Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction If They Really Knew Who I Am, They Would Leave Me
Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question on whether you can become "cured" of narcissism. Narcissism is very common among addicts, especially early in recovery. It's important to note that there is a path forward to becoming a more empathic person, but there is a specific process to work through to achieve it. In this week's episode, Dr. Rob and Tami explain that narcissism is often born from deep insecurity and offer important reasons why you should stay sober.
TAKEAWAYS:
[:30] I think I'm working with a narcissist. Is there a cure?
[4:00] You have to pose questions to them and be curious instead of directly challenging them.
[8:20] Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?
[11:10] Under every narcissist there is a very insecure person who is afraid of being abandoned.
[13:10] Are same-sex betrayals different from heterosexual betrayals?
[18:20] Empathy takes a lot of practice for addicts.
[24:45] My SA is stuck on step three and he doesn't understand why I'm still upset. Can you please explain to him my anger?
[30:35] Dr. Rob doesn't believe your partner is truly sober.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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