The Science of Happiness

The Science of Love (Episode 2)

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Feb 12, 2026
Julie Gottman, clinical psychologist and co-founder of The Gottman Institute, shares simple habits like 10-minute daily check-ins and noticing bids for connection. Justin Garcia, evolutionary biologist and sex researcher, explores the roots of monogamy, differences between sexual and social monogamy, and how love and sex interact. They discuss practical strategies, evolutionary tensions, and why small moments matter.
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ADVICE

Keep A Real Date Night

  • Schedule real date nights where you avoid to-do lists and focus on connection.
  • Couples who keep regular dates report better sex life, romance, and passion.
INSIGHT

Sex Frequency Is Personal

  • The right frequency of sex is the amount that feels good and right for a couple, not a prescriptive number.
  • Tensions arise from balancing desires for safety and the novelty sexual activity provides.
INSIGHT

Monogamy Has Two Faces

  • Social monogamy (bonding) and sexual monogamy (fidelity) are distinct and can pull in different directions.
  • This tension is common across the animal kingdom and helps explain human relationship diversity.
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