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Heartache has a pattern, and so does healing. Author and therapist Cathy Loerzel explains the 3 types of heartache, and a powerful path to healing for each one. Learn how your past has uniquely prepared you to experience more joy. Cathy Loerzel founded the Allender Center with Dr. Dan Allender in 2010.Together with Dan, she is the co-author of Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals True Calling (this is a paid link).Connect with Cathy at cathyloerzel.com.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is intimacy? How can I find it? Most intimacy is not sexual. Most intimacy is spiritual, social, emotional, mental, and physical. Learn why each type of intimacy matters, and how to experience each one without sex or porn.Resources mentioned in this episode:Man Cards, by Drew Boa and Henry BrownThe Feeling Wheel, by Gloria WilcoxThe Eight Feelings, by Chip DoddHusband Material CommunitySupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Men are lonely. How can we develop deeper friendships?  Introducing Man Cards: a card deck of conversation starters for men designed by Drew Boa and Henry Brown. In this episode, Drew and Henry introduce Man Cards and show you how to use them.Get your Man Cards at getyourmancards.comMan Cards make it easier for men to go deep. Inside are 52 questions of varying levels of vulnerability to help you and the men around you be fully known. Cards are ranked, so men can choose how deep they want to go. Man Cards are perfect for small groups, road trips, or everyday conversations. Use them to improve your communication skills, get to know other men, and have fun while doing it! Stop hiding from others. Reveal the real you. Get your Man Cards!Get your Man Cards at getyourmancards.comHenry Brown is a ministry leader, AFOL (Adult Fan Of Lego), and moderator for the Husband Material Community.Resources mentioned in this episode (including paid links):Man Cards: Conversation Starters For MenSathiya Sam & Deep CleanThe Beauty Of Elephant SealsThe Five Love LanguagesUnwanted, by Jay StringerUnwanted Workbook, by Jay Stringer with Drew BoaGet your Man Cards at getyourmancards.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

You'll never outgrow porn if you believe it's the problem. In this episode, Matt Dobschuetz explains why porn is a solution, and the surprising reason why one particular type of porn has appealed to him. This man overflows with kindness and hope!Matt Dobschuetz is the host of Porn Free Radio, the top-rated podcast for motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn. Matt is a diehard Chicago Bears fan, a coffee enthusiast, and a lover of old-school hip hop. To learn more, visit Matt at recoveredman.com. Buy Matt's new book here (this is a paid link):Porn Free: Becoming The Type Of Man Who Does Not Look At PornSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Do you ever wish your friends lived closer? In today's world, long distance friendship is more possible and pervasive than ever. What are the blessings and drawbacks of this? In this episode, Husband Material coaches talk about how to maximize authentic connection, both long distance and locally.Join us for a weekend of beauty and brotherhood at the Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara (September 9-13, 2022). Sign up for the "Early Bird Discount" before July 9th to receive $150 off at husbandmaterial.com/retreat.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is emotional maturity? How can we increase our emotional intelligence? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci explains the three components of emotional maturity, why men struggle to love, and what we can do about it.Dr. Eddie Capparucci is an author and therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of a new book: Why Men Struggle To Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots. More resources by Dr. Eddie Capparucci (these are paid links):Healing The Inner Child (Husband Material video course for Christian men)Removing Your Shame Label: Learning To Break From Shame And Feel God's LoveGoing Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionAlso check out Eddie and Drew's Going Deeper WorkbookLearn more at innerchild-sexaddiction.comSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Dr. Doug Carpenter, an expert in sexual arousal and desire, discusses the difference between sexual arousal and desire, emphasizing the impact of early experiences on our sexual cravings. They explore how early exposure to pornography shapes our sexual templates, the distinction between arousal and desire, and the relationship between sexual trauma, arousal, and sexual orientation.

Let me help you decide if “counting the days” is right for you. In this episode, you'll learn 2 bad reasons to count, 3 good reasons to count, and what works for me...2 bad reasons: Legalism & License 3 good reasons: Celebration, Compassion, & Curiosity What works for me? Listen to this episode to find out 😉 If you loved this episode, you will probably love my book, Redeemed Sexuality. Buy it here (this is a paid link): Redeemed Sexuality: 12 Sessions For Healing And Transformation In Community.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

What is centering prayer? How can it help us when we're triggered or preoccupied? In this episode, Matthew Lyda explains the 4 Rs of centering prayer: Resist no thought Retain no thought React to no thought Return to GodMatthew Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and a poet. He is the author of Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers (paid link). Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. Take Matthew's free 5-day course on centering prayer here.Please join us for "An Evening of Centering Prayer" inside the Husband Material Community on Wednesday May 11, 2022 at 4:00 PM Pacific Time.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

How does the gospel interact with trauma? In this episode, Matt Wenger explains a Christ-centered and clinically innovative approach to healing trauma and outgrowing pornography.Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues and their impact on faith. The program uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy.The next Boulder Recovery intensive is June 18th-July 2nd, 2022. Seats are limited. If you're interested, contact Boulder Recovery here.Learn more about trauma-induced sexual addiction here (this is a paid link): TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction, by Dr. Michael Barta.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!