The JOY Broadcast You can't 'regulate' your way to JOY
In this week's Joy Broadcast , Ali talks through two phrases you hear absolutely everywhere in the wellness world. Two phrases that most people don’t truly understand, including the difference between them. In this episode, Ali makes that distinction clear. Plus why 'Regulating' is the wrong word in both cases and what you can do and say instead.
In This Episode
- Why ‘regulation’ is the wrong word and why it matters
- Your nervous system: what it actually is, how it works, and why it’s prehistoric by design
- The sympathetic and parasympathetic states and why we need both
- The real reason so many high-performing women can’t lose weight (hint: it’s not what you’re eating)
- Your emotional system: the ocean inside you, and how the mind makes sense of it
- Why you can be emotionally intelligent and still absolutely exhausted
- Body first, then brain, the sequence that changes everything
- How to work out which system needs your attention right now
The Key Insight
Your nervous system is your physiology, the body, the container. Your emotional system is your psychology, the ocean of feelings held within that container. Most women are working hard on one and bypassing the other entirely. And if your nervous system is stuck in a stress response, your prefrontal cortex has gone offline, which means all the therapy, mindfulness, and emotional intelligence in the world can’t land properly.
Body first. Then the brain. The container, then the ocean.
“We aren’t heating systems with knobs. We are oceans. And you cannot calm an entire ocean with a knob.”
Links & Next Steps
→ Download the Joy List — free in the Joy Emporium
→ Join The Joy Rebellion (membership, £222/year): Joy Rebellion
→ Brilliance private one-to-one mentorship with Ali: Work with me
→ Email Ali: ali@alimortimer.com
If you’re not sure which system needs attention right now, the body or the emotional ocean, start with the Joy List & the Daily Dose (number one in the Joy Emporium for free) . It works on both. And if you want to go deeper with personalised support, come and find me inside The Joy Rebellion or drop me an email.
Lots of love, Ali xo 🌹