Dating Intentionally 234. "His Best Friend Is A Woman. Is That A Red Flag?"
Feb 3, 2026
They dig into jealousy over cross-gender friendships and when that feeling is a personal issue versus a real red flag. A personal story about working through unease with a long-term friend is shared. Practical steps like self-reflection, separating feelings from facts, and how to raise the topic constructively are covered. They also list warning signs and discuss a romantic dilemma about pursuing someone already taken.
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Platonic Friendships As A Green Flag
- Having same-gender friends is a green flag that shows respect and emotional maturity.
- Talia argues friendships with women indicate a man can treat women as people, not objects.
Personal Jealousy And The Heads-Up Boundary
- Talia felt uneasy when her husband Johnny's longtime female friend started hanging out more after they moved in together.
- She processed her insecurity, set the expectation of a heads-up, and grew to trust the friendship after getting to know the friend.
Process Jealousy Before Bringing It Up
- Do the inner work first: figure out which feelings are yours versus facts about your partner.
- Self-soothe, journal, or see therapy before raising every flicker of jealousy with your partner.
