Strictly Anonymous Confessions

1417 - She’s Poly, He’s Monogamous: How a Sex Therapist Opened Her Marriage & How she Helps Others Fix Their

Apr 4, 2026
Courtney Boyer, a sex and relationship coach and author, shares her path from an evangelical upbringing to embracing polyamory while married to a monogamous partner. Short scenes cover why they opened their marriage, how she realized she was poly, the fallout and rebuilding, practical coaching with men and women, and how non-monogamy changed their intimacy and careers.
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INSIGHT

Opening Can Force A Rebuild That Heals

  • Opening the marriage initially made things worse, but ultimately allowed both partners to excavate unmet needs and rebuild trust.
  • The process burned down their existing patterns, led to new therapy work, and renewed emotional intimacy.
ANECDOTE

Psychedelic Realization Of Polyamory

  • Courtney took a psychedelic mushroom trip and realized she was polyamorous and open to loving others while still committed at home.
  • After sharing this with her husband he chose to work on the marriage with her instead of leaving.
INSIGHT

His Therapy Sparked Emotional Availability

  • Her husband became more emotionally present after therapy, addressing military-related PTSD and learning to feel beyond anger and contentment.
  • That inward work increased his emotional availability and improved their sexual connection.
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