Rena Malik, MD Podcast Moment: Why You Feel “Broken” in Bed (And How to Stop Hating Your Body)
Feb 11, 2026
Dr. Charmaine Borg, researcher-clinician in sexual health, shares research on arousal, orgasm, pain modulation, and intimacy. They explore self-disgust, performance pressure, and how shifting from judgment to playful exploration can change sexual connection. Conversations also cover how sexual behavior and physical touch influence sleep and restfulness.
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Self-Disgust Is A Cognitive Gap
- Self-disgust reflects the perceived gap between your actual self and your ideal self.
- Unlearning it requires targeted cognitive work and imagery to reframe and separate current self from past contamination.
Use Facts And Imagery To Reframe Shame
- Learn facts about how your body has changed since past trauma to challenge contamination beliefs.
- Use imagery (e.g., shedding old skin) to cognitively and emotionally update your self-perception.
Move From Performance To Play
- Shift from judging performance (“I'm failing”) to curious exploration of sensations and feelings.
- Prioritize play, time, and connection over timing and achievement during sex.
