Fixing The Avoidant Man Part 1

Nov 22, 2024

Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media, a high-achieving leader wrestling with avoidant attachment. He discusses the emotional cost of leadership, guilt and self-worth, dissociation and burnout, how faith and delegation interact with vulnerability, and practical steps for building trust and rest to restore connection.

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ANECDOTE

Vineyard Fantasy Shows Why He Keeps Grinding

Andrey describes fantasizing about selling everything to buy a vineyard and live simply, but chooses to stay because he feels responsibility to his team.
He frames his continued grind as honor and duty rather than personal desire for rest.

INSIGHT

Two Days With Family Returns Big Productivity

Short restorative breaks with loved ones yield outsized productivity gains for Andrey.
He reports losing two social days then gaining roughly 50% higher productivity for the following two weeks.

ADVICE

Treat Family Rest As A Strategic Productivity Investment

Prioritize short, high-quality family time as a productivity investment, not indulgence; schedule rest to boost subsequent output.
Adam and Andrey give concrete examples of better content and growth following deliberate downtime.

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🎙️ In this revealing episode of "I Wish You Knew," Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, and Andrey Korikov, a high-achieving CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media, dive deep into the hidden struggles of avoidant attachment, guilt, and self-worth among high performers.

Adam guides Andrey through the deep, uncomfortable realities of living with avoidant attachment as a leader and the hidden emotional costs that come with high achievement. Andrey bravely opens up about the relentless guilt and inability to feel proud of his accomplishments, a common struggle among avoidant high-achievers.

This episode isn’t just a coaching session; it’s a powerful look at the sacrifices high-achieving avoidants make and an invitation for anyone seeking genuine connection to step out of avoidance and into a more fulfilling way of life.

✨ Key Highlights You Can’t Miss ✨:

👉 Why high-achieving avoidants feel trapped in their own success, and the silent guilt they carry.

👉 How Andrey’s relentless drive as a CEO is impacting his relationships, and why he can’t stop.

👉 The real cost of avoidant attachment: How trying to “protect” loved ones can lead to losing them or scaring them.

👉 How dissociating to stay strong can backfire, leading to burnout, detachment, and early death.

👉 The unexpected impact of emotional vulnerability and secure attachment in business, and why it matters in the workplace.

Get ready for raw truths and powerful insights on how avoidant attachment can shape, and sometimes sabotage, the lives of high achievers. 🎧

If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode where The Attachment Specialist Helps Avoidant Man Face Trust Issues LIVE:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfPgVg08E-E

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