Solo – The Single Person’s Guide to a Remarkable Life Intimacy Design
Oct 23, 2025
Lisa Dawn Hamilton, a sex educator and psychology professor, joins Peter McGraw to explore the innovative concept of Intimacy Design. They delve into the importance of co-creating authentic sexual experiences and discuss using strategies like yes/no/maybe lists to clarify desires. Hamilton emphasizes the need for open dialogue around sexual health and consent, debunking myths about spontaneity by advocating for planned intimacy. They also share practical advice for navigating difficult conversations and normalizing discussions about sexual preferences, enhancing both safety and pleasure.
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Redefine Sex Broadly
- Broaden 'sex' to include physical and digital touch that brings pleasure, not only penetration.
- Expanding intimacy increases options after medical changes or life shifts.
Get Better By Practicing And Giving
- Treat sexual skill like any other skill: read, take classes, and ask for feedback.
- Prioritize reciprocity: aim to give pleasure as well as receive it.
Create A Shared Sexual Container
- Create a sexual 'container' together by agreeing on boundaries, health status, and expectations.
- Use conversation to establish safety, transparency, and mutual comfort before intimacy.
