Helping Couples Heal Podcast 64. Financial Shame and Anxiety: Transforming fear to empowerment after betrayal
Jul 18, 2024
Stephanie Roman, a Houston real estate and business attorney with decades of experience, Joni Ogle, a trauma-focused clinical social worker, and Ilyse Craft, a betrayal trauma coach who helps reinvent relationships with money, discuss finances after betrayal. They explore shame and avoidance, reframing money as neutral energy, practical steps like negotiating with creditors, and the power of accountability and mindset shifts to move from fear to empowerment.
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Fear And Shame Drive Financial Paralysis
- Financial paralysis after betrayal comes from internalized fear and shame rather than objective impossibility.
- Ilyse Craft and Joni Ogle note people often believe they can't provide for themselves despite real capabilities and evidence of later success.
Reframe Money As Neutral Flowing Energy
- Reframe money as neutral energy that flows and is affected by beliefs.
- Stephanie Roman and Ilyse Craft suggest externalizing money reduces shame and lets you change behaviors like paying small amounts toward larger debts.
Call Creditors Before They Call You
- Do call creditors and be proactive even if you cannot fully pay a bill.
- Stephanie Roman and Ilyse Craft explain most collectors will negotiate payment plans or deferments when you explain hardship.
