Chloé Hayden Knows the Cost of Being the Autistic Woman Everyone Looks To

For most of her childhood, Chloé Hayden felt like she didn’t belong.

She was bullied at school, moved through ten different schools and struggled to exist in environments that didn’t understand her. When she was diagnosed as autistic at thirteen, there were almost no conversations about neurodivergence and no one she could look to who felt like her.

Today, she has become that person for millions of others.

Through her role as Quinni in Netflix’s Heartbreak High and her advocacy online, Chloé has become one of the most visible autistic women in the world.

But becoming a voice for others comes with its own cost.

In this conversation with Kate Langbroek, Chloé opens up about the pressure of representation, the emotional toll of advocacy and what it means to build a life that belongs to her, not just the movement she helped create.

Heartbreak High Season 3 premieres globally on March 25, 2026 on Netflix.

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CREDITS:

Guest: Chloe Hayden

Host: Kate Langbroek

Group Executive Producer: Naima Brown

Executive Producer: Bree Player

Assistant Producer: Coco Lavigne

Audio Producer: Jacob Round

Video Producer: Josh Green

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