

Husband Material
Drew Boa
So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.
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Nov 29, 2021 • 42min
Solutions For Stress (with Marcus Spaur)
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress? In this episode, Marcus Spaur explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy stress, why self-care is not selfish, and how to prepare for stress during the holidays!Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. He is also the Director of Care & Support at Husband Material, and a Certified Husband Material Coach. Email Marcus at marcus.spaur@gmail.com.You can sign up for a free coaching session with Marcus Spaur here.34 Tips For Self-Care: ‣ Drink a cup of hot herbal tea ‣ Sit in the sun and notice the warmth on your skin ‣ Pet a cat ‣ Go for a walk ‣ Take five deep, slow breaths ‣ Tense all the muscles in your body, hold for 5 seconds, then release them ‣ Call a safe friend and share how you are feeling ‣ Give yourself a hug ‣ Do gentle yoga ‣ Pray ‣ Meditate on a comforting verse or scripture or an encouraging word ‣ Listen to soothing music ‣ Take a long, warm bubble bath ‣ Let a mint dissolve in your mouth and focus on its sensation and flavor ‣ Get up and move to another room or a different environment ‣ Journal what you are feeling ‣ Draw or paint ‣ Take your shoes off, go outside, and let your toes feel the earth beneath you ‣ Take a nap ‣ Put on comfortable clothes ‣ Snuggle into a soft blanket ‣ Light a scented candle ‣ Turn off all your devices for 30 minutes, sit quietly and breathe ‣ Shift your posture ‣ Hug a loved one and don’t let go until you relax into their embrace ‣ Do something that made you happy as a child ‣ Laugh out loud ‣ Splash in a puddle ‣ Get a massage ‣ Connect with a supportive group: Bible study, small group, 12 step community ‣ Sing out loud ‣ Stretch ‣ Play on a playground ‣ Write down 10 things for which you have gratitude—Excerpted from Altogether You Guided Journaling Worksheets (page 17) by Jenna Riemersma. Get more tips, videos, and free resources at jennariemersma.com.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Nov 22, 2021 • 12min
Five Truths About Forgiveness
Forgiveness is crucial to healing, but so often misunderstood. Get clarity about what forgiveness is (not) with these five truths: 1. Forgiveness is not permission. 2. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a choice.3. Forgiveness is not a moment. It's a process.4. Forgiveness is not easy or free. It's costly.5. Forgiveness is not a burden. It's a gift."Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:32Living in forgiveness is living in freedom!Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Nov 15, 2021 • 44min
The Orphan Spirit (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)
Have you ever felt like an orphan? Do you long to belong, but have difficulty trusting others? In this episode, Eddie Capparucci unpacks "the orphan spirit"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and the power of our true identity: Beloved Sons Of The Most High King. Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a Christian therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of two books (these are paid links):Removing Your Shame Label: Learning To Break From Shame And Feel God's LoveGoing Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionAlso check out Eddie and Drew's Going Deeper Workbook!***NEW COURSE ANNOUNCEMENT***Healing The Inner Child: Video Course For Christian Men6 Hours Of Video Training12 Page Companion PDFThe Inner Child Assessment"I discovered things from my childhood that I had no idea that happened or affected me. I learned about tools to become a better man every day." —Sak“I understand more about myself. The information was incredible and delivered with compassion—an amazing balance of clinical and spiritual advice.” —Larry“The work that Eddie, Drew, and other leaders at the retreat were able to do is a refreshing approach to freedom from porn that allows us to love ourselves." —JayBuy the new video course on Healing The Inner Child at: husbandmaterial.com/healing-the-inner-childSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Nov 8, 2021 • 50min
The Image Of God In You (with Jenna Riemersma)
The image of God in you is good. In this episode, author and therapist Jenna Riemersma beautifully explains how the image of God can bring healing and freedom to every part of us... including any parts attached to pornography and other unwanted behaviors.Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is also teaching faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).Jenna also provides dozens of free resources at MoveToward.com.Text JENNA to 33777 to receive...A free "Move Toward" WorksheetA guided meditation for sex addictionA guided meditation for betrayal traumaBuy Jenna's book here: (this is a paid link):Altogether You: Experiencing Personal And Spiritual Transformation Through Internal Family Systems TherapySupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Nov 1, 2021 • 45min
How Jesus Reverses The Curse
If you feel unworthy or unlovable, please listen to this. It's a sermon—the same one I preached at the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara. How Jesus Reverses The Curse: A Case Study From The Life Of Peter Sermon on John 21 by Drew Boa Sunday, October 10th, 2021 The Rupture: Peter's unfinished business with JesusThe Repair: Jesus confronts Peter with compassionThe Redemption: Peter courageously follows JesusSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Oct 25, 2021 • 53min
Why Men Need To Play (with Dr. Michael Crocker)
Play is not optional for outgrowing porn. It's essential! In this episode, Dr. Michael Crocker explains why play supports sexual recovery, and what it looks like to rediscover healthy play as an adult man.Dr. Michael Crocker is the founder and director of The Sexuality, Attachment, and Trauma Project as well as a private practitioner. Michael provides direct clinical services that address trauma, cross addiction, out-of-control sexual behavior, as well as sexual inhibition, intimacy anxiety, gender disorders, and sexual identity confusion. You can email him at michael@sexualityproject.org.Highly recommended: take Michael's free assessment, The Play & Positive Affect Inventory.Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From The Myths Of Boyhood, by William PollackPlay: How It Shapes The Brain, Opens The Imagination, And Invigorates The Soul, by Stuart Brown and Christopher VaughanSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Oct 18, 2021 • 47min
The Power Of Unfiltered Poetry (with Matthew Ray Lyda)
Do you want to feel loved? Then you must remove your filter. Matthew Ray Lyda is here to help us do that... through the power of unfiltered poetry!Matthew Ray Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional who has published a book of poetry (this is a paid link): Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers. Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. You can email him at matthewlyda@gmail.com.Take the free 7-Day Filterless Poetry Challenge!(and receive personal feedback from Matthew Ray Lyda)You're invited to the Husband Material Poetry Recital on October 26 at 5 PM Pacific Time! Access the link to join inside the Husband Material Community at husbandmaterial.co.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Oct 11, 2021 • 58min
The Cure For Comparison (with Dr. Michael Tso)
Why do we compare ourselves to others? What is the cure for comparison? In this episode, my dear friend and mentor Michael Tso and I talk about our struggles with comparison... and the powerful antidote of belovedness!Dr. Michael Tso is a Family Medicine Doctor at Alliance Clinical Associates in Wheaton, Illinois. Michael specializes in mental health care with a whole person approach that integrates biological, psychological, relational and spiritual aspects of personhood.Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):The Inner Voice Of Love, by Henri NouwenRedeemed Sexuality, by Drew BoaSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Oct 4, 2021 • 14min
Porn Is An Abusive Teacher
How does porn (mis)educate us? What exactly does it teach? In this episode, I'll share the 5 As of porn, the 2 core messages, and how to experience sexual re-education.Resources mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):The Psychology Of Porn, by Andrew BaumanPornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, by Gail DinesSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Sep 27, 2021 • 32min
Sexual Discipleship (with Dr. Juli Slattery)
"Sexual discipleship is teaching people HOW to think about sexuality, not WHAT to think about sexuality." In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery helps us rethink sexuality according to the story of God, rather than the toxic sexual narratives of porn and purity culture. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy. She is also the author of ten books and host of the weekly podcast "Java with Juli." Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.Get Juli's book (this is a paid link):Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design And Why It MattersAlso check out Juli's free resources at AuthenticIntimacy.com and SexualDiscipleship.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!


