's episode, Samantha and I discuss ways for her to meet new people, to expand her dating pool, and what would happen if she posted pictures of herself with her wheelchair on dating sites. And then, I check back in with Samantha, some three months later to get up to speed on her love life. If you'd like some free love advice of your own, send me a message and tell me what you'd like support with: https://thelovedrive.com/contact/ Or, visit me on Instagram for Free Love Advice Fridays: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ If you'd like to support The Love Drive and become a contributing lovebird, then I invite you to do so here: https://thelovedrive.com/join/

Samantha is in love with a man who in many ways meets her needs. But in a few very fundamental ways, he does not. Samantha struggles with meeting new people, made more challenging by the fact that she has a visible disability. Her needing to use a wheelchair makes it harder for her to meet new people. Does she stay with a person who partially meets her needs, or jumps into the dating scene knowing that it's harder with folks with disabilities? If you'd like some free love advice of your own, send me a message and tell me what you'd like support with: https://thelovedrive.com/contact/ Or, visit me on Instagram for Free Love Advice Fridays: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/ If you'd like to support The Love Drive and become a contributing lovebird, then I invite you to do so here: https://thelovedrive.com/join/

Erica met her then boyfriend at the age of 19 years old. She walked into Chemistry 101 and was immediately smitten by the tall, quiet, hunk of a man. She was also drawn to a very specific part of his anatomy that was quite hard to miss. Erica and I talk about her on again off again relationship with Eric (that's right. Meet Erica and Eric) and the particular way in which they slowly opened up their relationship to include other partners. Welcome to Real Love Stories, a new segment from The Love Drive Podcast.  If you have a Real Love Story of your own, send me a message and tell me a little about it. I might pick it for my next recording: https://thelovedrive.com/contact/ If you'd like to support The Love Drive and become a contributing lovebird, then I invite you to do so here: https://thelovedrive.com/join/

We can't flirt and seduce like we use to. The landscape is changing and what we used to get away with no longer works. It's time to step up our seduction game, but how are we supposed to know what works when different people react to different approaches. Thank goodness for people like Dr. Alison Ash. She's a sex and intimacy coach, educator, and the founder of TurnON.love. She's the host of a fantastic workshop called Sleaze-Free Seduction Skills and she's here to show us how sexy seduction can be when it's done with respect and honesty. Let's dive in.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): • The Three-Part Invite to minimize your risk of getting it wrong • How The Almost Kiss takes the guesswork out of the first kiss • What you can do to make talking about consent sexy • Real life examples of sleaze-free seduction you can start using right away Where to find Dr. Alison Ash: Website http://www.turnon.love/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/turnon.love/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/turnon.love/ Mentioned on the podcast: A list of Alison's workshops http://www.turnon.love/upcoming The Perfect Pickup Line blog post https://thelovedrive.com/the-perfect-pickup-line/ What Women Wished You Knew About Oral Sex https://thelovedrive.com/what-women-wished-you-knew-about-oral-sex/ Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Become a Contributing Lovebird Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/