Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

I think like several events that happen throughout our lifetimes, the morning of June 24th, 2022 will be a day you remember where you were when you heard the news that the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade. I was getting into a Lyft in Boulder, CO, headed to the airport when the breaking news notification popped up on my phone. I stared at it for several seconds as the Lyft driver tried to make small talk with me, my stomach roiling with the two cups of coffee I had just consumed. I recorded a minisode where I talk about how to walk through something like this when you might be feeling fear, rage, hopelessness, and uncertainty; plus seeing people online who seem like they're handling it so much better. Plus, I talk a little about WHY the topic of safe and legal abortion is so integral to women’s empowerment. http://andreaowen.com/463  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Anna Stromquist and Kristina Wiltsee from This Spiritual Fix join me on the show. What caught my attention about their work, on TikTok, of course, is that they talk about primal wounds: abandonment, rejection, injustice and betrayal, and humiliation. I mean, who doesn’t struggle with those, right? I love their work and I am happy to share our conversation with you today.In case you are new to Anna and Kristina, they are the hosts of the podcast This Spiritual Fix which within just four months of launching hit #2 on the Apple Podcasts Spiritual charts in the USA, and has hit #1 in a handful of countries and top #100 in over fifty countries.Some of the topics we discussed include: What spirituality mean to Anna and Kristina (7:26) We dive deep into the primal wounds: what they are and how to start and heal them: Abandonment, rejection, injustice, betrayal, and humiliation (11:13) http://andreaowen.com/462  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are kicking off the spirituality and creativity theme of the podcast, whoop! Our first guest is Christina Dunbar, a storyteller, poet, producer, and a doula for women's voices. For the past decade, she's worked as a transformational catalyst, helping women heal voice and visibility wounds through storytelling, writing, and soul work.In this episode, we have a conversation about sacred archetypes and how they manifest in the lives of women, the fear and vulnerability we feel when using our voice or displaying our creative endeavors, and owning the power of being a woman. Christina is one of my favorite people, especially to see her speak on stage. I really hope you enjoy our conversation.Some of the topics we discuss include: The sacred prostitute archetype and how that archetype work in the life of a woman (7:58) Some of the sub archetypes of the good girl and how they come up in terms of visibility and vulnerability with our voice + art (19:23) Fear around visibility vs. being witnessed (31:05) Shame that comes up for women around their body and sexuality and how that affects their voice and visibility (33:52) http://andreaowen.com/461  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Since we’re rounding out the theme of relationships, I’m hopping on a minisode talking about friendships! In this episode, I go over three common friendship scenarios/challenges as well as give you possible solutions. In this episode you’ll hear:  A simple (but sometimes vulnerable!) thing to do to make sure your friendships stay healthy.  What to do if you have a friend who doesn’t seem to open up as much as you do What to do if you have a friend that you’ve lost touch with  If you haven’t already, make sure you check out the two episodes I recently aired with friendship experts Danielle Bayard Jackson and Shasta Nelson. As I mentioned before, our friendships with women are incredibly important, sometimes we have challenges in those relationships (which is normal!), and I always want to make sure you have some solutions. http://andreaowen.com/460  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re wrapping up the relationship theme this week with guest Carole Cullen. I specifically wanted to include a guest in this series who was trained from The Gottman Institute and Carole fit the bill and y’all— she is amazing! In this episode, we talk about the seven principles for making relationships work. I took lots of notes while I was interviewing her and I’m sure you’ll get a lot out of this too  Carole Cullen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AAMFT Clinical Supervisor and public speaker. She is a Certified Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapist specializing in working with couples in crisis. She has a group practice in Wake Forest, NC where she helps couples learn practical tools to reconnect with their partner and create a lasting love. We talked about: Carole shares, in detail, the seven principles that make relationships work (4:24) Emotionally focused therapy for couples in crisis (32:42) Creating a secure attachment with your partner (and realizing your partner is not responsible for healing your childhood wounds) (35:23) http://andreaowen.com/459  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Elizabeth Cohen is on the podcast this week! She’s a therapist who helps women maneuver through life’s toughest transitions. Most of us have been through something life-changing, either a breakup or a loss of a job. These changes can kick up complex emotions, and Dr. Cohen joins me to discuss the array of feelings that surface, and how to process them, and eventually heal. Dr. Cohen received her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University. As part of her graduate training, she treated clients at the world-renowned Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders in Boston, MA.We talk about: Some ways a woman can process her anger following something life-changing like divorce, loss of job, etc (6:58) What it means to live by design versus living by default (21:25) Dr. Cohen answers, “What is the long-term impact of divorce?” (30:45) How to believe in your ability to heal (39:52) Letting go of resentment in a broken relationship (40:30) http://andreaowen.com/458  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

John and Julie Gottman are relationship experts that I often refer to. The Gottman's are famous for a term called The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and it's something that has helped me personally in my relationships a great deal. In this minisode I break down The Four Horsemen, give examples, as well as point to a resource that will help you and possibly your partner learn the antidotes for these common relationship behaviors. It’s simple, yet profound.http://andreaowen.com/457  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we round up the relationships theme here on the show, I wanted to re-air one of my most downloaded episodes of all time. It’s an interview with my friend and colleague, Britt Frank, on healing from traumatic romantic relationships. Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." Her work empowers people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. In this episode you’ll hear:  What is a narcissist and how does someone know they may be in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist? (7:16) Britt’s goal is “dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK”. She shares what she means by that. (14:17) Dealing with trauma: Some signs or patterns which signal someone should deal with their trauma. (14:45) Why someone may get physically addicted to their narcissist and experience withdrawals. (23:10) How someone can begin to heal from a narcissistic relationship. (27:45) Mother wounds and grieving our childhoods (the things we didn’t get) or other parts of our lives. (33:06) How COVID has affected Britt’s work, including the collective processing of COVID trauma. (40:11) http://andreaowen.com/456  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’re talking about friendships on the show this week! We often focus on partners or familial relationships, so I knew I had to dedicate more than one episode in this series on friendships. Danielle Bayard Jackson joins me to talk about how women can create and maintain meaningful female friendships. Danielle is a certified friendship coach and national speaker dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain meaningful female friendships. She has been featured on NBC News for her expertise, and her advice has been quoted in several other media outlets including Psychology Today, Well + Good, The Tampa Bay Times, and Insider.“Making friends refers to cultivating something meaningful with another person.” Danielle Bayard JacksonWe talk about: Some ways a woman can create (and maintain) friendships (7:18) How to approach a friendship that feels one-sided when it comes to being vulnerable or trust (14:17) Advice for women who have been hurt before in past female friendships (24:11) How long does it take to make friends? (31:28) What Danielle would say in response to someone saying, “Women are so catty…” (38:27) http://andreaowen.com/455 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In March of 2009 I wrote a blog post that over the years has popped up in people’s Google searches a lot. Apparently, many people are searching for ways to get over their ex and how to heal their broken hearts. While I’ve changed a lot since the spring of 2009, (I hadn’t had my second baby yet, hadn’t officially launched my business, and sobriety was still two years away!) I do think what I wrote was helpful, but I would give that advice differently than I did back then. This mini-sode is a short and sweet one. Basically, I talk about two things that are imperative to know as you’re navigating a broken heart, whether your experience was last week or a decade ago (or more). Also, early-bird pricing goes up on June 10th for the Daring Way™ Retreat! Click here to learn more about it and to sign up. http://andreaowen.com/454 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices