The Catholic Coaching Podcast 26. When Beliefs Cease Serving their Purpose
Jan 14, 2021
A conversation about how repeated thoughts shape your inner life and when attractive beliefs start producing harmful outcomes. They explore how ‘should’ thinking creates resentment and self-righteousness. Practical signs that beliefs keep you stuck are highlighted. Reason, prayer, and imagination are offered as paths to examine and change the beliefs that guide your emotions and actions.
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Beliefs Drive Emotional Trajectories
- Beliefs are thoughts you keep thinking and accepting as true, and they steer emotions and actions in predictable trajectories.
- Erin and Matt show that pretty beliefs can produce rotten fruits, like shame leading to disconnection in marriage.
I Don't Want To Hurt My Wife Caused Shame
- Matt recounts a client who repeated I don't want to hurt my wife but that belief produced shame and emotional withdrawal instead of closeness.
- The thought looked good but led the client to disconnect and behave in ways that harmed the relationship.
Protecting Your Spouse Became Manipulation
- Erin and Matt share their own story: believing I need to protect my spouse made them lie or dodge truth to prevent the other's hurt.
- That protective belief became manipulation to control the spouse's feelings and their self-image.
