Discover why seeking out offense can fuel your anger. Instead of letting every slight get under your skin, learn to cultivate peace by ignoring minor provocations. Embrace the wisdom of Seneca and RBG, who suggest that sometimes, being a little deaf can lead to a happier life. Find out how asking fewer questions and forgiving more can help you reduce conflict and embrace a calm mindset.
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Reduce Anger
To reduce anger, stop actively seeking things to be upset about.
Limit your consumption of news and social media, and avoid gossiping.
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Selective Hearing
Apply selective hearing in relationships, much like Ruth Bader Ginsburg's marriage advice.
Overlooking minor issues can contribute to a more harmonious partnership.
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The best way to make sure you are always offended and upset is to be on the lookout for things to be offended by and upset about. The sharper your ears and eyes, the larger your dragnet for information, the more likely you are to find something that pisses you off.
And yet this is what most of us do: We have Google Alerts for our names or our businesses. We check our @mentions on Twitter. We ask our friends, “Oh really, what does so-and-so say about me when I’m not around?” We’re like water-diviners with our ability to read tone and body language, able to sense even the slightest sign that we should dig into something. Of course we’re going to be angry! How could we not be?
“It is not to your benefit to see and hear everything. Many injuries ought to pass over us; if you ignore them, you get no more injury from them. You want to be less angry? Ask fewer questions.”
He would have liked the piece of marriage advice that Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg has always held close: "In every good marriage, it helps sometimes to be a little deaf." Because true in marriage, true in life: If you want to have less conflict, ask for it less. Forgive more. Stop trying to listen for things you don’t want to hear.
The Daily Stoic