After Skool How Early Separation from Mom Causes Permanent Personality Changes - Erica Komisar | After Skool
Feb 5, 2026
Erica Komisar, psychotherapist and author focused on parenting and attachment, speaks about maternal presence in the first three years and its lasting impact. She explores how early separation shapes the developing right brain. She discusses stress, trust, attachment styles, cultural caregiving practices, and the lifelong effects on personality and relationships.
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First Three Years Shape Social-Emotional Brain
- The first three years form a critical period shaping the right/social-emotional brain and future relationships.
- Early physical and emotional presence of the primary attachment figure builds emotional regulation and trust.
Early Separation Raises Stress And Rewires Brain
- Early separation and reduced mothering increase stress exposure and cortisol in babies' brains.
- This elevated stress alters developing structures like the amygdala and changes long-term stress regulation.
Prioritize Close Presence To Buffer Stress
- Buffer babies from stress by providing close, consistent physical and emotional presence in the first year.
- Avoid early, frequent separations like long daycare exposure that increase cortisol and disrupt development.