Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson Limerence: The Psychology of Romantic Obsession with Brandy Wyant
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Aug 25, 2025 Brandy Wyant, a licensed clinical social worker and expert in limerence, joins the discussion on the intense, often one-sided obsession that accompanies this state. She shares insights on how limerence differs from love and casual crushes, and the role of uncertainty in fueling such feelings. The conversation delves into cognitive behavioral strategies for managing obsessive thoughts and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness. They also address the impact of limerence on relationships and the challenges in research and treatment.
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Counter Idealization With Reality Checks
- Challenge idealization by listing realistic reasons a relationship with the person might not work.
- Use cognitive restructuring selectively, because some clients resist rational reframing like in OCD.
Limerence Can Coexist With Secure Bonds
- Many people with limerence function securely in other relationships and still develop intense obsession for one person.
- Limerence can therefore be a focused, distinct interpersonal vulnerability, not a global attachment disorder.
A 'Sticky Brain' Reduces Shame
- Susceptibility to limerence likely involves biological or brain-based factors rather than moral failure.
- Framing it as a 'sticky brain' reduces shame and helps people accept a starting point for treatment.
