Healthy Parenting Handbook with Katie Kimball 004: Why Consequences (or Rewards) Aren’t the Goal of Discipline with Positive Parenting Solutions' Amy McCready
Jan 16, 2024
Amy McCready, a positive parenting expert and founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, shares her transformative insights into discipline. She reveals why consequences often fail and highlights the pitfalls of relying on rewards, which can hinder intrinsic motivation. Listeners learn practical phrases to foster ownership in children and discover the benefits of involving kids in cooking to enhance their skills. Additionally, Amy tackles common parenting mistakes, promoting consistency and kindness in discipline while encouraging a positive mindset shift with the phrase 'I get to'.
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From Yelling To Positive Parenting
- Amy McCready describes being a 'recovering yeller' who changed parenting after realizing yelling hurt her relationship with her kids.
- Her personal transformation led her to research and build Positive Parenting Solutions over many years.
Skip External Rewards For Motivation
- Avoid using external rewards to motivate routine behaviors because they undermine internal motivation.
- Use a full toolbox of strategies so you don't rely on rewards that foster entitlement and power struggles.
Rewards Raise Perceived Difficulty
- Rewards signal that a task is hard or that the parent doubts the child's ability, which increases resistance.
- That perception raises stress and encourages expecting compensation for future difficult tasks.
