110. How To Stop Avoiding Confrontation

In this episode, we dive into a common struggle many professionals face - avoiding confrontation. If you've ever caught yourself saying, "I hate confrontation," or find yourself consistently sidestepping tough conversations, this episode is for you. We explore what you’re really avoiding when you shy away from confrontation, why you might be doing it, and most importantly, how to stop.

Key Points Covered:

1. Understanding What You’re Avoiding:

   • We explore the underlying fears and concerns that lead to avoiding confrontation.
   • Consideration of what confrontation means to you and what you gain or avoid by not engaging in it.

2. The Opposite of ‘Avoid’:

   • What you have to go towards; resolution, discomfort, pursuing the right action, the part of you that wants to shy away, and someone's honest response.

3. Coaching Questions to Reflect On:

   • What's happening now? Identify your current behavior and avoidance patterns.
   • Why is it a problem? Understand the impact of avoidance on your life and work.
   • What happens if you don't change? Consider the long-term consequences of continuing to avoid confrontation.
   • What would you like to have happen? Define your desired outcome in dealing with confrontation.
   • What's your plan? Commit to specific actions to address confrontation.