#32: Why Trying Too Hard Is Subconsciously Making You Fall Behind

If you have been grinding and hustling but still feel empty or misaligned, the problem is not your effort. The problem is that your effort is running on an insecurity loop you picked up long before you started chasing success.William Lam, host of Brokers of Secrets, discusses the NLP-rooted pattern behind "trying too hard," tracing it from childhood scarcity and emotional programming to adult hustle culture, material compensation, and people pleasing.

William Covers how undeserving programming causes you to design a life based on what you think you should want rather than what you actually want, and why that incongruence is the real reason you feel stuck. This episode is for entrepreneurs and professionals who sense they have been building something that was never really theirs.

(00:00) Introduction

(03:03) Trying Too Hard as a Deserving Problem

(04:29) The Insecurity Behind What You Buy

(06:28) Why Trying Too Hard Limits Potential

(07:44) Design What You Want, Not What You Should

(09:16) People Pleasing and Conformity Traps

(12:08) The Wake Up Call

(15:00) What Would You Do Without Insecurity

William said trying too hard is really about not feeling deserving. Comment below: what are you chasing that you might not even want?

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