Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

In 2014, I wrote an article that went viral. When I was brainstorming topics for minisodes I remembered this article and thought I Would just go through these 11 things and be done with it. However, when I read it, I shook my head, thinking how differently I would write this now, how I’ve changed, the challenges I’ve seen myself go through with some of these things, and if nothing else, the immense nuance that comes with each one. In two weeks I’ll release part two, but for now, here’s the start. Please listen to the episode a I go into detail about each one, and include what I wrote in 2014 and how I would change that.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Exciting news…I’m bringing back coaching episodes to the podcast! In this episode I’m coaching a former client of mine, Amy. Amy is in her late 40’s, climbed the corporate ladder fairly quickly throughout her 20’s, and now finds herself wanting something different…but she’s not sure what. She mentions fear getting in her way of making a decision. I ask her questions that she says, “flip her brain” and you’ll hear me pull sentences from the questionnaire she filled out before our session (you know how I’ve said even applying for 1:1 coaching and answering those questions can give you insights?). After we dig into what excites her regarding this new leap of faith, I ask her, “What’s next?” That’s where the real juice happens! I think you’ll see some of your own life in this conversation with Amy. The circumstances might be different, but perhaps you’ve been in the place she is now. Or, sometime in the future you’ll be in the place where you’re given a fantastic opportunity and you’re scared to do it! You'll hear about halfway through our conversation, Amy says “I'm so glad I got the chance to talk this out because It opens my brain to realize that I get so stuck in my head. And it's really not that big of a deal.” My invitation to YOU is to think about things in your life where you might be doing the same thing– spinning, ruminating, overthinking things that might need to just be coached through.  You’ll hear the nitty gritty about her situation, and I left all this in the recording so you can see how granular we can get in a coaching session in order to support the client and the topic. Make sure you stay until the very end where I read an update from Amy! Did she get everything she wanted? Tune in to find out ;)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“Trust that you can feel any feeling and not perish,” says Maria-Victoria Albina. Yes, we are talking about big emotions in this week’s episode. Maria-Victoria joins me for a conversation about calming the nervous system and expanding emotional capacity. We also explore how small acts of self-love help you build self-trust and feel emotionally safe. María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy.Featured topics:  Emotional outsourcing and what it has to do with co-dependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking (4:28) Signs and symptoms that let you know when you are being triggered and how to feel safe when our nervous system is activated (6:43) Bottling up big emotions impacts our bodies, and how we can expand our capacity to feel our big feelings (22:34) Collective healing: what it looks like and how can we shift our thinking away from the patriarchal model of individual healing (38:37) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This morning I had a client session where she talked about being in transition in her life setting the intention of this next phase being about her. Not putting everyone else before her, not being utterly selfless, but choosing herself first. So we made plans that honored her values and she was excited. But, before I let her go, I asked her a particular question that was directly related to “The Work”, but so often neglected. You’ll have to listen to this short episode to find out what it is ;) When it comes to personal development, we want to check off the boxes first, feeling better that we did the thing, and fingers crossed it changes our life, right? And many times, we over think things– including our own personal growth– wanting to put things in categories, wanting to make sense of it all, wanting answers to our uncomfortable questions. But often we can’t do that and racing through things or overthinking them keeps us stuck. I’ve certainly been there, and in an effort to work through that, I’ve recorded this minisode for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rae McDaniel returns to the show to discuss topics covered in their new book, “Gender Magic: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step into Your Most Authentic Self.” In this episode, Rae and I talk about how to move from anxiety and self-doubt to a proactive state of mind, the keys to developing self-love, and how to design relationships that light you up. For those of you new to Rae McDaniel, let me tell you a little about them. Rae is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. Even if you are someone who is not non-binary, transgender, or questioning their identity - Rae and I talk about several topics that are relative to everyone. Definitely tune into this episode, I think you will enjoy it!Featured topics:  How to move from anxiety, self-doubt, and fear to a confident, proactive state of mind (4:41) Navigating discomfort and celebrating your inherent worth (14:05) How to design relationships that light you up (21:36) Creating a sex life that lights you up whether you are partnered or not (26:00) Body respect versus body love (27:15) Practical tools to align your gender identity and expression with your most authentic self through play, pleasure, and possibility (36:47) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cait Donovan is here to talk all about the B word - burnout! Burnout can affect anyone and everyone - in fact, as Cait shares, “Stats show that burnout happens at a rate between 38.1%-89%.” Cait’s mission is to end burnout culture in organizations and individuals for better morale, health, and profitability.In this episode, we discuss the symptoms of burnout and what it is, Cait’s creative burnout recovery solutions, and why resentment is the burnout recovery tool we all need. While we spend a lot of time on the topic of burnout, we also explore how to have better communication in your personal and professional life. Cait is host of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast, a Keynote speaker, and author of the book "The Bounce-back-ability Factor" and a burnout aficionado.Featured topics: Burnout: what it is, its symptoms, and how someone knows they’re experiencing it (4:17) Some of the professions/industries that experience burnout the most (8:52) Why resentment is the burnout recovery tool we all need (14:57) Boundaries and when “No,” isn’t a complete sentence (16:25) What psychological safety is and how to create it (25:48) How to address passive aggressiveness at work (40:24) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s minisode is about the difference between being attached and unattached to the outcome. Easy, right? This is NEVER easy and always a work in progress. It will probably also ebb and flow throughout your personal development journey. This is still very hard for me, and I mention in this episode that I need this advice just as much as the next person. I’ll walk you through two steps around how to work on this in your life, including examples around plants, jobs, relationships, and money. You’ll also hear me walk briefly down memory lane about late night radio DJ’s on love song stations.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Koren Motekaitis joins me for a conversation about what it means to be the leader of your life, creating meaningful work, and how to build a support network, even when it’s extremely scary and vulnerable. Koren is a Master Certified Life and Leadership coach who is passionate about helping you create the life you truly desire. In this episode (and in Koren’s work), we explore what it means to be in connected relationships and enjoy this one precious life we all get to live NOW.Featured topics: Koren shares some key learnings from hosting her podcast, How She Really Does It, for over 16 years and having guests such as Kristin Neff, Brené Brown, and Gay Hendricks (4:53) Koren answers, “Is meaningful work even possible?” (8:59) What it means to be the leader of your life (12:00) Owning your voice: how to overcome the obstacle of silencing oneself and speaking your truth (18:05) Advice for building the support you need (21:00) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we are discussing one of my favorite topics ever - money. For most people, money is emotional; it’s not just about the money. We cannot hear enough from professionals about this topic, so I invited Keisha Blair to share her expertise on holistic wealth, including what it is and how to achieve it.  Keisha Blair is the award-winning, international bestselling author of Holistic Wealth Expanded and Updated: 36 Life Lessons To Help You Recover From Disruption, Find Your Life Purpose and Achieve Financial Freedom. She is regarded as the “Mother of Holistic Wealth” and the Founder of the Holistic Wealth Movement. Featured topics: Holistic Wealth: what it is, why it is so important in today's world, and how it goes beyond money. (3:44) How having a life purpose can help someone who struggles with financial health (6:10) Keisha describes her Personal Financial Identity Framework (8:47) Advice for women who ignore or avoid financial issues (16:00) The impact of intergenerational trauma on our money stories (19:40) Choosing a financial advisor that is right for you (28:10) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s episode is all about shit sandwiches. Of course, not literal shit sandwiches, but metaphorically when life gets hard. Save this podcast for when life hands you that type of sandwich, or send it to a friend going through a particularly tough time, or you may need these tips right now. In this episode, you’ll hear me riff about the following:  The importance of acknowledging your feelings. Practicing the basics of self-care activities. Breaking down the problem into smaller, manageable steps. Making a plan and set achievable goals. Seeking help or support from friends, family, or professionals if needed. Focusing on the positive aspects of your life and gratitude. (this one has a caveat!) Keeping a growth mindset and learning from your challenges. Taking time for yourself to recharge and rejuvenate– whatever that is for YOU. Staying positive and maintaining a hopeful outlook for the future. Remembering that challenges are a part of life, and it's how you deal with them that matters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices