#63 The Wheel of Consent (with Dr. Betty Martin)

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Betty Martin. Betty has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice, as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator. Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.” Originally developed as an offering to teach much-needed consent skills to sex workers and touch providers, this training is now attended by somatic therapists, massage therapists, sexuality educators, medical and health care workers, activists, human resources folks and the spectrum of touch-based professional providers – all of whom complete the training with a clear understanding of how consent starts with our own bodies, and then expands outwards into all forms of human relating, with or without touch. Betty and I talk about her amazing touch- and communication-based framework - The Wheel of Consent® - as well as discuss some specifics of the framework as it relates to men.

Key Points:

- Betty shares about her career

- The inception of The Wheel of Consent

- Giving/Receiving and Doing/Done-To

- The four quadrants

- The 3 Minute Game

- Learning how to take pleasure

- You can’t make someone surrender

- Practical advice for men using The Wheel

Relevant links:

Betty’s website: bettymartin.org

The Wheel of Consent website: wheelofconsentbook.com

The Wheel of Consent Instagram: @thewheelofconsent