Relationship Advice 81: Communicating About Sex And Affection
Jan 26, 2017
Mike Domitrz, a leading expert in sexual consent and respect, discusses transformative relationship strategies. He emphasizes the importance of not assuming affection is wanted and encourages listeners to ask, "What would I request if I had no fear?" The conversation explores how to communicate about sex openly, advocate for a culture free of sex negativity, and view sexuality as a gift. Mike's insights aim to improve intimacy and communication, making relationships stronger and healthier.
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Don't Rely On Mindreading For Desire
- Assuming you can read a partner's desire from body language causes conflict and misunderstandings.
- Mike Domitrz argues verbal check-ins are essential because desire can change in split seconds.
Ask For Mutual, Enthusiastic Consent
- Ask for mutual, enthusiastic consent rather than treating consent as mere permission.
- Use phrases like "What would you love right now?" to invite shared, wanted experiences.
Make Initiation A Mutual Practice
- Make initiation mutual by teaching both partners to ask and to request what they want.
- Invite conversations like "What would you love for me right now?" to share sexual agency.