Securely Attached Why you keep getting triggered: Understanding insecure attachment and breaking the cycle with Jessica Baum
Oct 28, 2025
Jessica Baum, a licensed mental health counselor and relationship expert, joins to unpack the complexities of insecure attachment. They dive into how childhood experiences shape adult behaviors and the nuances between avoidant and anxious caregiving. The discussion covers the 'Wheel of Attachment,' emphasizing the fluidity of attachment styles. Baum highlights the gap between awareness and healing, the importance of regulating the nervous system, and how inner work can transform relationships and parenting. Insight and action are key to breaking the cycle.
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Do Your Own Healing First
- Do healing work for yourself to increase your availability for repair with your children.
- More self-holding and regulation expands your ability to repair and build secure bonds.
Sensations, Not Stories, Build Attachment
- Infants form far more implicit (sensory) memories than explicit (narrative) memories.
- Those implicit sensations store the felt sense of safety or threat that becomes attachment wiring.
How Caregiver Patterns Shape Styles
- Avoidant caregiving looks like physical presence but emotional disconnection, while anxious caregiving is inconsistent availability.
- These differing felt experiences in childhood shape avoidant and anxious attachment strategies.
