You Are Not A Frog

Dr Rachel Morris
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Mar 30, 2026 • 16min

When 'Can You Help' Doesn't Feel Like a Question (Part 2 of The Over-Responsibility Trap)

Have you ever had someone ask for “a quick bit of help”… and somehow ended up owning the entire task?In caring professions, requests for help can feel less like requests and more like responsibilities landing on us. We’re trained to notice problems, fix things and support colleagues - which means it can feel incredibly uncomfortable to say no.In this Quick Dip episode, Rachel explores the moment when a simple request triggers our helping reflex, and why so many capable professionals end up carrying work that was never meant to be theirs.Learning to pause before automatically saying yes can help you support colleagues without becoming the automatic carrier of responsibility for everyone and everything.Key ideas discussed in this episodeWhy requests for help often feel like obligationsThe “helping reflex” in caring professionsHow small requests can quietly become your responsibilityThe difference between caring about something and carrying itWhy saying yes when you don’t have capacity can lead to resentmentHow awareness helps you respond to requests more intentionallyResources mentioned:The Shapes AcademyBrené Brown — “Clear is kind”Passing the Naughty Monkey Back with Dr Amit Sharma
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Mar 23, 2026 • 1h 2min

Freelance vs Employed - On Which Side is the Grass Greener?

The founder of the National Association of Sessional GPs on whether the grass is always greener, and the changes you can make in your career without feeling like a frog forced to jump out of the pan.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Overwhelm SOS Guide Discover the simple, step-by-step process you need to calm your mind, take control of your tasks, and get yourself out of overwhelm.
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Mar 16, 2026 • 14min

Why Responsibility Keeps Landing on You (Part 1 of The Over-Responsibility Trap)

Have you ever looked at a task on your plate and wondered when it became your responsibility?Nobody asked you to do it. Nobody assigned it to you. But somehow it landed on you, and now you're carrying it.In this Quick Dip, Rachel explores the responsibility trap - the pattern where capable and conscientious professionals automatically pick up unclaimed problems. Over time, these responsibilities accumulate, increasing your workload, emotional labour, and ultimately contributing to burnout.This episode explores why responsible people are particularly vulnerable to this trap and how being more deliberate about what you choose to carry can protect both your energy and your professional identity.Resources mentionedDr Sarah Coope’s LinkedIn article on the “silence gap”FrogFest Virtual: The Doubt Busters - a half-day online symposium for doctors and senior healthcare professionals happening on 3 June 2026.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtra
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Mar 9, 2026 • 47min

How to Use Clean Language to Stop Rescuing and Really Feel Your Feelings

Mindset shifts to help you explore difficult feelings and find solutions without falling into rescuer mode or getting overwhelmed.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Overwhelm SOS Guide Discover the simple, step-by-step process you need to calm your mind, take control of your tasks, and get yourself out of overwhelm.
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Mar 2, 2026 • 26min

You Can’t Meditate Yourself Out of a 60-Hour Work Week

There’s more on your plate than you realise, and most likely you’re trying to cram 25 hours of work into a 24 hour day, not counting sleep and time away from work. Here’s some practical advice to help you see what’s on your plate, and what you need to sacrifice.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraDownload the Overwhelm SOS ToolkitDownload the Thrive Week Planner
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Feb 23, 2026 • 1h 2min

When Speaking Up is Stressful – A Psychology Researcher Tells Us What to Do Instead

What happens when we need to raise a serious concern that could affect patient safety? And what happens if someone raises a concern to you?Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Overwhelm SOS Guide Discover the simple, step-by-step process you need to calm your mind, take control of your tasks, and get yourself out of overwhelm.
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Feb 16, 2026 • 18min

You Do Not Have to Be Good

What does it mean for a doctor to be “good”? Can you be “good” and still take care of yourself? And how can we rescue ourselves from the trap of thinking that asking for support is somehow a moral failing?Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtra
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Feb 9, 2026 • 46min

How to Tell if Your Workplace is Toxic or Just Misaligned to You

Claire Plumley, clinical psychologist and author focused on trauma, burnout and nervous-system-informed workplace care. She talks about spotting real toxicity like bullying, unsafe structures and blame cultures. Claire explains nervous-system signs of harm and how values or strengths misfit can drain you. Practical prompts help decide whether to stay or move on.
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Feb 2, 2026 • 38min

How to Stop Overthinking at Work (Without Ignoring the Real Problems)

And what BBC’s The Traitors can teach us about trust, group-think, and truth.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraFind more links and show notes via our website
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Jan 26, 2026 • 48min

The Dangerous Programming That Influences Over-responsible Doctors

Practical techniques to help you respond when someone makes demands on your time, from an expert in mediation and team coaching.Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtraMentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Overwhelm SOS Guide Discover the simple, step-by-step process you need to calm your mind, take control of your tasks, and get yourself out of overwhelm.

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