Journey With Me Through ADHD: A podcast for kids Repair After the Storm of Emotional Dysregulation
Big emotions can feel like a tornado tearing through the house. Doors slam. Words fly. Feelings crash. But here is the truth: The storm is not the end of the story!
In this episode, we talk about what happens after emotional dysreguation strikes- when the wind dies down and everyone is standing in the quiet. Because after every storm, we can rebuild.
What you'll take away from this episode:
- Why dysregulation isn't misbehavior- it's a nervous system overload
- Why repair and reset are an important next step.
- How to reconnect after everyone is regulated
- What a healthy apology sounds like
- How to release shame
- Why "you are not your hardest moment" is a powerful reset!
Imagine your relationship is like a house-
When the storm hits: Things get messy, something might break, everyone feels shaken...BUT, the house is still your HOME!
Repairing dysregulation is like:
- Picking up debris (naming what happened)
- Fixing what is cracked (apologizing and reconnecting)
- Turning lights back on (restoring safety)
- Remind each other (we still belong here!
Repair process steps:
- Regulation before communication : Repair cannot happen in the middle of the storm!
- Reconnection before correction: Start with safety- "I love you", " That was a hard moment", "we are okay!"
- Name without shame: Example- Replace "you were so bad" with " your body was overwhelmed."
- Model accountability (adults go first)- "I raised my voice. I'm sorry." "That wasn't how I wanted to handle big feelings." Modeling is the best way to learn repair so they can mirror it!
- Clean up together: If something was knocked over- physically or emotionally fix it together- This builds responsibility without humiliation
- Reset the house: A hug, a shared laugh, return to your daily rhythm
The goal isn't pretending nothing happened. The goal is showing: We can come back from hard things!
Dyregulation is a storm. Repair is rebuilding and rebuilding is teaching resilience!
Your child is not thier meltdown. You are not your hardest parenting moment! The house is still your home and your are doing the best you can with what you know as you continue to grow!!! You are seen and loved!
Please reach out to me at www.katelynmabry.com with any future episode topic ideas or if your child would like to share their voice on a future episode! We are all on this journey together!! Have a blessed day!