Sex Therapy 101 with Cami Hurst Cami Hurst and Natasha Helfer: The Cost of Duty Sex: Consenting to Unwanted Sex
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Apr 12, 2023 Cami Hurst, a newly certified sex therapist with a focus on clinical sexology, joins Natasha Helfer to explore the complexities of women's consent to unwanted sex in relationships. They dive into the emotional toll of 'duty sex,' examining how guilt and shame can impact intimacy. The discussion reveals the nuances of desire versus consent, emphasizing the psychological repercussions of coercive situations. Cultural influences and the importance of open communication are also highlighted as crucial elements in fostering healthier sexual connections.
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Real Quotes: 'Pouty And Mad'
- Participants reported emotional coping reasons like consenting to avoid partner upset or gain brief peace.
- Examples included consenting because a partner got 'pouty' or to avoid dealing with his emotions.
When 'No' Is Overridden
- Participants described being physically pressured despite saying no, sometimes even while in pain.
- One woman recalled crying through sex during a vacation and interpreting continued advances as evidence his needs mattered more.
Shutdown, Repulsion, And Divorce Threats
- Several participants described complete sexual shutdown and even considering divorce.
- Quotes include strong dislike, repulsion, crying after sex, and contemplating ending the marriage.
