Sex and Psychology Podcast

In this engaging discussion, Matthew Kimberley, a Lecturer in Psychology at Birmingham City University who researches sexual fantasies, breaks down the complexities of sharing intimate desires. He reveals that while many people choose to share their fantasies, motivations can vary widely—from seeking sexual gratification to enhancing relationship trust. Matthew also explores how partners typically react, often positively contrary to expectations. Listeners gain insights on when and how to communicate fantasies safely with partners.

In this engaging discussion, licensed marriage and family therapist Julie Menanno, author of Secure Love, shares her expertise on breaking negative cycles in relationships. She reveals how to spot unproductive arguments that signal deeper issues and discusses the power of vulnerability to foster empathy and connection. Julie highlights essential strategies like co-regulation and communication techniques to strengthen bonds. Listeners will learn how to identify common traps and effectively repair relationships when conflicts arise.

Joining the conversation are Chris Maxwell-Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose, co-creators of PleasureMechanics.com, experts in erotic education. They discuss why there's no one-size-fits-all technique for oral sex and the importance of exploration. Listeners learn how to overcome common roadblocks like boredom and discomfort, as well as new positions to enhance pleasure. They also delve into transforming oral sex from a duty into a joyful experience, highlighting enthusiasm as the secret ingredient to great oral encounters.

Dr. Sarah Hill, a researcher with over 20 years of experience in women’s health and relationships, sheds light on the shortcomings of traditional medical research that often neglects women’s unique needs. She discusses the pitfalls of one-size-fits-all advice and critiques the male-centered standards in science. Sarah emphasizes how understanding hormonal cycles can drastically improve women’s well-being and advocates for more inclusive research methodologies that consider women's distinct physiological experiences.

Dr. Sarah Hill, a seasoned researcher and author of *The Period Brain*, sheds light on the intricate effects of menstrual-cycle hormones. She discusses the evolutionary reasons behind PMS and how hormonal fluctuations can affect women’s mood, energy, and sexual motivation. Learn why progesterone doesn't always enhance well-being during the latter cycle phases and how estrogen influences desire. With insights on navigating intimacy in sync with the menstrual cycle, this conversation offers valuable knowledge for understanding women's health.

Join Dr. Juliana Hauser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and expert in sexuality, as she discusses how to unlock more pleasure and desire in our lives. She reveals the importance of prioritizing pleasure daily and how our relationship with sexual desires can change over time. Dr. Hauser shares practical tips for embracing small joys, normalizing pleasure discussions, and navigating boundaries in intimacy. Discover how mindfulness and techniques like the Four Quadrants Exercise can empower personal exploration and enhance sexual agency.

Join Dr. Juliana Hauser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and renowned sex educator, as she explores the intriguing concept of holistic sexuality. Discover how this approach can enhance self-understanding and sexual agency. Juliana emphasizes the vital role of sensuality and guides listeners through an engaging touch exercise to connect with their bodies. She also tackles important topics like the impact of aging on sexuality and the legacy of Betty Dodson in promoting body curiosity. Tune in for insights that could transform your sexual journey!

A lot of people think that sex is just easy for men. But it’s not. A heck of a lot of guys are walking around with sexual anxiety and are worried about their body and/or performance. This can eat away at men’s confidence, leading them to avoid sex, or to have sex that’s less than pleasurable. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about how to build confidence in the bedroom and bust some common myths about male sexuality. I’m joined once again by Dr. Joshua Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist who is fellowship-trained in Sexual Medicine. He is a Sexual Health Advisor to Astroglide Lubricants, and one of the co-founders of the sexual wellness brand Popstar, which creates science-backed products to support male sexual health and pleasure. Some of the specific topics we explore include: What does it really men to be “sexually confident?” How do popular myths about male sexuality inhibit men’s confidence in the bedroom? Is more testosterone really the key to more confidence? What can men do if they want to increase their sexual stamina? When should you see a professional about sexual performance concerns? You can visit Joshua’s website to learn more about his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Be sure to register for the Sex and Aging Symposium, which will take place on October 4, 2025. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Surveys find that nearly half of men are dissatisfied with their penis size and wish they were larger. So let’s dive into the world of penile augmentation. In this episode, we’re going to talk about the various treatments that exist, which ones are supported by the science, the potential risks and side effects, and what you really need to know if you have penis size concerns. I’m joined by Dr. Joshua Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist who is fellowship-trained in Sexual Medicine. He is a Sexual Health Advisor to Astroglide Lubricants, and one of the co-founders of the sexual wellness brand Popstar, which creates science-backed products to support male sexual health and pleasure. Some of the specific topics we explore include: What is the average penis size anyway? Can stretching make your penis bigger? Do penis pumps work to increase size? Are surgeries to enhance penis size worth the risks? Are there any pills or medications that can make your penis larger? You can visit Joshua’s website to learn more about his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Expand your sexual horizons with Beducated! Featuring more than 100 online courses taught by the experts, Beducated brings pleasure-based sex ed directly into your bedroom. Enjoy a free trial today and get 50% off their yearly pass by using LEHMILLER as the coupon code. To redeem this offer, visit: https://beducate.me/lehmiller-sept Passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you’ll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

BDSM practitioners have mastered skills that many of us struggle with every day, including honest communication, clear boundaries, deep trust, and the courage to be vulnerable. In this episode, we’re exploring what we can learn from kinky folks about leading happier lives, both in and out of the bedroom. I am joined once again by Alicia Walker and Arielle Kuperberg. Alicia is an associate professor of sociology at Missouri State University and the author of The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife as well as Chasing Masculinity: Men, Validation, and Infidelity. Arielle is an associate professor of sociology at the University of Maryland, Baltimore County. Together, they are co-authors of the new book Bound by BDSM: Unexpected Lessons for Building a Happier Life. Some of the specific topics we explore include: How does BDSM offer a way for people to explore their creative side? What can we learn from BDSM practitioners about vulnerability and intimacy? How can BDSM allow us to explore pleasure beyond traditional sexual scripts? What can we learn from kinky folks about having realistic expectations in the bedroom? You can click here to order Alicia and Arielle’s new book. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  A bad mattress can ruin your intimate life. If you want to upgrade your sleep, check out Brooklyn Bedding, where you can try a 120-night comfort trial. Go to brooklynbedding.com and use my promo code JUSTIN at checkout to get 30% off sitewide.  Soaking Wet from VB Health is the world’s first probiotic specifically designed for vaginal and vulva health and wellness. It’s a doctor formulated blend of prebiotics, probiotics, and vitamins specifically designed to restore balance down there and increase lubrication. Visit soakingwet.com and use code JUSTIN for 10% off. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.