The Self-Driven Child

Join me as I chat with Kaity Broadbent, a trailblazer in education! We explore mastery-based learning, student autonomy, and the revolution of micro-schools. Kaity shares insights on individualized learning, self-determination theory, and the importance of relatedness, competency, and autonomy in education.

Psychologist William Stixrud, Ph.D., discusses college readiness, emphasizing emotional resilience over academic preparation. They cover mental health challenges, stress management, life skills, self-care, and the importance of sleep for adolescent brain development. Strategies for high-achieving students, self-evaluation, and stress relief are also discussed, highlighting the transition to college and sustainable success.

Seasoned higher education expert Jeff Selingo delves into the chaos of college admissions, discussing the evolution of early decision strategies, the commercial dynamics of admissions, the emotional toll on students, the quest for diversity, and the pursuit of a vast applicant pool. He encourages students to broaden their college search, debunking the myth of the 'perfect applicant' and exploring alternative pathways.

Journalist Lisa L. Lewis discusses the importance of sleep for teens and her role in changing school start times in California. She explains how sleep deprivation affects learning and behavior, and provides tips for ensuring teens get enough rest. The episode covers the science of sleep, the impact of irregular sleep on academic performance, and the emotional resilience of sleep-deprived teens.

Discover unique parenting strategies from indigenous communities like the Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe that focus on cooperation and trust. Learn about emotional regulation techniques and the importance of personalized guidance in raising children. Explore the shift towards collaboration in parenting and the impact of cultural practices on shaping happy, helpful little humans.

The podcast discusses intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation, natural consequences, coping skills, and ambivalence towards change. They share advice for parents, laugh about a story from their book, and wish everyone a happy new year.

I have spent over 25 years talking with parents about supporting their kids' education and wellbeing. After a turbulent few years dealing with the pandemic, I offer compassionate reflections on what I’ve learned about helping kids heal up before catching up academically.Episode Highlights:[02:22] - Kids tend to heal up before they catch up academically after disruptions like COVID.[05:11] - Focus on balancing healthy inflows and outflows of stress for families.[07:33] - Importance of parents being a non-anxious presence for kids.[09:44] - Let kids solve their own problems; don't take over.[12:11] - Anecdote about letting his son handle his own last-minute paper crunch.[15:55] - Excelling in college after years of school struggles.[19:22] - Kids want to do well even if they seem resistant.[21:33] - Changing the energy from pressure to support with a struggling student.[25:44] - Taking the long view and having confidence in kids.[27:11] - Things can get better even after really tough years.If this episode has struck a chord with you, remember to rate, follow, and share the Self-Driven Child Podcast. Your support helps us reach more people and create more content that makes a difference. Here's to growing, learning, and thriving as adults in this wild world. Until next time!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

Former Stanford Dean and bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims delves into the exhilarating journey of adulting, emphasizing humility, vulnerability, and the necessity of stepping out of comfort zones for personal growth. Discussions include the power of human connection, embracing diverse narratives, and the vital role of mentors in personal development.

This Thanksgiving episode tackles the inevitable family drama that comes with the holiday. I sat down with parenting experts Phyllis L. Fagell and Dr. Robyn Silverman to get their tips for navigating tricky conversations and situations with family members. We covered how to set expectations beforehand, validate kids' feelings without agreeing, use humor to defuse tense moments, and provide coping tools for when things go off the rails. The goal is to make the holiday more enjoyable for everyone - kids and adults alike! Tune in for practical strategies to make this Thanksgiving drama-free.I was joined by two of my favorite parenting experts:·         Phyllis L. Fagell, school counselor and author of “Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times”.·         Dr. Robyn Silverman, child and teen development specialist and author of “How to Talk to Kids about Anything: Tips, Scripts, Stories, and Steps to Make Even the Toughest Conversations Easier”. Timeline Summary:[02:00] How to set expectations with family beforehand.[03:57] Understanding kids' sensitivity around changes in their appearance.[06:09] Making sure adults are aware of their own triggers.[09:36] Giving kids an “out” if conversations get uncomfortable.[12:18] Redirecting family away from constant questions about school.[14:06] Using humor and screens to diffuse tense moments.[18:08] Coaching kids on sharing funny videos/memes.[19:29] Helping kids not feel “on the spot” in conversations.[22:10] Getting to know grandparents as real people, not just authority figures.[23:08] Alternatives to repetitive questions about school.[27:25] Validating kids' feelings when things go wrong.[31:53] Agreeing on facts versus feelings.[33:07] Using different coping mechanisms based on the child.[35:05] Having distractions/diversions ready when things go downhill.[35:50] Importance of food and blood sugar levels. Links & Resources:·         Washington Post Article: Getting silly with your kids is vital. Here’s how to get play into your day.·         Phyllis L. Fagell: https://phyllisfagell.com/ ·         Dr. Robyn Silverman: o   Website: https://www.drrobynsilverman.com o   Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/DrRobynSilverman/  I hope these practical tips help make Thanksgiving a little smoother for your family! If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, share, and review. Happy Thanksgiving!If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com

I'm joined by my co-host and co-author of The Self-Driven Child Dr. William Stixrud to discuss how to be a non-anxious presence for your kids when things feel stressful and scary in the world. As parents and educators, modeling calmness and confidence helps children feel braver.Dr. Bill Stixrud is a clinical neuropsychologist and co-author of the bestselling books The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say? His work focuses on supporting kids to build resilience, motivation, and handle anxiety. Timeline Summary:[00:39] - Introducing the idea of a "non-anxious presence" and why it's so valuable for kids.[02:43] - Where Dr. Stixrud first came across this concept and what it means.[04:37] - Children look to parents' reactions in stressful situations. Staying calm helps kids feel confident.[06:16] - Accepting worst-case scenarios while remaining motivated to support your child.[09:23] - Taking care of yourself models self-care and brings equilibrium.[11:06] - The benefits of scheduling prescribed worry time.[12:40] - Dr. Stixrud's 50-year meditation practice for managing stress.[15:43] - Rats turning a wheel to activate the prefrontal cortex and reduce stress.[18:31] - Validating children's difficult feelings while emphasizing their competence.[21:02] - Making home a safe haven and modeling handling hard emotions.[22:35] - The recipe for developing resilience: stress plus rest and recovery.[24:09] - Being calm helps other people manage crises better.[25:50] - Good sleep gives perspective on challenges.[27:27] - Wishing for peace in the Middle East. Moving towards non-anxious presence. Links & Resources:·         The Self-Driven Child by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson·         What Do You Say? by Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson If you found this episode helpful, please rate, follow, share, and review the Self Driven Podcast. Being a non-anxious presence helps kids handle hard things. Look for opportunities to model calmness, confidence, and coping. Wishing you peace in unsettled times.If you have a high school aged student and would like to talk about putting a tutoring or college plan together, reach out to Ned's company, PrepMatters at www.prepmatters.com