Discover the transformative journey of attachment and how it evolves over time. Uncover the significance of recognizing insecure attachment as a protective mechanism. Learn how parents can heal by meeting unmet needs and fostering secure connections. The discussion delves into the power of rupture and repair in relationships. Valuable resources and community support empower parents and professionals alike. Plus, there’s an opportunity to access a beautifully designed eBook filled with insights from the entire series!
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Changing Insecure Attachment
Focus less on changing attachment and more on understanding how it formed.
Consider what needs were unmet when insecure patterns developed.
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Unmet Needs and Insecure Attachment
Insecure attachment develops when needs like being seen, safe, soothed, and secure go unmet.
This leads to short-term tactics that hinder long-term growth.
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Developing X-Ray Vision
Parents should develop "x-ray vision" to see the needs behind children's behaviors.
This helps caregivers respond effectively and avoid personalizing behaviors.
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Part 6 of 6 in the June 2021 series on attachment!
The part you've probably been waiting for: how does attachment change?
If you haven't caught the previous five episodes in this series on attachment, be sure to check them out.
In this episode, we look at
How important it is to recognize insecure attachment as protective, trusting in the truth that things only change once we stop trying to make them change
What was needed at the time- but not received- for each stream of insecure attachment
How to meet that need now, creating a possible experience for that experience in attahcment to shift toward security
The power of rupture and repair in shift toward secure attachment
There’s a lot in this one episode and the whole six-part series! I made the series into a beautiful eBook so you don’t have to take notes and you can review it as often as you want. To download the F R E E ebook, click here: https://robyngobbel.com/ebook
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