The Thais Gibson Podcast What the Dismissive Avoidant Is REALLY DOING When They Go Missing
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When a Dismissive Avoidant suddenly pulls away, stops responding, or “goes missing,” it can feel confusing, painful, and deeply personal. But what’s actually happening beneath the surface is far more complex and far less about you than you might think.
In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the real emotional and nervous-system processes driving dismissive avoidance, including shame responses, fear of vulnerability, and learned patterns around conflict and emotional expression.
If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of this behavior, or if you recognize these patterns in yourself, this video offers clarity, compassion, and a powerful path forward.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
Why Dismissive Avoidants often withdraw after moments of emotional closeness
How vulnerability activates shame and fear around emotional expression
The role of unresolved family dynamics and emotional modeling
Why conflict feels overwhelming or unworkable for dismissive avoidants
How avoidance becomes a strategy for escaping uncomfortable emotions
Why healing these patterns creates more freedom, safety, and connection in relationships
⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 – What the Dismissive Avoidant Is REALLY DOING When They Go Missing
00:31 – Dismissive Avoidants and Vulnerability in Relationships
01:29 – Dismissive Avoidants and Conflict in Relationships
02:23 – Dismissive Avoidants Have Core Fears About Their Own Emotions
03:14 – The Shame Response
04:41 – Healing Family Trauma Promo
05:27 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Go Missing
07:07 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Disconnect
08:01 – Why You Should Work On This If You Are A Dismissive Avoidant
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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