Sex Birth Trauma with Kimberly Ann Johnson

In this episode, Sheri and Kimberly discuss female anatomy and arousal. Sheri shares that breathing, sound, and engagement of pelvic floor muscles enhance altered states of pleasure, similar to the experience of birth. Sheri shares the importance of how understanding female anatomy enhances arousal and the sexual experience in both child-bearing and post-menopausal years. Bio Sheri Winston is a wholistic sexuality teacher, award-winning author, and medical professional. Her celebrated books Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure and Succulent SexCraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice share her medical knowledge in relation to sexuality. Additionally, her Wholistic Sexuality™ curriculum has over 50 classes covering subjects such as orgasmic abundance for men and women, integral genital anatomy, expanded arousal, sex and relationship skills, and holistic sexual and women's reproductive health. What They Share Similarities between birth and sex Female anatomy during arousal Pleasure-driven sex Post-menopause sex What You'll Hear Path from midwife to sex educator Birth and sex are integrated Breath, sound, pelvic floor movement all contribute to both birth and sex Same energy takes to have sex is same energy in birth Healing trauma in pregnancy/childbearing years Importance of support in pregnancy and parenting Birth, postpartum, and breastfeeding as altered states Breastfeeding as an antidepressant Humans learned distrust of pleasure, appetites, and body knowledge, especially girls and women Female reproductive anatomy Female arousal anatomy largely ignored in medicine Uterus involvement during orgasm Women have network of structures of erectile tissue Knowing all of the parts of erectile tissue and teaching partners Pleasure-drive as reproductive evolutionary asset Erogenous matrix of structures encourages conception and birth Clitoris as jewel of the crown of pleasure network Touch and contact to feel connected and safe Create safety & connection for sexual arousal for women Most female arousal takes 30-45 minutes for full arousal Most heterosexual couples do 12 minutes of sexual activity Premature penetration limits female arousal Expanding amount of time of orgasms Sex as journey of pleasure Fear and anxiety are antidote to arousal and pleasure Labor disruptions inhibiting altered state Menopause, aging, and libido Sheri's struggle post-menopause with libido Unilateral partner sex Frequency vs. quality sex Importance of time and space for desire and arousal Taking pressure off of long-term partnerships for sex Resources Website: https://intimateartscenter.com/about/sheri-winston/

Welcome to Jaguar Bites: new solo episodes where I break down big nervous system concepts into bite-sized pieces. Jaguar Bites are meant to clarify some of the major ideas and misconceptions in somatic experiencing, polyvagal theory, sex education, as well as the birth world. These podcast episodes are for you. They are also for anyone who you don't think will take a course or read a book; but who you really want to hear about how trauma works, how we heal from it, how the body is involved, and why it matters so much (especially right now in the world).

An excerpt from the Jaguar Mother 2021 course, Metzli discusses the postpartum experience according to the Mexican Indigenous tradition in which she was raised. She describes the baño pos-parto (postpartum ceremony) as a rite of passage from birth to motherhood, where women are cared for by the community with sobada (massage), rebozo (binding), herbs, baths, and other spiritual rituals. Postpartum is a sacred time not only for the baby but for the mother as well. Bio Metztli Lopez Torres is a sobadora, doula, childbirth and lactation educator, anthropologist, feminist, mom, sister, daughter, friend, advocate of women's rights and environmentalist. Growing up in Mexico, she learned traditional ways of healing for pregnancy and postpartum, and after completing her bachelor and master degrees, began providing services during all stages of women's lives through her company Luna Mama. What They Share Metzli's personal postpartum experiences for each of her babies Details of bano-post parto (postpartum ceremony) for healing Food, bodywork, and spiritual rituals for postpartum healing What You'll Hear Being a teen mom led Metzli to work with pregnancy Metzli learned from community midwives, inter-generational teaching of midwifery and postpartum care Sobada, a style of Mexican massage learned from midwives Role of sobadora and midwives in Mexican culture Midwives considered sacred and highly respected in the community Cuarentena (first 40 days after delivery) considered a sacred time, woman needs to be taken care of Baño pos-parto as an indigenous tradition from Aztecs Temescal as a type of sweat lodge during postpartum Heat/Cold aspects of Mexican traditional medicine (drinks, food, body, etc.) Returning heat back to body after pregnancy and birth Metzli's first postpartum experience in U.S. after Mexico Conversation with husband to plan for postpartum experience while in U.S. Recommends no household chores in early postpartum, plan for finances, explain significance of postpartum time for mother and baby Postpartum ceremony Metzli does includes sobada, herbal bath with spiritual rituals, massage breasts, sweat lodge Women can do bano posparto anytime for healing Use herbs, bath, discuss birth stories to heal, ask spirit of herbs to help heal wounds from births Connection between body and spirit for healing Belly binding Healing done in community with other women Describes postpartum experience while baby was in NICU Acceptance of difficult pregnancy, birth, infancy period Gap in culture of community and postpartum care Resources website https://www.lunamama.net/form__map IG: @lunamama_services

Kimberly and Alisa discuss female biohacking as an under-researched field, leaving many women feeling that they aren't meeting society's demands. While culture largely operates according to the 24-hour cycle (circadian), the 28-day cycle (infradian) significantly impacts women's energy, productivity, and overall health. Alisa demonstrates the importance of women understanding their menstrual cycles in relation to food, fitness, and time management to sustain optimal health and vitality. Bio Alisa Vitti is a woman's hormone and functional nutrition expert and founder of FLO Living Hormone Center in Manhattan. A graduate from Johns Hopkins and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, she is a regular contributor to Cosmopolitan, Women's Health, and Harper's Bazaar. She is the author of the best-selling books WomanCode and In the Flo and the creator of MyFLO, the #1 paid period app on iTunes and the first and only period tracking and cycle syncing app. Her work helps women understand the biochemistry of their menstrual cycles in order to sustain efficiency, well-being, and overall health. What They Share Differences of hormonal cycles for males and females Prioritizing menstrual cycle's phases with life activities Benefits of female orgasm What You'll Hear Circadian, infradian, and ultradian rhythms Culture prioritizes male hormonal rhythms Male/Female brain patterns Male/Female hormonal patterns Phases of menstrual cycle which align best with responsibilities and activities Food and fitness for menstrual cycle patterns Intermittent fasting differences for men and women Reproductive education as an empowering conversation Framing first period as a scientific super-power Female orgasm as the "best biohack"

Welcome to Jaguar Bites: new solo episodes where I break down big nervous system concepts into bite-sized pieces. Jaguar Bites are meant to clarify some of the major ideas and misconceptions in somatic experiencing, polyvagal theory, sex education, as well as the birth world. These podcast episodes are for you. They are also for anyone who you don't think will take a course or read a book; but who you really want to hear about how trauma works, how we heal from it, how the body is involved, and why it matters so much (especially right now in the world).

Welcome to Jaguar Bites: new solo episodes where I break down big nervous system concepts into bite-sized pieces. Jaguar Bites are meant to clarify some of the major ideas and misconceptions in somatic experiencing, polyvagal theory, sex education, as well as the birth world. These podcast episodes are for you. They are also for anyone who you don't think will take a course or read a book; but who you really want to hear about how trauma works, how we heal from it, how the body is involved, and why it matters so much (especially right now in the world).

Stephen W. Porges, Ph.D. is a researcher and professor best known as the originator of the Polyvagal Theory, a theory that emphasizes the importance of physiological state in the expression of behavioral, mental, and health problems related to traumatic experiences. He is the author of The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton, 2011), as well as several other books on Polyvagal Theory. Stephen is also the creator of a music-based intervention, the Safe and Sound Protocol ™, which currently is used by more than 2000 therapists to improve spontaneous social engagement, to reduce hearing sensitivities, and to improve language processing, state regulation, and spontaneous social engagement. What He Shares: Why he wears glasses for virtual meetings Why we're still able to co-regulate when we're all wearing masks The intersection of sex hormones and polyvagal theory What You'll Hear: The subtle cues our bodies respond to during virtual contact Landing in the co-regulatory aspects of online work or classes How your openness and intention to connect impacts people you're interacting with The importance of the orbital muscles in non-verbal communication How beauty standards impact our accessibility of interpersonal regulation Cultural interpretation of facial muscles How our nervous system responds to various perceived threats, including cultural and religious teachings Locating your resources for settling Co-regulating with the natural world The importance of in-person community for parents and children Oxytocin's role in co-regulation between mother and baby Fawning vs appeasement The evolutionary value of appeasement Differentiating between an objective event and how it actually registered in your nervous system. Understanding the autonomic nature of both openness and defensive responses Being a good student of your body Being a 'good enough' co-regulator The power of authentic connections Reducing social distance, even while physically distance is important

In Jaguar Bites, Kimberly draws from her new book "Call of the Wild" to break down some big nervous concepts into bite-sized pieces. The bites clarify some of the major ideas in somatic experiencing, polyvagal theory, sexual education, and the birth world. In this bite, Kimberly talks about how yoga and meditation impacts the nervous system is not always obvious or straightforward.

Elizabeth Lesser is the author of several bestselling books, including Cassandra Speaks: When Women are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes; Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow and Marrow: Love, Loss & What Matters Most. She is the cofounder of Omega Institute, recognized internationally for its workshops and conferences in wellness, spirituality, creativity, and social change. She has given two popular TED talks, and is one of Oprah Winfrey's Super Soul 100, a collection of a hundred leaders who are using their voices and talent to elevate humanity.

The Skill of Culture Building, The Making of Tribe, Spiritual Colonialism, and Grief Practice with Matthew Stillman. We dive into the big questions of where we are at in this point in time- what is community? How do we make it? Are we right to want tribe, and if so, what does that really mean? We also touch on the deepest parts of our connection from Earth and place, and how that can come to bear with "medicine," Ayahuasca and spiritual colonialism. What Matt Shares: -How the city you are from is different than the place you are from -Origin of the word "tribe" - tribe is much more than an affinity -How race + culture intersect, and the origin of culture -The history of Ayahuasca and spiritual colonialism -The need for grief practice