Pure Desire Podcast 294 - FAQ #15 - Marriage
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Feb 21, 2023 Ashley Jameson, Associate Director of Women's Groups at Pure Desire, dives into the complexities of marriage and betrayal trauma. She discusses when to resume intimacy post-disclosure, emphasizing readiness and safety. The conversation highlights how to navigate boundary changes, rebuild attraction, and cope with recurring relapses, especially around the five-year mark. Additionally, Ashley offers insights on handling triggers and the importance of communication for emotional connection, all while fostering a nurturing environment in relationships.
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Negotiate Boundaries With A Plan And Trials
- When renegotiating boundaries, present a plan and parameters before stretching them.
- Involve a counselor or trusted friends and set trials (e.g., 30 days) to evaluate safety.
Gym Banned Then Reintroduced With Rules
- Ashley removed gym access for three years because it triggered relapse risks and later reintroduced it with agreed parameters.
- John agreed to communication rules and behavior limits before resuming gym visits.
Ask Curious Questions Before Challenging Limits
- Ask curious questions: Why is this boundary helpful and what are you feeling now?
- Offer temporary changes or staged steps instead of demanding full removal of boundaries.
