Psyche

In this episode of Psyche Podcast, I’m joined by my friend Phuc Luu for a wide-ranging and deeply personal conversation about Letter to His Father by Franz Kafka.Kafka’s letter is often described as one of the most raw and devastating documents in modern literature—and for good reason. Written as an attempt to explain his lifelong fear of his father, the letter becomes an unflinching examination of authority, power, guilt, shame, and the psychological formation of the self. Together, Phuc and I explore why this text is emotionally difficult yet strikingly clear, and how Kafka’s relationship with his father shaped not only his inner life but also his creativity, relationships, and sense of agency in the world.Our conversation moves through themes of fatherhood as an archetype, the role of authority as influence rather than domination, and how early relational wounds can become internalized as an inner critic or superego. We reflect on Kafka’s struggle with trust—both in others and in himself—his awareness of hypocrisy and projection, and the tragic weight of guilt that followed him throughout his life without any real sense of acquittal or redemption.At the same time, we resist reducing Kafka’s father to a caricature. Like Kafka himself, we hold space for nuance—acknowledging both the harm and the humanity present in parental relationships. From there, we connect the letter to contemporary questions: How do we relate to our parents as adults? When does cutting off family become protective, and when does it prevent growth? How do we move from victimhood toward agency without denying real harm?We close by reflecting on what Kafka’s letter teaches us about fatherhood—not just as a biological role, but as an archetypal function. What does it mean to be a father figure who creates space for experimentation, difference, and becoming? And how can therapists, mentors, and teachers embody authority that empowers rather than constrains?This episode is a meditation on woundedness and creativity, guilt and grace, and the difficult but necessary work of making meaning out of our earliest relationships. 

In this episode, I spend time with Franz Kafka’s Letter to His Father—one of the most intimate and unsettling texts he ever wrote.Kafka famously tells his father, “My writing was all about you.”And it’s hard to deny the profound psychic impact fathers can have on their sons: the shaping of authority, judgment, fear, and the inner critic.But this episode doesn’t stop there.Drawing on postmodern sociology, attachment-adjacent insights, and reflections on power and masculinity, I explore a more difficult question:What if the father is sometimes less the sole cause and more the carrier of something larger—culture, authority, masculinity, and expectation?We look closely at Kafka’s memories of watching his father speak to employees in the family shop, his identification with the humiliated rather than the powerful, and how authority becomes internalized as inhibition rather than confidence.This is an episode about fathers—but also about power, shame, internalized judgment, and how entire worlds get inside us long before we know how to name them.If you’ve ever struggled with authority, self-doubt, or the voice inside that tells you you’re already in the wrong, this episode is for you.🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Before I ever watched Stranger Things, I read J.F. Martel’s philosophical essays on it. That reversal mattered.In this solo episode, I offer a close, reflective reading of J.F. Martel’s Reality Is Analog essays, using Stranger Things as a lens for thinking about the Real—that dimension of reality that resists explanation, control, and reduction.This is not a plot analysis and contains no spoilers. Instead, I explore why the series resonates so deeply at a psychological level: its refusal to domesticate mystery, its resistance to a fully digitized view of reality, and its quiet insistence that imagination is not an escape from the world but a way of staying in contact with it.At the center of the episode is one of the show’s most radical claims: that ordinary children—through curiosity, play, courage, and care—are capable of extraordinary things. Not because they dominate the strange, but because they remain open to it.As the series comes to an end, this episode reflects on what Stranger Things leaves us with: a posture toward reality that values attentiveness over mastery, relationship over control, and wonder over explanation. Reality, after all, is still strange.And that may be its greatest gift.

In this wide-ranging and intimate conversation, I’m joined by writer and former sex worker Liara Roux to explore her provocative and deeply human book The Whore of New York, alongside her online essay Pussy Capital.My partner and wife, Amy Galpin, joins us for this episode, helping shape a conversation that moves fluidly between psychology, sexuality, capitalism, religion, neurodivergence, intimacy, and power. Together, we talk with Liara about her experience in sex work as a site of boundary-making, one-to-one connection, and self-knowledge; the lasting imprint of conservative Christianity on desire and commitment; and what her work reveals about shame, fantasy, and the stories we tell ourselves about sex and worth.We also explore neurodivergence and one-on-one intimacy, the emotional labor men often bring into paid sexual encounters, and the surprising overlap between sex work and psychotherapy. In the latter part of the conversation, we turn to technology and AI, drawing on Liara’s reflections in Pussy Capital to consider what gets lost when intimacy becomes frictionless—and why being seen, unjudged, and fully human still matters.This episode is thoughtful, vulnerable, funny, and unflinchingly honest. It’s a conversation about desire and dignity, suffering and agency, and what it means to choose a life that doesn’t fit neatly into moral or cultural scripts.  

In this solo episode, I offer an in-depth exploration of Psychotherapy and the Daimonic, a remarkable essay by Rollo May, originally published in Myths, Dreams, and Religion, edited by Joseph Campbell.Rollo May introduces the daimonic as any natural force within the human being that has the power to take over the whole person. Far from equating the daimonic with evil or pathology, May argues that it names a fundamental dimension of human power—one that can be creative or destructive depending on whether it is consciously confronted or denied.In this episode, I situate May historically within the development of existential psychotherapy, explore his critiques of behaviorism and humanistic therapy, and reflect on his striking use of myth, language, and religious symbolism. Along the way, I examine themes such as aggression, loneliness, anxiety, repression, panic, and the role of naming in therapeutic change.Drawing on May’s discussion of figures like Rainer Maria Rilke and William James, I reflect on why naming alone is never enough—why words can disclose the daimonic but also conceal it through intellectualization—and how genuine healing requires a change in the myths by which we live.This episode is a philosophical and clinical meditation on psychotherapy not as symptom management or adjustment, but as a process of initiation: helping individuals come into conscious relationship with power, reclaim what once possessed them, and move from blind force toward meaning.

In this solo episode, I reflect on Lars von Trier’s Melancholia—a film often described as dark or depressing, yet one I found strangely clarifying and alive.After briefly situating the film within von Trier’s long career, I offer a grounded overview of its structure and themes before moving into deeper psychological and philosophical territory. Drawing on psychoanalysis and existential therapy, I explore how Melancholia portrays depression not simply as pathology, but as a slowing down—a descent into depth in a culture addicted to speed, optimism, and surface meaning.Using the work of James Hillman, Freud, Lacan, and existential thinkers like Kierkegaard and Heidegger, I reflect on melancholia as a confrontation with truth rather than something to be rushed past or fixed. The episode considers what the film can teach us about despair, authenticity, and what remains when familiar structures of meaning fall away.This is an episode about staying with difficult emotions long enough to listen—about refusing easy reassurance in favor of depth, honesty, and presence.

What comes after  toxic masculinity?In this solo episode, I take a deep dive into Ben Almassi’s book Nontoxic: Masculinity, Allyship, and Feminist Philosophy—a work that has stayed with me both intellectually and personally. Rather than simply critiquing harmful forms of masculinity, Almassi asks a more difficult and necessary question: if masculinity can be toxic, what might a non-toxic masculinity actually look like?I explore this question by engaging three major tensions that many contemporary men—and clinicians who work with them—are facing right now.First, I offer a respectful but critical examination of the mythopoetic men’s movement (think Robert Bly and Sam Keen). While acknowledging the movement’s compassion for male suffering, I reflect on how its emphasis on an essential, ancient masculinity—often recovered in separation from women—ultimately reinscribes the very gender boundaries it seeks to heal.Second, I share my appreciation for Almassi’s central contribution: reframing masculinity not as an inner essence or fixed identity, but as a set of practices shaped through relationship, accountability, power, and history. This shift—from masculinity as something we are to something we do—opens up new possibilities for change, responsibility, and growth.Finally, I speak personally about my own ongoing struggle to define masculinity in a way that avoids both unhealthy patriarchal norms and the abstract ideal of androgyny that, while philosophically compelling, often fails to resonate with men’s lived experience. Almassi’s concept of feminist allyship masculinity—grounded in what he calls “the unjust meantime”—offers a way to stay engaged with masculinity without mythologizing it or erasing it.This episode is a slow, thoughtful conversation with a book—and with a question I don’t think has easy answers. If you’re interested in masculinity beyond slogans, purity narratives, or culture-war binaries, this one is for you.If you'd like to read the book for yourself you can find it here for free.

In this episode, I explore one of the most haunting and philosophically rich interviews ever recorded: a conversation between Ernest Becker and Sam Keen, conducted in a hospital room in Vancouver just months before Becker’s death in 1974.Becker, best known for The Denial of Death, understood this interview as a test of everything he had written about mortality, illusion, heroism, and the human condition. No longer speaking at a theoretical distance, Becker reflects on death while actively dying—placing his ideas under the pressure of lived finitude.Sam Keen, serving as more than an interviewer, presses Becker on the limits of tragic realism. Throughout their exchange, they grapple with fundamental questions:– Is culture an immortality project?– Why does the denial of death give rise to scapegoating and evil?– Can heroism exist without victims?– Is terror the final truth of existence—or is there also fascination, joy, and transcendence?In this episode, I walk carefully through the interview itself—following its arguments, tensions, and unresolved questions—while reflecting on what it means to think honestly at the edge of life.If you want to engage the original text directly, you can read the full interview here:📄 Read the full Becker–Keen interview (PDF):https://static1.squarespace.com/static/6452c81301e81c6a31e90407/t/65624e699537da6632dda560/1700941418443/Becker-Keen+Interview+transcript.pdfThis conversation does not offer comfort or closure—but it does offer intellectual courage, philosophical seriousness, and a rare glimpse of thought confronting its own limits.

In this episode, I take a deep dive into I Don’t Want to Talk About It by Terrence Real, a landmark work that changed how we understand depression in men.Male depression often doesn’t look like sadness. It shows up as anger, withdrawal, numbness, overwork, or a quiet collapse of intimacy. Drawing from Real’s insights and my own work as a psychotherapist, this episode explores how shame, emotional silence, and intergenerational legacies shape the inner lives of men—and why so many struggle without ever naming their pain as depression.I explore:Why male depression is so often hidden and misunderstoodHow shame becomes the core emotional wound for many menThe legacy of emotionally absent or unreachable fathersDepression as a relational injury rather than a personal failureWhat effective psychotherapy with men actually requiresWhy connection, dignity, and emotional safety matter more than “opening up”This episode is for therapists, clinicians, and anyone interested in men’s mental health, masculinity, and the deeper emotional costs of silence. It’s also for men who’ve felt disconnected, irritable, or unseen—but never quite “depressed” in the way the word is usually defined.If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to talk about it,” this conversation is an invitation to understand why—and what healing can look like when men are met with respect, compassion, and real relational safety.

In this episode, I explore a concept that immediately stopped me in my tracks: the otrovert.I first encountered this idea when my wife shared an article with me and said, “This feels like you.” The article introduced the term otrovert—someone who isn’t quite an introvert or an extrovert, but a person who can enjoy people deeply while still feeling fundamentally outside of groups.That moment sent me down a rabbit hole. I bought the Kindle edition of The Gift of Not Belonging by Rami Kaminsky, read it in a weekend, and then bought the hardcover because I knew this was a concept I wanted to stay with and think alongside my clinical work, my own life, and this podcast.In this episode, I slow things down and really unpack what Kaminsky means by the otrovert:– what it explains about personality and belonging– how it differs from introversion, social anxiety, or misanthropy– the quiet pain of being “other” in a joiner-oriented culture– and the unexpected gifts that can come from not being pulled toward group identityI also spend time carefully exploring how the idea of the otrovert might have a Venn diagram relationship with autism—without collapsing personality into diagnosis or difference into disorder.This is an episode for anyone who has felt socially capable but never quite drawn to belonging, who prefers depth over groups, or who has always lived slightly to the side of the herd and wondered why.Sometimes the right word doesn’t box us in.Sometimes it gives us room to breathe.