Conversations with Dr. Jennifer We Need to Talk About Pornography
Oct 14, 2025
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a clinical psychologist specializing in sexuality and relationships, joins Lauren Yarrow to tackle the often taboo topic of pornography. They discuss how fear-based teachings contribute to sexual shame and conflict in relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife emphasizes that pornography is a symptom of deeper issues rather than a sole cause of problems. She advocates for open discussions about desire and offers insights on how to respond to children and partners regarding porn use, ultimately promoting honesty and intimacy.
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Normalize Desire While Teaching Choices
- Normalize sexual desire with children while teaching that choices matter.
- Use the idea of wanting a meaningful life as the motivator rather than shame or fear.
Labels Shape Solutions And Agency
- Labels like "addiction" shape the chosen solutions and can reduce agency.
- Framing compulsion instead helps illuminate patterns and restore personal responsibility.
Talk To The Part Of You That Seeks Porn
- Examine the part of you that wants porn and ask what need it fills.
- Name the costs and decide whether that short-term comfort is worth the long-term price.
