Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Jul 6, 2022 • 1h 14min
S14E20: So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner
Whether you had to think for awhile or you can recall your last time like that, we're chatting with She Comes First author and sex therapist Ian Kerner about the pleasures of sex and how sex can help us bring us closer to our partners (and in light of everything going on, we all need that reminder more than ever!). We discuss the importance of being 'cliterate' and not just putting the emphasis on intercourse, how you can start to explore in the bedroom in a way that doesn't seem as intimidating, and the important sex trends you need to know that are happening right now.TW: In the intro we also talk about abortion rights and the overturning of Roe v. WadeLearn more about Ian Kerner: https://www.iankerner.com/ and check out his latest book 'So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex'Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Filter Off: Try the new dating app where you date people not profiles and receive 5 extra daily picks at https://www.getfilteroff.com/ with the code DATEMEBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
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Jul 3, 2022 • 24min
#brunchtalk: How do you know if they're 'The One'?
We've been told from an early age, there's 'The One' – that person who is our best friend, our soulmate, the person we belong with. But is that even realistic? And how do we know if we are making the right choice? It can be tricky especially if we have had little relationship experience to benchmark it against. Join us for this week's brunch talk as we discuss if 'The One' even exists, signs you are with the right person, and how to distinguish between fear and if this person is actually a good fit for you or notGot a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
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Jun 29, 2022 • 1h 1min
S14E19: My Body, My Choice
With everything that's been going on overturning roe v wade, we wanted to do a special episode where we talked to three different women (Janis, Mikala, and Priya) about their own experience with the decision to have an abortion (or not). We discuss how you don't ever know what you'll do until you're in the situation, the importance of choice, and why this decision has many layers and complexities that simply doesn't belong in our government's hands.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Filter Off: Try the new dating app where you date people not profiles and receive 5 extra daily picks at https://www.getfilteroff.com/ with the code DATEMEDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 25, 2022 • 26min
#brunchtalk: Should I leave a relationship that's good but not great?
Would you rather stay in a mediocre relationship than to start over and be single? The thought of dating "from scratch" can be daunting but does it really justify staying in a relationship not meeting your needs? In this week's brunchtalk, we explore whether to try to salvage your current relationship or cut bait and how to reframe your mindset about what "starting over" even means.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, merch and more. Want to be around others who are also looking to improving their love lives? Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
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Jun 22, 2022 • 1h 10min
S14E18: Putting Yourself First w/ The Confident Collective
What's the difference between self-care, self-sacrifice, and selfishness, when it comes to dating & relationships? We're chatting with Raeann and Kristina from the Confident Collective about the balance of not compromising your own needs while compromising for others. We discuss the importance of taking care of yourself through all stages from early dating to having children, why it backfires to bend over backwards for someone else, and how to still put your loved ones first without losing yourself.Follow Kristina & Raeann @confidentcollective and listen to their podcast The Confident CollectiveFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Filter Off: Try the new dating app where you date people not profiles and receive 5 extra daily picks at https://www.getfilteroff.com/ with the code DATEMEDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 19, 2022 • 25min
#brunchtalk: Should I date my co-worker?
Office romance...is it a do or a don't? While your co-workers could definitely be viable prospects, there's also a lot more on the line when you start to date people from work which makes this a tricky subject. Join us for this week's brunch talk as we dissect the pros and cons, why the fallout of the #metoo movement and the introduction of remote work changed the dynamics, and how to navigate making the move if you are going to shoot your shot.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 15, 2022 • 1h 5min
S14E17: A New Definition of Family
These days there's no on right way to have a relationship, so why would having a family be any different? We're chatting with David, Zeke, and Avary about the rise of the 3-parent family and their arrangement as co-parents with Avary & Zeke being a married couple and David being their asexual platonic friend. We discuss why they opted to do things differently as a non-nuclear family (and how far they went to make it all legally binding), the importance of chosen family especially when traditional arrangements aren't on the table or don't feel right to you, and how to be intentional about your relationships at all stages. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Filter Off: Try the new dating app where you date people not profiles and receive 5 extra daily picks at https://www.getfilteroff.com/ with the code DATEMEDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 12, 2022 • 23min
#brunchtalk: Can you stay friends with an ex?
When the relationship ends and a platonic friendship is on the table....could it work or is it better to remove this person from your life? On this week's brunch talk we're talking about if you can stay friends with an ex, what boundaries need to be in place, and how to determine ultimately what is best for you. This is a tricky one but we dissect all the ins and outs so you can use this as a guide to assess your own situation.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 8, 2022 • 1h 7min
S14E16: The Science of Self-Awareness (in dating) w/ Dr. Tasha Eurich
We think we're self aware, but are we? And why is this so essential for romantic relationships? We're chatting with Dr. Tasha Eurich about why it's so essential while dating (and having long-term relationships) to hone into our awareness of ourselves,others, and the impact we have on one another. We discuss how we're all a little less self aware than we think, the shift from talking about the why to the what, and how relating to ourselves and others just 1% better can dramatically improve our love lives.Learn more about Dr. Tasha Eurich: https://tashaeurich.com/ and take her self awareness quiz: https://www.insight-book.com/QuizFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jun 5, 2022 • 23min
#brunchtalk: When should I have the DTR convo?
Ah the million dollar question: when to define the relationship. How do you make sure you don't do it too early? Or do you risk doing it too late that they could end up with someone else? On this week's brunch talk we're talking about why time isn't a factor into the DTR convo, how to have a series of low pressure chats starting early on, and why the focus should actually NOT be on defining the relationship (but rather something else).Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLEOur Sponsors:* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateableAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


