Jay Stringer

Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor and author, delves into the complexities of unwanted sexual behavior and trauma. He discusses how personal histories shape sexual patterns and explains the connection between childhood needs and adult desires. Gender differences in porn use and the impact of shame are explored, alongside strategies for leaving abusive relationships. Jay also emphasizes the importance of integrating desires into communal life, while touching on infidelity predictors and the dynamics of authenticity in marriage.

Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor and author, shares his insights on mental health, trauma, and unwanted sexual behavior. He emphasizes the importance of curiosity over condemnation in the healing process. Jay discusses how unresolved wounds shape current struggles and urges listeners to explore their stories to understand their behaviors. He highlights the significance of attachment needs and the value of self-compassion. With practical steps for breaking unhealthy patterns, Jay illustrates how faith and psychology work hand in hand for profound transformation.

Therapist and author Jay Stringer discusses overcoming unwanted sexual behavior, psychological origins of porn addiction, impact of family dynamics on porn consumption, and self-assessment tools for healing. They explore emotional awareness, self-regulation, confronting shame, and navigating discomfort to address harmful effects of pornography.

Jay Stringer joins me to talk about the relationship between our current sexual difficulties and our story in our family of origin. Sexual struggles are rooted in our stories—and, very often, our stories of attachment to our primary caretakers. As Jay puts it, "When it comes to sexual struggles, there are always two story lines at play: there is the story line of your present sexual struggles, and then there is the story line of your growing up experiences which set you up for those present sexual struggles." If you want to explore your sexual story in more depth, please sign up for the Sexual Attachment Conference on May 5-6. You can sign up here. Support the podcast

Jay Stringer, an author and therapist specializing in the intersection of sexuality and personal stories, shares insightful perspectives on the connection between our past and present sexual experiences. He discusses how understanding family dynamics and childhood attachments can illuminate current sexual struggles. The conversation emphasizes the importance of compassion in addressing sexual challenges and the transformative potential of exploring personal narratives. Don't miss the chance to join the upcoming Sexual Attachment Conference to deepen your understanding.

Jay Stringer, a licensed therapist and author who studies desire, attachment, and healing, joins to rethink desire as a guide rather than a flaw. He reframes desire beyond sex, links it to early attachment and unmet needs, and urges curiosity instead of shame. The conversation explores how healed desire looks, practical first steps, and how longing can point toward growth, belonging, and moral courage.

Author and mental health counselor Jay Stringer discusses his research on sexual brokenness, the importance of listening to your lust, and his involvement in the Heart of Man movie. They explore the link between lack of purpose and pornography use, the impact of shame on communication, and understanding the drivers of unwanted sexual behavior, including anger and past trauma.

Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor and author of Desire, offers therapy-informed insight into longing and healing. He explores five core longings—healing, growth, intimacy, pleasure, and meaning. Conversations cover how childhood, pornography, and culture shape desire, the conflict of suppressed longings, and practical ways to welcome and reshape desire for healthier life and relationships.

Jay Stringer, Mental Health Counselor and author, discusses sexual brokenness and how it reveals our path to healing. They delve into childhood experiences, confronting unwanted behavior, detachment and connection in sexuality.

Jay Stringer, therapist and author of Desire and Unwanted, reflects on growing up in evangelical purity culture and its lifelong effects on shame and desire. He discusses how arousal was taught as sin, the limits of popular male purity programs, differentiation as the basis for real intimacy, and reimagining masculinity toward vulnerability, meaning, and defiant connection.